What are the pros and cons of siblings sharing a room?
Some parents have no choice but to have siblings share a room, while others choose room-sharing think it will form a closer bond between their children. What do you think the upsides and downsides of siblings sharing a room are?
I think if you have the space, let each kid have their own room. My boys share because our house is small. They are very close in age (26 months apart) and fight a lot, but they love sharing a room. A few weeks ago, when the fighting got very bad, I separated them for a few days. I put the younger one in my room and let the older one have his own room for a break. He told me it was the worst punishment and cried for an hour the first night. Go figure!
My 5 & 3 yo share a room... I have told my 5 yo he will be getting his own room but he insists on staying with his sister. They are buddies and usually play well. I figure let them stay together as long as they want to.
My kids have their own rooms and sleep together anyway! They actually have 3 bedrooms between them and just pick a room to sleep in each night!
When my daughter was born, we lived in a tiny house and she had to share a bedroom with her older brother. My son, bless his heart, ended up sleeping on the couch for a year, until we could add an extra room for him, because he was in 1st grade and needed his sleep. I laugh now, because there were times when his little sister would stand up and toss toys at him, until he woke up, or scream at the top of her lungs, but at the time, it wasn't funny. Growing up, I shared a room with my sister. She was lil miss suzi homemaker, and me? Well I was the one who collected things like rocks and empty bird nests, etc. There were lots of fights, but in the end...I remember being petrified of thunderstorms, and no matter what took place during the day, my sis was there to hold me tight and get me thru those storms. If they are close in age, I say let them spend time together. If they aren't, then do what you can to give the older one some privacy, even if it's a make shift blanket hung between them.
As a military family, my girls have done both over the years depending on the house we lived in, as well as their ages at the time. when my oldest was in kindergarten she got her own room... for example. today they are 13 and 10 and forced to share a small room, which i hate. my girls are extremely close and each others best friend but sharing a room means they dont get dressed in their own room for school due to getting up over an hour apart. and my oldest has to have the same bedtime to avoid fighting <luckily shes one who needs the extra sleep>. it really depends on the kids personalities and ages. there were times i had them share a room just so they would have a playroom in the house, which i could ground them from if they didnt follow the rules..... hope this helps.
I'm the 5th of 6 girls, twins 5 years older, twins 2 years older and sister 4,5 years younger. The eldest twins shared a room, so did the second set of twins and me and the youngest also shared a room. I HATED it with a passion. I considered myself too old to be sharing with my baby sister, regardless of our ages! We fought so much and I always considered her to be the spoilt brat, getting away with so many things! I liked my room tidy and in order, where she couldn't give a damn, and to this day (both around 50) it still is like that. I HATE untidyness, she couldn't care at all, never cleaned up and still doesn't, so even today we can't share easily! In fact, I find it extremely difficult to share with anyone, apart from my own household! I want things a certain way and get extremely annoyed when I get to a cupbourd or room and it's untidy or not the way I left it or want it. I guess I'm just lazy, not wanting to do extra work, wasting time looking for something that's not in it's right place, and I don't like falling over things because it's not in the right place. So I think although it can teach you to be tolerant, to share, be considerate, a lot depends on the gender, age, personality and it doesn't necessarily mean that you can't share something with someone else, maybe just not everything, regardless of whether you shared a room or not. Personally I would not want 2 genders to share a room, regardless of age, . Imo we all need our own space and privacy and that you don't get when sharing a room, and besides there are other ways to teach kids how to share, be tolerant, considerate, etc.
I have two girls that are 3.5 years apart in age. We have two extra rooms and each girl could have her own room but they share both rooms. One room is used as a bedroom only and the other room is used as a playroom. It seems to work well and helps with bonding (they are very close) but it is really difficult when it comes to cleanup for sure. :)
My 2 oldest sons have shared a room since they were little. They love it. They get to play together, share their toys, and know which drawers are theirs and help put their clothes up. They even like having a bunk bed in their room. They are best friends almost. But there is a down fall to them sharing their room, if 1 gets in trouble and they lose their TV they both suffer instead of just 1.
I have 3 kids and only 2 bedrooms for them, so they have to share by necessity. After my youngest was born, she stayed in my oldest daughter's room and my oldest daughter slept in my son's room on a loft bed. When my youngest was old enough for a regular bed (and my oldest wanted her privacy), we switched the girls. My son is now 8 and so far doesn't mind having his little sister sleep in his room. Her toys are another matter ;) Most of both girls things are in my oldest's room. Eventually we may have to move the girls into one room, but so far it's working OK.
Deffinately formed a closer bond between my two boys, only one room to clear up rather than two, they build dens in there together and actually want to go to there room when sent. The down side would have to be they dont always fall asleep at the same time so the 2yr old will wake up the 4 yr old. We solved this by putting them to bed at different times. I think it is a great idea and I know I would have had a closer bond with my siblings had we been encouraged to share a room, I am so pleased to be able to give this choice to them now. VB
I don't have children, but I shared a room with my younger sister for 18 years and hated it most of the time. We are only 18 months apart and fought like cats and dogs. We still argue if we're together too long.
