My 5-year old has a mean streak, and nothing works!

LeeAnn - posted on 02/07/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I've been at odds with my 5-year old for awhile now, and need some new ideas. He is frequently disrespectful, defiant, and disobedient. Seems to have trouble with impulse control and does not consider the repurcussions of his actions. He picks on his 2- year old brother, talks back to me and his dad, ignores me when I tell him to do something, and throws fits when he is reprimanded. I am very frustrated with him and unfortunately need to get my anger under control as well. We have tried time-outs, taking away tv privelages, and spanking, but nothing seems to make any lasting difference. Any one out there have any ideas for taming the strong-willed child??

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Kathalean - posted on 06/12/2011

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Im dealing with the same thing right now. My son will b five in august and he doesn't listen, laughs at me when I try to discipline him or when I get upset. He throws things at us swings things to hit us with bites punches kicks and screams for help. He wont stay in time out and when I spank him he laughs at me and gets meaner. He is an only child and for the first two years of his life I was in a severely abusive relationship with the biological. He saw violence but he was also staying at my grandma's often because my ex wouldn't pay for heat or electric or water and I didn't want my son suffering. H is now on meds for mood disorders and ptsd but the aggression and violence and defiance is wearing me down and I'm worried. Boys are tough!

Serena - posted on 02/07/2011

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Maybe you should put him in martial arts/taekwondo (or any boy sport) for 5yr olds..good for disciplining the mind. He could just be frustrated/bored with his routine and is acting out.

Linda O - posted on 09/13/2012

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Hi I am reading your post and my son is five too and I have the exact same problem. Also my friend has come to me saying he is picking on her four year old son as they play outside. We are neighbours.i too have lost my temper and seem to be shouting or giving out a lot now. If you have any improvement on tips you receive from people please pass them on. Thanks

Jimmy - posted on 04/18/2014

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My sister has a 5 year old who is mean and today he tried to hit me with a tennis racket and today he licked halfway up their butcrack one good tip is to tell his favorite sport is cancelled because you are mean

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Taletha - posted on 09/29/2011

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I'm going through the same thing with my 5 year old daughter. Her brother has adhd so I'm thinking she does too gonna take her to the doc soon about this. I hate having to punish her last week I made her go to her room and not turn the tv on but she went in there locked her door and turned it on anyway her daddy had to make her open the door. The reason she got punished she told her brother she wasn't gonna be his sister anymore and I wouldn't have that. Hopefully if she does have adhd she will get some help and if she doesnI'll have to get som lol

Mary - posted on 06/02/2011

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One more thing! Have you tried taking him out just you and him for some quality time, just to get ice cream or to a movie he wants to see. these are just ideas as I only have a 4 mth old son.

Mary - posted on 06/02/2011

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have you tried spending more time with you child you is acting out? Maybe he craves some attention. He could be a little jealous of the 2 yr old seeing as he was an only child for so long. I don't want to sound rude at all but have you had him tested for ADHD? It is way more common than people think and I actually grew up with ADD and grew out of it... With the help of one on one in school and I took medication for a short time. I have heard that when kids act out or misbehave it could mean they could be bored and just crying out for some attention. Good Luck! mI hope this helps:)

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