Any stay at home moms out there??

Katie - posted on 03/05/2010 ( 304 moms have responded )

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I'm a stay at home mom with three children a husband three dogs and three cats, and I would love to know how some other women feel about being at home with the kids and pets all day and trying to think up dinners and doing all the cleaning ect ....sometimes I think my husband has it easier than me , Is that rude to think that?

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Sandra - posted on 03/10/2010

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I'm also a stay at home mom. I havent always been but when i got pregnant with my second baby I left work when i was 8mths pregnant. And that was in the end of October 2009. I liked it at first of course, but now I feel like my day stays the same. Im always home with the kids and im never out interacting or doing anything at all. I really miss working outside of the home. To me being a stay at home mom is more of a challenge than an actual job.I dont think that its rude that you feel that your husband has it easier because i feel the same way and I truly believe men do! For one the child always has more of a bond to the mother and children tend to cling to us more. A man cant handle taking care of a child all day. I ask my husband to watch them while i take a quick bath and he cant even handle that, or even so i can make dinner but instead i end up holding my baby while im cooking at the same time! It gets frustrating because they think we have it easy but its sooooo much more difficult in my opinion. And most of the time i feel very unappreciated. And we always argue about this issue. i love him and i do appreciate that he makes the money but still MOMMY NEEDS A BREAK SOMETIMES!!!!!

Teresa - posted on 04/07/2010

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no, i think we all feel that they "don't understand" our job, and that is how i look at it. :They get to work and then leave it at the office and we never leave our place of employment. So, I had to change my stinkin thinkin. I prayed for God to bless our family enough that i could stay home with my children, and he has always blessed us during this time. I try to think about all the positives and i call Laundry, meals, schedules, and all the rat race of three children my :JOB SECURITY :) LI have a wonderful husband that wants me to be able to stay home and three healthy children to keep me on my toes. Try to count the blessings and I promise you will see the good. Also love your husband and tell him thank you for allowing you to stay home.

Jerri - posted on 04/06/2010

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MEN!! They work, they eat, they sleep! And they think they have it hard! I wonder if they stayed at home for one year, could they do all that we do? Let's feed the kids and the pets, clean the house and the laundry, keep up with playdates and doctors appointments. Run to karate, soccer, basketball or whatever the sport is for the week. Take care of church business(more running). Volunteering at school. Baking cookies when needed. Getting in the groceries and clipping coupons to safe money. Take care of all the bedroom matters. Oh and let's not forget the great experience of child bearing(they must experience that in the year!!). And then on top of all that.....I think they should have......FEMALE HORMONES!!!!!

Are you kiddin' me? There's no way they could handle the stress. I hate hearing, "I work, that's my job, so you're the one who gets to stay home, you don't do anything. you have everyday off, That's you're job!" OMG! I'm sick of hearing it!!!!

So, NO SISTER, it's not rude! Or if it is, then I'm in that boat with you!

As for dinner, I wait until he calls to tell me what he wants. If he want's it on the table when he comes in then he'll call, if he don't call then when he comes home, he either has to find something on his own or wait for me to fix it. Needless to say, there's not too many days that he doesn't call home. Something else you could do is sit down and give options of what you can have for the week. Make a menu. If he changes his mind, he better do it early or he won't get food!

Natasha - posted on 03/29/2010

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Girl I totally get you! I am a stay at home mom of 3 kids as well....sometimes I think my husband is the 4th! We have only 1 dog and 1 cat. Keeping up with everything gets hard and very very boring. I do think my hubby has it better than me sometimes just because he gets to be around adults, eat lunch with actual people instead of stuffed animals and just gets a bit of time to himself then comes home at night and rewinds from his day. I hardly ever get to do that....and sometimes I feel a little resentful. He does construction and I told him that my days are like if someone went to the house he was framing every night and tore it down and he had to rebuild it everyday....but I don't think he really gets it. In the past few months I started getting together with some of my girlfriends every couple weeks to eat dinner and it really helps...for a while. So don't feel like you are alone in this cause your not. I totally understand.

Kacee - posted on 03/27/2010

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It's not rude to think he has it easier. Being a stay at home can definitely be stressful, but it definitely has its rewards. Try to focus on the great things about being home with your children and it makes things easier. I worked for 12-13 years before deciding to stay home with my children and I wouldn't go back to work for anything. Yes, my job is stressful, but I know that I can spend all day with my kids and teach them about life, and we can get out and go somewhere any time we want. It's important for your husband to appreciate what you do. If you weren't there, you would be even more stressed because you still be worrying about dinner and keeping the house clean, etc. It always falls on the woman because God created women for nurturing and doing these things is our way of caring for our families. Men were made strong to work and support and protect. I don't envy my husband at all because I know that he must protect and provide for my family and I wouldn't want that responsibility. Plus I know that he couldn't give the kind of love that I can give my kids. We are made differently and men do that have that bond with children that we as women do. You are blessed to be able to stay home. Don't let the stresses of every day overwhelm you. God bless you!

