25 Blogger by Catey - Posted on Aug 14, 2012 0 0 Goodness, there are so many, it's hard to pick just one to answer! I guess the one I hear the most is "you don't seem like you have nine kids, and you don't LOOK like you have nine kids!", as though when you have a big family you must certainly be old, haggard looking, overweight, out of shape, badly dressed, uneducated, uninformed, and a handful of other negative things. Honestly, having all of these kids has been an amazing motivation for me to take care of myself! If I'm not taking care of myself then how would it be possible to take care of them? I have come to realize that taking care of myself benefits not only myself, but my marriage and my children. To be honest, I let things go for a while, buying into the idea that every woman keeps weight from every pregnancy, that 20 (or more!) extra pounds really isn't that big of a deal, and that it really wouldn't make a difference to make an effort. I didn't worry about keeping up with much that was going on outside my home, or about learning new things and improving myself. But as I realized that my energy and attitude were dropping in relation to the effort I made to keep myself well, I realized I needed to make a change! I am now a runner (and dabble in triathlon occasionally), in the best shape of my life, eating well, and am healthier than I've ever been. I make an effort to stay educated and informed on current events, politics and world issues and to continue learning about a variety of things. In turn these things have had an impact on my family; they are healthier, my kids and husband are very active and are setting goals themselves, we have discussions with our children about things going on in the world around them and are teaching them the importance of being an active part of our community. So many people seem to think that in a large family mom must just stay home and be "barefoot and pregnant" all the time, doing no more than cooking, cleaning, and popping out babies, and teaching her daughters to do the same (and her sons to expect the same from their wives eventually). I am teaching my children that there is great value in many things in life. I am teaching them that goals and self-improvement are important, that learning is a lifelong process. That one can be a good influence whatever their sphere may be. That a woman can be well educated and strong and a mother, and that her influence will affect generations, thus they owe it to themselves and the world to always strive for the best. 9 25 Blogger by Catey - commented on May 12, 2013 5 0 That's great that you keep yourself informed about the world. Do you talk to your children about over population and how you are contributing to the problem by having more than your fair share?