I'm a single mom in my early 20's.. Searching for communication support dealing in Physical, Emotional help

Staci - posted on 05/14/2013

Evening Kayla,

I'm a 38 year old single mother of 3 (2 boys and a girl). My oldest son is 20 years old, my middle son is 11 and my daughter is 9. When I say I'm a single parent.....I'm a single parent. I have been a single parent from day one. I had my oldest when I was a senior in high school. I can count on one hand how many things my son's father has done for him. My oldest sons father is a deadbeat, he's admitted to it, but has done nothing to change it. My middle son's father did a 180. He was gung ho while I was pregnant, through out the pregnancy up until I noticed a change. My son was 2 when I noticed changes. He met someone he liked and started listening to her. The last time he saw his son he was 4 years old. My daughters father was an ass from day one. And she has decided she wants nothing to do with him. She met him for the first time last summer. She won't talk about him and could careless when I bring it up.

We don't plan to raise our children by ourselves but because one parent is an ass doesn't mean we have to be. That's how I looked at things. That's how I still look at things. The only person who will suffer first are the children. The fathers will suffer later when the try to reach out to their children and they get no response.

You keep your head up and handle your business. Yes things will get hard. Yes you will find yourself crying to yourself. You will feel sorry for yourself. But I promise you all of this will make you stronger.

Children are a blessing. You just keep your eyes on the prize and you will do just fine.

Kayla - posted on 05/23/2012

Hi kayla, my name is kayla also. I am 22 and raising my 4 month old son without support from his father. He walked out whsn i was 3 months pregnant. I just happened to stumble upon your post and felt like maybe you and I could relate on some level. I definitely know the uphill journey this is but it's also something soo precious we should never take for granted, regret and always be thankful for our little angels. I know personally the only person I really need is my son. I hope this message reaches you in good health and God bless you and your miracle. :)