What are typical chores for boys?
Teaching boys responsibility through chores can be a great learning experience. What are some good chores appropriate for boys?
The first thing that occurred to me is: why should "boy" chores be different from "girl" chores? Right now my 3-year old is expected to help pick up his toys. As he gets older, we'll add taking out the trash, setting the table, helping with cooking and laundry, helping with lawn care, and whatever else I can think of. I don't plan to keep him just to traditional "male" jobs--someday when he's out on his own, I figure knowing how to cook and do laundry will be just as helpful as mowing the lawn and taking out the trash!
1. set table, clean table
2. help mowing lawn
3. wash cars
4. keep room tidy
5. bring laundry to laundry room
6. help with dishes
7. walk and feed the dog
8. take out trash
9. fix small problems around the house (mine actually put in a new door lock for me) - he is 14 though.
I make him do his chores before he is allowed to do anything else like playing videogames, meeting up with friends etc. This assures they get done!!!
All of them.
Seriously, if it's something you have to do to maintain a healthy/clean house, it doesn't matter if you are a boy or a girl, you need to learn to do it. The best time to start is as soon as they are old enough to understand it and do it safely. This may mean splitting things like laundry up into several "levels". Level one is pressing "the Button" (a toddler can do this), level 2 sorting and tossing in clothes, level 3 you get to set the dials, level 4 (much older) getting to pour the soap.
If you let them grow without ever having to do a chore, and then suddenly try to make them start doing it when they are pre-teens or teenagers, you're going to be in for a rough time. They didn't have to do them before? Why now? It feels like a punishment almost. Double bad timing when you are hitting the age where they start to naturally question authority.
My son is 7, he...
-can help load/unload the dishwasher
-wipe down counter tops and other "windex" objects (like mirrors and appliances)
-fold and put away his own laundry
-clean his room
He doesn't do all of these everyday (except clean his room), but pitches in with the rest of us when it's time to clean up the house a bit.
After all, he lives here too.
After 8 weeks with assorted grandkids, I believe the best thing we can teach children is a mentality of taking care of themselves and looking for things to do to help others. This is a mental thing rather than physical--you can't put it on a chart. I'm trying to help my children by standing back and waiting for them (grandkids) to open doors for others, leaving small things undone so they can do them, etc. I'm encouraging them to look for ways to help, be aware that I'm struggling with the groceries or vacuum cleaner and lend a hand. Look for things that need to be done and do them without my asking. I don't think my house is the place for "chores" as such but rather "how can I help grandma and grandpa."
I have two boys ages 6 and 5. They both make their beds in the morning, Open up the curtains, clean up after breakfast including putting dishes in the sink/dishwasher and cleaning off he table and floor if anything was spilled. Which , lets face it - there always is. They also vacuum their rooms, and clean their bathroom. The put away the clothes I fold and get stuff out of the dryer for me to fold. They also pick up toys at the end of the day too.
the same one you would give to girls, dishes, trash, vacuuming, laundry etc.
Our grandchidren ages 11 and 14. _nload the dishwasher. They know how to wash their clothes. If. THey have too. One takes care of his pets And the other helps take care of the three year granddaughter sometimes. I think it is also important they learn how to cook and do things in the kitchen. Things happen. And it is good for them to know these things. And they are very proud of themselves whEn they cook something.
There are no "typical" chores for boys or girls. There are responsibilites that should be taught to children. Boys should do the same chores as the girls.
Both of my boys... now grown men learned to cook and do laundry. I don't think there should be "typical chores for boys". Both of my sons are now great cooks and do the majority of the cooking for their household. My daughter-n-laws thank me.....
My son is 9...
Cleans his bathroom and the guest bathroom
Dust and vaccums his room and the play room
Sweeps and mops the bathroom floors
Does his laundry
Takes the trash out
Feeds the dog
Doesn't matter if you are a boy or girl...chores are chores and EVERYONE should pitch in and help!!!
Same as for girls....anything within their capabilities. My girls learned to change oil, check fluids and etc. on their cars, plus use basic hand tools to make repairs or hang a shelf, etc. My boys could hem pants, sew on a button, cook....