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Heather - posted on 06/20/2012

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There are positives and negatives to everything. I am so glad that I get to be the main influence in my children's lives. That being said, the same old routine gets old quick, and if your not careful, you may feel of little importance. I know that if I didn't do the things that I do..cleaning, laundry, errands etc. then they would not get do e and add stress to our lives. I hate pinching pennies, but my kids do not want to go to day care or before and after school so that we would have extra money. Some days can get depressing especially after paying the bills and seeing that we barely have enough for gas and groceries. But money comes and goes, you spend as much as you make, so we would still pinch even if I had a job. I worked 14 years full time most with kids, and I feel privileged that I can stay home. Hang in there and keep looking for your own interest or thing for just you to do.

Kathleen - posted on 06/20/2012

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It seems that a lot of the comments on here are focusing on the negatives of being a SAHM, and that really makes me sad. Instead of thinking how much work it is to stay home with children, focus on the positives. Instead of leaving your child with strangers at a "day care", you are raising your child - you are the one who gets to see all of the "firsts", and you're forming an incredible bond with your child that won't be broken. My mom was a SAHM to me and my sisters and we are incredibly close. I have been a SAHM to my 2 children for almost 13 years. My daughter will be 13 next month and my son is 9. Have there been times where I wished we had the money to do things that some of my "working mom" friends get to do? Of course. But do I regret giving up things in order to get to be here for my children? Never. Oh, and for those of you with young children, know that it gets easier as they get older and are able to do more for themselves. Some people question why I'm still a SAHM since my kids are in school... to try to find a job that would accommodate their school hours and allow me to volunteer as well is next-to-impossible. I am disappointed that we live in a society where people don't value the SAHM job as a "real" one. My response to people who say, "Oh, you don't work, then" is to ask them what they think the workers at their child's daycare do all day...

Heather - posted on 06/19/2012

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Does Suncor want families to move with husbands or do they just want the husbands to go and work? I want to keep our family together.

Karen - posted on 09/24/2011

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Autumn - posted on 09/20/2011

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Someone else has said it. I was beginning to think I was a broken record! My husband works second shift so when he comes home it's 1am. He thinks that entitles him to sleep all day while I wait on everyone, keep the house up, do laundry, run errands, and cook. I'M SICK TO DEATH OF IT!!!!!! I usually end up staying up till he gets home due to cleaning or something, but I have to get up at 6am to put the children on the school bus(we have 5). Yet when I have a headache, am sick, have a broken toe or 2, it does not matter. I love my family, but I just wish the oaf would help out a little more.

Ashleigh - posted on 09/19/2011

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Definitely not rude to think he has it easier. Just because he gets paid for his work doesn't mean his job is more stressful than being a full-time mom. But the thing we have to remember is that men and woman have very different ways of thinking. So if you tell him he doesn't have it as hard as you, of course he'll disagree. You just have to remember it's okay to have "me time" and do the things you need to do. Dinner planning is annoying but I just went online and found a couple of quick recipes that looked great and made a list of what we'd have that week. And have your kids help with cooking and cleaning. Kids usually love to help, just make it appealing to them, ex: if you want help with dinner, ask them to help get it started...if you want them to help with chores, handing you dishes when then need to be put away, or helping fold laundry(even if it doesn't look good it's still fun to watch)

Best of luck.

Amanda - posted on 09/08/2011

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Not at all! I told him that he gets to clock out at the end of his shift. I don't. Even though I am tired, I am still expected to cook, clean, plan, shop, organize, make love, etc. And I only have a five year old (who is at school for 4 hours each day) a mischevious cat and an 85 pound pit bull who much rather be outside than let me do my chores. LOL!

Courteney - posted on 09/07/2011

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I'm a stay at home mom I have 2 kids and a husband and I am new at being a stay home mom.

JoAnne - posted on 09/07/2011

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I have been a stay at home mom for 12 years. I know exactly what you mean. My husband is never around, he works 2nd and third shift. He works at a place where he can pick his hours most of the time. He is a dump truck/ semi truck mechanic and driver. For the past 7 years he has been working from 2pm (leaves home at 1:20pm) and gets home between 2 and 5 am. So that leaves me with the kids 24/7, I am expected to keep the house spotless, cook dinner, care for the children (we have 3 plus a dog) all day everyday since he works 7 days a week I am stuck. I get so angry that he gets to be out of the house and talking to other adults that we have argued a lot about it in the past 7 years. We have tried to cut back his hours but it only lasts a week or so. We have lately tried putting our youngest in Preschool (4K program) since she is the only one not in school and that has helped me out a lot by getting some mommy time. I just hate not being able to go hang out with my friends without having the kids or trying to find a sitter which I have yet to find one.
I know exactly how you feel. I wish sometimes that he would stay home with the kids and I could go to work but I wouldn't make the same amount of money as him. It gets better in the winter when the trucks don't go out as much. So I just cross my fingers and hope for the best in our future.

