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how to deal with 8 yr old peer pressure

Esther - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my son is getting into mild trouble at school for doing things that other kids (he calls friends) are asking him to do. such as going into rooms he shouldn't and throwing things on classroom roof, its not enough to stress me out but worried if he doesn't stand up to these kinds now and learn to say no that when he gets to high school it could get more serious. i truly think he just wants the kids to like him and thats why he does it, but would appreciate suggestions on how to approach this before it gets out of hand, thanks :)

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Melanie - posted on 06/08/2010

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My second son went through this one so called friend told him to flip off the bus behind them at school and I caught him flipping off a car after getting off the bus. I told him real friends would not tell you to do bad things and if you think you may get in trouble for doing it tell one of the friends to do it instead and I bet they will not, Just explain that if he turns the table on them they will not do half of the bad things they are telling him to do. Worked for my son !

Stephanie - posted on 05/25/2010

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Kids do the and say the most amazing things when they want to fit in it is about empowering them to make the right decisions when faced with this type of peer pressure. Come at your son careful don't bully or threaten but have a good heart to heart about how some kids will egg on a bad thing but you see they wont do it themselves, that it may not seem like it but if he were to say no they actually would follow him. Our oldest son was passive for the first 2 years and never got in trouble but would tolerate a lot more than maybe he should have. I worked really hard with him about how his opinion mattered and that at the end of the day he has to come home to himself and live with the decisions he made that day wether positive or negative the result he is 10 now and has a wonderful crowd of friends that are strong opinionated and keep oout of trouble because it isn't appealing. They are a popular group liked by many but what impresses us is that the teachers adore them. they are all super kids with great dispositions. It does work but it takes patience and consistency. Good luck to you

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