Life has the same needs for both sexes. Help make them self-sufficient!
My boys and girls had the same chores. They learned how to cook and clean, mow the yard and clean up dog poo, sew on a button and wash their clothes. The way I see it is to teach them how to survive as adults on their own. They may or may not choose to get married, but they will be able to think and act for themselves. I don't understand why there should be a difference. I personally can set a table or filet a fish.
Chores are all the same for boys and girls in my household,Dishes, garbage, bathroom, bedrooms, laundry....All the same. We don't push our daughter to take out heavy garbage, or rake leaves, but for the most part, its all the same.
My son is five and his daily chores are:
1. Filling the dog's water dish
2. Taking out the recycling
3. Putting the mail where it goes.
I feel I need to find more for him to do, as he is an active little boy and keeping him busy keeps him out of trouble. He also likes to help with cooking sometimes.
Wow, love the answers here....When my Dad (would have been 99 this year) was 9 yrs old, he wasn't at school-when the truancy officer came to the door, she found my Dad wearing an apron with a dish cloth in his hands...LOL. She asked why he wasn't at school and he invited her in and told her he had to care for the boarders while his parents were away in Buffalo for a family funeral. (never mind being in a different city-they were in a different country) He asked if she would like a cup of tea and a fresh biscuit he had just taken out of the oven....she went back to the school and reported they were the best cup of tea/fresh biscuit she had ever tasted.
That said, obviously we can't be leaving our kids (especially at that age) to care for a home/boarders.
I did my son a disservice by holding him back from certain chores (cooking-b/c its too dangerous) laundry (b/c he might mix the wrong clothing/colors etc)
Getting him to do any chore around the house is a bigger chore for us now--we hear excuses --that is too hard and dangerous -cutting the lawn etc.
Do yourself a favour and as all these ladies have suggested start them early with all chores...whether you think they are girl or boy chores or not.
My son is 15 and it is hard to get him to clean his room (thats his space so I pick that battle careflully)
He also likes to leave stuff around the house-sadly we all do it...I suffered from severe depression for 3 years after losing my Dad and couldn't tackle many organizing chores around the house--and I didn't make our son either--big mistake in thought process there--how can we make him do something that we're not doing.
I try to enlist my sons help now as I am working outside the home--he is starting to help but I have to really step on him sometimes and take away tv/comp/video games.
We have 8 children ranging from 4-25. My 2 older boys that are grown now. They learned to do every chore that there is pertaining to taking care of a house. My goal was that when they grew up I didn't want them to have to rely on a woman to do these things for them. and maybe one day my daughter in laws would appreciate it. In which they do. and it has made their relationship easier. As for my younger ones we do chores here as a family. After dinner everyone is assigned a chore and we all in the kitchen doing them at the same time another great way to spend time together. We try to do all the chores that way. We go to bed every nite with the house cleaned and ready for the next day and it only takes around 20 minutes a nite.
The typical chores that are for girls also. part of parenting is teaching our kids how to look after themselves so when they go off to school, or leave home for their first job, or just need to look after mum or dad and younger sibs while mum and or dad are down with the flu.
So how to wash dishes, clothes, bathrooms (including toilets!) sweep and mop a floor, wash windows, vacuum, dust. pick up the floor, make their beds change the sheets, wash the sheets. how to peel the veggies, or fry or broil a burger or steak, boil and egg,
The Main thing is that a chore be age appropriate NOT sex appropriate, So your toddlers can help sort their clothes from the laundry pile, or take them up to put in there drawer or on their shelf, three year olds can be taught how to pull the sheets straight, it may not be neat with hospital corners but the habit will begin the work towards a neat and tidy bed.
a five year old can help unload clean dishes and load dirty ones with some help from mom or dad or an older sibling. clearing the table and wiping it down can be handled by a six year old and handwashing plates and smaller pots for a seven and up so too sweeping floors. and vacuuming.