Sara - posted on 09/02/2011

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No it's not rude to think that. It can be alot sometimes. Do you get a chance to get some "you" time?

Tara - posted on 08/29/2011

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No not rude at all! True my kiddos are getting quite a bit older but I still wake them, make lunches, dinners, laundry etc etc...and then when you hear them complain about oh my job is boring...it is hard and stressful but as they get older the stress does lessen I promise lol

Vanessa - posted on 08/29/2011

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I dont think it is rude, for the last year my husband was deployed, and I was/am a SAHM the whole time he was gone. When he came home I would get so mad and jealous at him cuz he would be getting to do all these things with his friends and he spent all this money on things he wanted. I knew that he didnt get to do anything cuz he was deployed, but that didnt mean that I got to do everything while he was gone. I was so jealous that he got to go fishing, golfing, and go hang out with friends and I stayed at home with the kids (we have 2 and one on the way) and he never once let me go out for some "fun" with my girl friends with out the kids. He would tell me that I would have my time soon, and well when my time came we couldnt spend money cuz he had spent so much on all the things he wanted to buy and do. I tried to explain my side of everything to him and of course he didnt understand... guess you could say that I am still a lil mad about it!

Laura - posted on 08/22/2011

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i'm new to the whole SAHM situation, and I find it difficult to not be a little jealous that my husband gets to leave the house, talk to adults all day, and misses the fussiest part of the day for our infant.

Mary - posted on 08/21/2011

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i'm a stay at home mom too. we have five kids, my two oldest ones are on their own however i have my three younger ones at home still. we also have a three year old dog and a new kitten about ten weeks old. i do housework, take the kids to and from school, cook dinners and make sure the kids all got their homework done too. my husband doesnt have it easy since he's a teacher and works long hours driving 83 miles away from our house and don't envy his job either. however i still take time out to work on poems, stories, and computer along with reading when i am able to. that in a small amount of spare time in between. plus we spend family time at dinners and weekends. everyone has their belief of whom has an easier job reality i don't think anyone has easier jobs than the other. if your spouse has a boss they are doing whatever they have to. my spouse has to do a lot of preparing and added work both home and at work. he's got very little time to think with the kids around. so think about it more. what do you want to do to relieve the family stress? when one is stressed everyone is stressed. it's relieving everyones stress by taking family time out.

Shannon - posted on 08/11/2011

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not at all! I say that to my husband and he just laughs and tells me he will switch any time!!

Shannon - posted on 08/11/2011

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not at all! I say that to my husband and he just laughs and tells me he will switch any time!!

Elaine - posted on 08/09/2011

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I do not feel it is rude. If that is how you feel, it is what it is.
I look at each day as a way to be creative. I enjoy baking and cooking, and find cleaning, as a way to release any anger.

Kim - posted on 08/09/2011

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Have you ever seen that Bill Engvall skit (or maybe it's Jeff Foxworthy) where he's joking about the wife going nuts being at home w/ the kids all day she yells at him about "while you were at your job...!" LOL Yeah, we feel ya. It gets tedius and it's a 24/7/365 thing we do. I try to do stuff outside the house w/ or w/o the kids though. I go to MOPS, I go to the gym, I am in a book club...take the kids to the park or on play dates, even if it's just a trip to the craft store to pick out a project or to Target for an Icee and to walk around, I try to keep active so we are not "stuck" at home all day every day. And when we are at home all day, do stuff outside like set up the sprinkler, bubbles, whatever. I don't think it's a matter of "easier" it's just different. I tell my husband "at least you work with grown ups all day" and he looks at me and says "they don't always act like grown ups" LOL.

Fiona - posted on 08/08/2011

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im a sahm aswell kids are 7nearly (8)boy 3 yr old girls and 2 yr old girl yeah son goes to school but still have to get up and get them all dressed plus myself to take him to school then which isnt always easy x then i have a dog and cat plus 2 hamsters , and my man thinks gettin up and goin away to work drivin lorries is hard work and my life is easy and when he comes home or when he off at weekend he does nothin but sit on laptop ,wii or xbox while i run around tryin to clean house ,do shoppin look after kids do cookin and see to animals . but im glad my kids are in routine so most off the cleanin gets done once girls go to bed and washin gets done . and i certainly wouldnt change bein a sahm mum doesnt matter stressful my day gets

Crystal - posted on 08/07/2011

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I am an stay at home mom myself too so some times I think the same thing about my husband but I say its hard on both party's because I know that my husbands wants to spend more time with our son other then just the weekends and I know sometimes I can be a b**** some times too because I feel some times our house is getting really small during the week days. I hope this post helps you. God bless.