The only time I appreciated sharing a room was when was ten years old and our mom was diagnosed with leukemia. For the two months she was in the hospital, my sister and I slept in our parents' bed while our dad slept in the living room. I valued comforting my sister when she was upset about our mom.
If you have the space, let your children keep their own rooms. In Indiana, it is illegal for siblings of the opposite sex over the age of five to share a room, but I understand if you can't afford the space.
One last piece of advice: If you can plan it, wait to have a second child until the older one is at least three years old. It will help immensely.
Sharing is important in one's life...but if there is space and they desire to have separate rooms then so be it but if not then sharing should not bring harm but more positives in the long run......cleaning and the weight in keeping the room clean is an issue you cant't escape..
It depends a lot on the size of your house and the ages and sex of the children. Once they are school age, I don't think boys and girls should have the same rooms. Sometimes, if bedrooms are in short supply and the house is small, the family benefits from the sharing of bedrooms by children in order to use one room as a den or TV room. The entire family can gather there, playing games, etc. If children share a room, it is still important that each get a place that is just THEIR space - this might not be any more than a couple of shelves on the wall over each bed. Anything on the shelves (collections, favorite books, etc) is off limits to others. When the bedroom is shared, it is mostly used for sleeping, and the playing is done in the family space which is better for family bonding anyway.
I have 3 kids and they all have their own room always have. Made for easier bedtimes to.
I would like to point out that most families through the ages have "forced" children to share rooms because that's the way it worked.
I grew up in a family of 7. I'm #2 and my sister is #7. I've shared a room with all of my siblings. I was 10 when my sister was born and we shared a room until I was 19 (my brother moved out and I got his room). I always shared a room with the "baby". My youngest brother was my favorite to share with because he was so sweet.
My parents spent a lot of time moving the boys around. The oldest was just a pill to share a room with. They read "The Color Code" by Taylor Hartman and it was the last time they had to move the boys. Brother 1 got his own room. Brothers 2 and 3 shared, as did 4 and 5. Serious drop in quarreling.
My 2 daughters share a room and when Brother comes, he will have his own room (unless we have another boy). The girls are 20 months apart and have been sharing for almost 2 years. They fight over their respective toys, space, and everything. They also love to help each other. They even bring toys, shoes, clothes, blankets to each other (even if the other sister gets annoyed).
Just remember the kids are individuals. Sharing a room won't change that. If they need a little quiet time, help the roommate respect that. Why not help your kids learn that before college/marriage/co-habitation or whatever?
I hated sharing a room with my sister, but that was only because she was filthy and sloppy and never cleaned and I was a clean freak. We were also 5 years apart. I was so happy she was out of the house by the time I was in Middle school.
I think it just depends on the siblings. Some get along great and can share and others it is really hard.
My daughter is 10 and son is almost 8 but they are great friends because of sharing a room since my son was 2. They actually have always had their own rooms but we actually had to get a bunk bed because they like to sleep in the same room. Bad thing is they always wake eachother up when they need to pee or get up too early and the other ends up with not enough sleep. I put a rule down and said if you two want to sleep in the same room then no waking eachother up!
My oldest is 14 so he has his own room. My other two are 4 and 3 and they share a room.
They get comfort by having each other in the room but the con is that one will not go to sleep without the other.
I have three girls. Since the beginning the twins have shared a room. My older daughter is only 13 mos older. Over the years she has had her own room and shared a room with her sisters. Currently we have enough rooms for bedrooms and a playroom. When we moved here we we let them choose what to do as far as room arrangements. They choose to share a room (they are 7 and 8 now). It may not last forever, but for now it works for everyone.
Mine share right now, but it's b/c our house is small. They are 3 years and 10 months, both boys. The one thing that sucks is when one of them wakes up crying, b/c of a nightmare, needs a drink, fell out of bed, wet the bed, is sick, etc. then both of them are awake. You might be able to take care of an issue and get that child back to sleep, but then both of them are awake and now you have two issues instead of one... If we had more room, they would definitely be in separate rooms.
-it will form a closer bond between the kids
-the elder would at least learn to be responsible for the younger
-the younger would learn how to respect the elder
-they would learn how to watch for each other especially if their parents are not around
-they would learn to be responsible for each other
-as i told my husband, i want my two boys to share room until they grow old to build bond. i'd rather have them as partners-in-crime than for them to grow apart because of their 8year age gap. [same thing happened with him and his brother]
-it's overwhelming to evesdrop when they talk to each other before going to sleep or when they wake up in the morning, when they share their stories with each other, it's good for them.
-plus it's economical: you will only turn on 1 AC and one lamp. you get to clean only one room [but twice the mess. lol]
-i don't know yet
my kids do not sleep in their own room in my current house. they had their own room in the previous house. both are used to sleeping in the same room but not next to each other...they will fight if they do. i used to share room with my sister and that didn't work out - personality differences. i shared room with my brother instead and we shared until age 10 or 11 - when my brother decided he was too old to share with me. it was hard at first but we both got used to being alone in the end. we had our own rooms to "change" clothes and have privacy when we want but at night we liked to sleep in the same room - him on the floor and me on the bed as a comfort thing. at that time we were very close and he taught me to play sports, climb trees...