All children below the age of twelve should be working with a parent or older sibling to show how good working together to accomplish a goal is satisfying, put on so bright happy music and work together as a family. by ten years old kids can help rake the lawn while basic safety measures are taught around the lawn mower, or other power garden tools like weed eaters, so that safety becomes automatic in thought. by the time your children are 12 to 16 they should be capable of cutting the grass with minimal supervision for safety. The chores of daily living are non sexist and should be taught as such, later kids will among themselves choose chores by preference. ie. I liked doing laundry but hated dishes, so hubby did dishes, He mowed lawns but I preferred raking, with my kids it was the other way around, the boys raked the girls mowed. the girls did laundry but the boys cooked supper, the girls baked, and emptied dishwashers, the boys hung laundry out, and the girls took turns vacuuming but as my girls left home my boys became more competent at the things they previously didn't do because the girls considered them theirs, All 5 of my kids mastered their laundry, basic meals, bed making etc before they went off to college and university, most of them spent the first couple of weeks teaching their friends what they themselves already mastered.
My son would pick a neighbor and mow, edge and weed eat their yard. At home boys and girls a like washed clothes, dishes, vacuumed and did yard work. We all cooked together and would go to our neighborhood park and clean it up after playing there. Rule of thumb is ,"Leave it better than you found it."
I have raised 3 sons..all in their 20's now. Chores shouldn't be "boy" or "girl" My son's helped with all household chores. Whether it be cleaning, mowing lawn, doing dishes, laundry, cooking,taking out the trash, etc. I am proud to say that they are all three very self sufficient young men. They all cook, clean, do their own laundry and can take care of their selves.
I only have a son that is 9 and he does everything I do. Fold laundry, put up laundry, take laundry to the Laundry room. Cleans his room, makes his bed, cleans the toilet, sink, and tub/shower. He takes out the trash and sweeps/mops the floor. Wipes down lower cabinets and washes dishes. He sets the table. There should not be anything that females do that he can't do. I want him to be well rounded and not expect the female to do all the house work and he let her without helping. His couisin is 21 or 22 and he thinks women should do all the house work. He was pampered all his life and never had chores or had to pick up after himself. He was raised by his grandmother and I guess she was not the type to teach him to take care of himself and help out. He is in jail now....so if you take the time to teach your children to care for themselves it may keep them honest.
I have 3 boys ages 8, 6, and 2. My boys have alot of chores. They bring in firewood, water plants, take dirty clothes to the laundry, put their own clean clothes away, take out the garbage, their rooms must be cleaned every night before they go to bed, clean out the stalls in the barn, feed the animals, and help with the dishes. The older boys do more than my 2 yr old but in our family everybody helps out.
My husband worked nights, I ran a Home Day Care and Preschool, and he did everything I did, except change diapers (except when our 2 were little). WE had two rocking chairs, and he wouldn't hesitate to rock a cranky child or feed it, even a day care child. He's a lousy cook, but I love it, so who cares? He washes floors, bathrooms and loves folding laundry when I am busy. Our son and daughter were taught to do everything he did (except to change diapers) My son is 32 going on 33 and takes care of elderly patients and does personal care for them. He loves them and is good at this job. He will do anything his wife needs to be done at home, including wash, dishes and take care of their pets. My daughter is the same, and will take on any "Male" chores, as well. They are happy and well adjusted. Why not help them to be independent? Makes either a great spouse and helpmate.
I think this is a good question, boys should have different chores than girls at a certain age. My son is still required to do all the things his sisters do, (pick up after himself, do his own laundry, wash the dishes, etc.) but since he is stronger than the girls, we also let him take out the trash and do as much heavy work as he can. He loves it. We have found that he feels very important that he 'gets' to do extra work, and the girls are very thankful they don't have to do those things. He is 9, my older daughters are 7 and 10. His favorite chore though, is probably considered a 'girl' chore--he loves taking care of his baby sister, feeding her, playing, reading to her. He isn't too 'macho' for that!
I didnt make any chore different. they both learn what chores to do and what happens if they dont say dishes etc. boys shouldlearn what we do. they should know no chores is a he/she it is everyone responsibitity.maybe if more boys learn what we do there would be this bs about women chores...like what is that??
