What's your biggest fear as a parent?
Moms can't help but worry about their kids, especially in situations you can't control. What fear has plagued you the most as parent and has anything helped you overcome t?
I'm more afraid of anything that my daughter will be molested. And no nothing has helped me overcome. And I'm grateful for my paranoia. Less than 2 weeks ago we went to a wedding. My 4 year old made friends with another little girl, a few months older than her. The girls hated being inside where it was dark and the music was loud and wanted to be outside. It was very hot and muggy so I'd take them out for about 20 minutes and go back in for about 20 minutes. Everyone said, to just leave them outside because there were plenty adults outside smoking that would keep an eye on them. But I refused. Eventually I asked the other little girls mom to keep an eye on them since she was outside but to bring them in when she went back in. I told the girls to stay on the lawn and to go in when the other mom went inside. I covered all my bases...or so I thought. I was inside for about 6 minutes, holding my sleeping son when I saw the other mom back inside but didn't see the girls. I asked my mother in law to check outside where they were playing, and she didn't see them. I handed off my son and started running to the bathrooms and everywhere they might be inside. Everyone told me they were probably hiding under the tables and to calm down and not to make a scene. I ran outside and around the corner as I saw a black truck with a man jumping out towards the girls. Then he saw me ducked back in and sped off. So the story from the girls was that the men told the girls there was a pig in the abandoned house behind the property. The girls went to see but my daughter wouldn't go in when she saw how dark, dirty and scary it was. Her friend wanted to but my daughter wouldn't. She asked where the pig was and the men told them it ran away and asked the girls to help them find it. My daughter got scared and she dragged her friend away. Thats when they heard the truck speeding towards them and thought they were going to get hit and jumped out of the way and the man jumped down to grab them. If I hadn't been paranoid, and few seconds later, the girls would have been gone. I'm just mad that I wasn't paranoid enough that I trusted another mom. Lesson learned, just because someone else is a mom, doesn't make them motherly. Turns out she was too busy drinking and flirting to notice her daughter.
My biggest fear in my life is that my kids end up hating me. i grew up with a very dominant mother and from an early age i always hated the way she treated my brothers and i. she has always wanted to control us in different ways and we have all distanced ourselves from her in our own ways. although i don't hate her any more and i do understand why she acted this way, i still don't agree with the way she went about it. I always loved my mother i just didn't like her.
Its because of this that i fear that my children might hate me and if they ever did it would destroy me. i'v tried to be everything my mother isn't but there is always that niggling fear at the back of my mind about getting what you give.
i'm really terrified of losing my eldest daughter (6 yrs old) or her getting seriously injured. she has no sense of danger at all. constantly running up to animals, running down the road or the biggest one running off at the shops. she generally doesn't go far enough to be out of my sight but has been pushing the boundaries way too far. today she ran off as i was trying to pay for some photos. i thought she would turn back but she didnt so i ran after her. next thing i knew she was gone. i had two cleaners and a security guard looking with me. after breaking down into a mess discover she was back at the photo stand. i have explained to her, i've had police, teachers, other parents and shop staff tell her the dangers but she just doesn't seem concerned at all. does anyone have advice on what to do? my 3 yr old understands better than she does.
My biggest fear was always keeping my children safe and finding the line between freedom and adventure and protection and control. I blew it. I raised a wonderful young man full of life and joy, but a little too adventurous. He died at 21 and I will forever know that I could have changed that. Even at that I don't know what the best advise is about fear. Some fears are founded. Fear without analysis and action is worthless. Figure out if your fear is real and if it is, deal with whatever is making you fearful. Chances are there may be a real danger.
bullying; there are many ways kids bully nowadays; it is so hurtful to these young child; when will it stop
I think my biggest fear is not being able to protect my kids. I have three wonderful boys 8,7, and 3. I am not sure what I would do if something happened to them. If a predator of any kind were to hurt them, or they were in a car accident, or the influence of bad people on their lives. I am their mom. I don't want bad things to happen to my kids. I want... I need to believe that there is something I can do. Through much prayer and placing my faith in God I have come to accept that there are things I have absolutely no control over. And there are others that it is my God given responsibility to deal with head on. I think the "Serenity Prayer" sums it up entirely.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will direct your paths.