Depending on age of course:
Chores for younger kids:
Empty Trash In Room/Bathroom
Older Kids (all of the above and):
Take Out Trash
Wash/ Dry/And Put Away Laundry
You're kidding...right? I'm a grandmother of four and I remember mowing the lawn as a girl, helping my dad move furniture, etc. A boy is a member of the family unit and I believe cooking cleaning pet care, car washing etc are fair game for all balanced kids. They are well served boys and girls if they know how to cook use a hammer or wrench, bake a cake or lasagna, take public transportation, fix their bike, handle laundry including ironing. by the time they are 18. Remember they will go out into the same world both should be prepared.
I, too, wonder why you are specifying boy chores and girl chores. That's a setup for a husband that doesn't do his fair share around the house because it's "women's work". Don't do that to your child or his future partner in life, please!! He should help you do anything around the house that he is able to do. Let him participate a little bit in as many activities as his skills allow. My kids help with cooking, laundry, dishes, cleaning, taking care of our pets, making beds, putting things away, shopping errands, recycle and garbage duties, yard work, and all kinds of things! Even very young children can help with these things. My three year old loves a small bucket of warm, soapy water and a rag to help wipe down the cupboards. She likes to dry the dishes we do by hand. She folds the washcloths. She puts things into the recycling. Helps mix and measure things for cooking. Loves to sweep and rake with her child-sized tools. My seven-year old puts away her own clothing, loads the dishwasher, sets the table, feeds the animals, organizes her artwork and crafts, loves to cook (can make scrambled eggs by herself with supervision at the stove), and weeds the garden. I think every child is empowered by helping to care for his or her home, and it shouldn't matter if they are a boy or a girl. There will be times in their life where they are the only ones to do chores. Where will they be left if you have only taught them half of what needs to be done? My older one gets a little allowance for each day, paid on Sunday, if she completes all of her chores for each day of the week. Good luck and have fun! Your child will!
Since I have 2 older boys and 1 lil girl who is 4 years old. The boys are 9 and 12 they have more manly chores such as taking out the garage and mowing the lawn, they also have to pick up after themselves and help emptying the dishwasher. As for my daughter she has to clean up her toys, set the kitchen table, make her bed, etc. just small little chore she can do (she is very petite). The boys get upset because they each have 6 chores and she only has 4. I tried to explain the whole she is younger thing but they didn't care, so then I explained that the more chores you do the more money you get (we give them 50 cents a chore equaling $21 a week per boy and she gets 25 cents a chore which equals $5 a week. Then they agreed to it. But we also switch the boys chores each week. Such as; if one mows the front lawn this week he will mow the back lawn next week.
Most of the time they enjoy their chores!
Seriously there is nothing that my 4 boys (as is age appropriate) aren't being taught to do. They are now 1,3,4, and 6yrs old. They, again depending on the age, vacuum, clean the bathroom toilet and floor around it, (wash) dishes, empty the dishwasher as I'm putting away, put groceries away, take out the trash, put away clothes, pick up dirty clothes, trash and toys from the floor etc. My motto is if they can mess it they can clean it!
When I was a kid my brother and me took turns in doing the same chores, even though we argued about it and no doubt drove my mother nuts. As boring as chores are (and I still think they are as a mum of 3) they do teach us how to look after ourselves when we leave home. Therefore, I don't think chores should be different for boys and girls. I have 3 wonderful daughters and will not be having any more children so I don't actually have to worry about this anyway lol
I agree with others, what are 'boy chores', they eat, sleep just like girls so emptying the dishwasher or drying dishes, making beds & taking out the garbage isn't that hard. Putting away their clothes after mom/dad have washed them gives them value.
Washing the family vehicle gives them exercise and appreciation for a job well done.
Parents tell your children thank you whether the job is good or semi good when completed.
I'm speaking from a grandmothers view point and I feel I didn't get enough 'thank yous' in my childhood days.