Proverbs 3: 5-6
My biggest fear is that I will spoil my kids....so I say no too much, and I don't give them what they want. I see that I have made their lives seem horrible in their eyes. I went over board. I have even held back love from them, but once I realized what I was doing and why, I've worked hard to stop it. But that voice in my head keep coming up and reminding me not to spoil them...so I am working at finding balance.
I have probably experienced my biggest fears: child molestation perpetrated by a baby sitter whom we trusted; threat of having my children taken away (they weren't, but the crazy person who instigated it made life very hard for us for a number of years - I won custody) and death of two of my (adult) children due to disease (leukemia and cancer).
My child is helpless and does not know how to handle.
My biggest fear also is that my sons will be molested or taken. My father and his sisters were molested by their father. Unfortunately, they say it's most commonly someone the family knows. I trust very few people with my children. Fortunately,I live in a small cul-de-sac and so anyone who doesn't belong sitcks out.
Taking my oldest son to preschool was the hardest thing for me. To top it off he wasn't potty trained yet so he had to have someone change his diaper. I know everyone gets background checks, but you just never know. What comforted me was that there were curtains on the bathroom stalls and the main door was left open. It's a small crowed preschool packed with teachers and no place for anyone to hide.
But still very challenging to trust people. Unfortunately this is the way you have to think in today's world.
Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear is projecting into the future - what MIGHT be. If I live in today, be the best mum that I can be today - then that is ok. I am sure in the future there will be days when my kids hate me or whatever, but for today I am a good enough mum and that is ok.
I am a mother of 2. 9 year old boy and 6 year old girl. I am a young mom almost 28 years old. I have suffered from an eating disorder for around 8 years and went in for treatment going on three years now... Been in recovery for 3 years and I believe I'm doing wellmand all that I can. But my biggest fear is that one or both of my children willmend up suffering from what I have suffered from! To be more clear I am in recovery from anorexia and am still very underweight. My children see this and have made comments on how skinny mommy is! This scares me more than anything... I do not want my children to think that what mommy looks like is supposed to be what they need to look like. I have talked with the both of them and have explained as best as I could considering their ages... But, I have heard them say things like "I'm fat" or judge other by their appearances. I think I have a handle on being truthful and open with my children to make them understand that mommy was sick and I am still getting better?! But the fear is there! Any input would be greatly appreciated :)
i recently have had my daughter involved with a boy at school. actually she says they have liked each other since the 5th grade. She is now in 7th. I have had trouble with this boy and a friend constantly telling my daughter that he is breaking up with her-they go nowhere,mind you,because shes only 12-but this breaks her heart and im not sure how to approach this and how to help her cope. Please any advice as to how to keep her away from this boy and how to approach things.
MOTHER PATIENTLY WAITING
As a working mum, my worry is leaving my children with a nanny who is not a relation, and thinking suppose she decides to run away with my kids. I just leave everything in the hands of God
Sending her to Preschool. I have never left her with a stranger, and now I am just suposed to just drop her off and hope for the best. Seems kinda crazy to me
i have a few fears, the main one is that my girls will grow up and disappear not wanting to know me anymore. what i really want is for them to grow up knowing and respecting me as their mum but also as a friend someone they can confide in but dont always turn out that way. my other is them being bullied!! i would do anything to keep them from this, my youngest daughter has vitiligo so its more likely to effect her but hoping she will grow up very outgoing and sociable so this shouldnt matter
Getting our youngest child through her last 4 grades of highschool. She's really struggling w/math and I don't know how to help her, she does tutoring 4-5 days a week. I'm totally freaked that she might not graduate. I've even switched schools to a smaller school where there are only like 10-14 kids per math class!((
My son is 19 and my biggest fear has not changed over the years. His asthma has kept me awake praying his whole life cause I can't decide when he will breathe and when he won't or whether drugs will work or not. He is a little dare devil and his stunts have worried me too. But, these are not the biggest. The biggest fear when he was 5 and sending him to kindergarten was letting him go and putting his day in the hands of his teacher and classmates. Now, it is him moving away and going to college and putting his life in the hands of employers, professors, girlfriends, buddies. Will he get a fair break? Will they treat him right? I know him as a loving, charming, talented brilliant young man. He is capable and I trust him. But I don't think anyone will ever love him like me and if I could have anything for him it would be the world embracing and loving him just as much.