My boys and girls shared all chores. The only things the boys did differently were if the girls couldn't lift etc (something that had to do with strength, but then my girls were pretty strong and they always said they could do anything a boy could LOL)
I have 3 sons and 3 daughters. I made a list and most of the time they had the same few chores to do. Once in a while I would mix it up and they would try other chores. All at age 7 started to help setting the table, clean up after dinner, wash dishes, or fill dishwasher, and wipe counters, stove, and appliances. Each had a night to help prepare food. When they were teenagers then they had their own night to cook. As they went into 7th grade, they became responsible for washing their own clothes (boys especially took the initiative to wash and dry their own sweaty, smelly football practice clothes which I appreciated. I worked, shopped, and prepared the majority of the meals. The boys mowed and worked on the garage and their rooms as well as family chore lists. The girls babysat younger siblings, helped to fold clothes for younger ones, kept their rooms up, and ran errands to the store at times. Later on, they even helped drop younger ones at daycare, and helped me pick them up when they were high school and college age. My sons all cook, my daughters can work in the yard along side their husbands. They all have great work ethics which makes them invaluable to their employers.
My 5 and a half year old son has the following responsibilities and or "helper" chores that are his job as being part and helping out the family:
~ cleans up his toys
~ hangs his shirts on hangers so I can put them in his closet (he also helps carry clothes upstairs and takes them out of the dryer for me to fold, sometimes)
~ feeds the dog when asked (about half the time)
~ puts recyclable things in recycle bin
~ puts away the silverware (he also "helps" wash and load dishes in the dishwasher)
~ puts his dishes in the sink after eating
~ makes his bed
There should never be a difference between what a boy can do vs. a girl. You raise well rounded individuals if you never put a label as either male or female. I have 6 kids from 21 to 5 and once they are off at college they need to know it all!
Teaching any child responsibility through chores is a wonderful learning experience. They are given the opportunity to contribute to a group in which they belong, they learn life skills and I would hope, a sence of accomplishment.
At this point in time, I wouldn't differentiate in chore allocation between my children based on gender. I would however differentiate based on the personality of the child. I would look for an area that is going to assist them in developing whichever skill base is in need and select chores accordingly.
I also believe having a chore for a prolonged period of time is beneficial as the children learn how to fine tune and simplify the job. I don't change chores each week. With an 11 and 12 year old, I change chores annually. Then everyone knows what they are supposed to be doing and what is expected of them. It makes life easier for mum too. :-)
From a very early age, all children can learn responsibility, respect, and awareness of others. At 3, a child can put napkins on the dinner table, take a sponge and "help" wipe down cabinets, and definitely put toys away in their assigned places. Every child should have consistency in expectations -- and parents need to provide these, while setting important boundaries....The question alarmed me -- as both an educator, child development /cognitive learning specialist, and a parent. Chores should never be divided by gender! As children get older, dishes, laundry, table setting, taking out trash, wiping counter-tops, feeding pets, watering or yard work, responsibilities for maintaining their rooms, and picking up after themselves should be expected.....These are not gender specific: these are the responsibilities we must all live by. If you choose a male role over female, you've done your child a great injustice , limited his/her potential, and set antiquated parameters....
15 year old boy
cat liter box
moving the lawn furniture
calling the other boy scouts
help to cut wood with the chain saw
walk the dog
Seriously? Chores for boys? Not trying to be insensitive, just a bit shocked. Maybe this is a cultural consideration here, but in my house the boy and his 3 sisters do the same chores. I grew up with a brother who took out the garbage a couple times a week with 4 sisters who cooked, cleaned, drove truck and tractor on the farm, etc. etc. etc. That won't happen in this house if things go as planned.
I think as one other person said, cleaning toilets is the best chore b/c boys are largely who mess them up with dribbles! My midwife was a single mother with 2 boys and by 3 they could clean a toilet proficiently!
I have 3 children ~ 26 year old girl, 25 year old boy, and 14.5 year old boy. All of them have had jobs to do around the house ranging from dishes, dusting and vacuuming to cleaning the bathrooms. They all have done their own laundry from the age of 11 or so. I have also taught all of them to cook for the family. I believe that each child needs to learn to live as a productive adult and to do so means that they need to learn to do all of the jobs needed to run a house, whether those are traditionally "female" or "male" jobs. What kind of a parent would I have been if my daughter couldn't mow the lawn or my son couldn't do his laundry or cook himself dinner..... since they both live on their own now that would be an issue for them!!!! The 14.5 is still learning......