Meghan - posted on 08/07/2011

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Haha...I know the feeling! On my husbands work days I do not ask a thing of him. But luckily on his days off, he is more than willing to pitch in around the house and with our kiddo. It's not easy being at home, as you never get a day off!!! :)

Meghan - posted on 08/07/2011

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Haha...I know the feeling! On my husbands work days I do not ask a thing of him. But luckily on his days off, he is more than willing to pitch in around the house and with our kiddo. It's not easy being at home, as you never get a day off!!! :)

Tina - posted on 10/29/2010

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i became a SAHM three years ago and during the time it was a great thing for me to do for me and the family since I I just lost my brother and mother within one years time. Having a high demanding job, three kids, a dog and husband was too much for me to handle. We were also selling our home and building a new one so it was the right time for me to stop working. However, since I've been home and things are finally at a calming state. I find myself bored at times wishing I was back in the corporate world. The I meet with one of my old co-workers and listen to all the BS that is still going on and the stress of that and I'm glad that I'm at home. I think we as women lose ourself and it's hard to figure out a balance between cooking, cleaning, babysitter, nurse, wife, financial advisor, money manager, teacher, ....need I go on? Then we have to figure out how to find time for ME. It's a hard balance and act to follow since we want to look the best we can, keep our figure, happy, pleasant to be around and friend to everyone that walks in the door. It's almost impossible. Even when we do loose weight and put on our best cloths, house clean, kids happy, dog feed, perfect dinner on the table; does it get noticed? Not often. However, we are here and one day hopefully our children will thank us for being there for them. HOPEFULLY!

Rukia - posted on 10/20/2010

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I often feel like I do more work also, but then I remember I get to break when I want, have a glass of wine while working, and go out when I want. my husband also comes home and helps with baby. So I feel we are equally yoked!

Veronica - posted on 10/19/2010

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Not at all...i have 4 kids my youngest is 5 months old and my husband thinks i have it easy! I would love for him to do what i do just 1 day so he could see how much work there is. Sick or not my job never ends & there is no pay for me. I know our husbands have a job but so do we. It would be nice if they would help out once in a while with out being told.

Andrea - posted on 09/16/2010

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2 boys, 3 years old and 1 and a half old.. one big kids my husband, and 1 cat who acts like a baby too. I am the constant caregiver from early morning till night sometimes my husband doesnt understand how hard it can be. yes I stay at home and I'm not doing strenious labor but having children is mentally and physically exausting as much as regular work would be cooking cleaning laundry chasing kids is a chore indeed. I get out during the week with my hubby and go bowling and have fun and that usually is enough to relax me for the rest of the next week, as well as taking the kids to the park zoo and other activities is just as relaxing lol when the kids arent honery the whole time and usually there really behaved.. honestly If I was given the option to stay at home and be the one watching there development and helping them or going to work I choose my kids! it's stressfull but fun most the time and I dont like the idea of a sitter getting to spend more time with my babies!

Kimberly - posted on 09/16/2010

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1 daughter, 3 dogs, a cat and a parrot here. I guess I am never stuck at home because I joined a couple of Mommy groups and try to do a few things a week with them or I'd go crazy. I was cooped up for the first year and was coming out of my skin, so I understand. I do enjoy making dinner though and I have a routine to do all grocery shopping Monday morning for the week. I always start cooking at 4 and it's done by 5. Wash dishes afterwards for one less thing to do. As far as other housework goes- obviously with animals, vacuuming is a MUST but the other stuff is as needed. And I just keep things picked up by keeping baskets about to tidy up. Work smarter, not harder is my motto- and have fun when you can!

Amy - posted on 09/12/2010

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I totally agree with you. I used to work--it was easier! When I stay home my husband comes home and sits on the couch. He doesn't help with dinner, clean up, getting kids ready for bed unless I harass him. It was much easier for me to go to work for 8-10 hours, come home and have to do 1/2 the work.

Shawnda - posted on 09/11/2010

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I know my husband has it easier than me. I dont think they really realize how much we do. Your have your plate full. I find it hard working around nap times to clean and cook through out the day. Only every once in a while is there not a meal ready for the husband when he gets home. When there isnt he tends to get really hungry and instead of eating a can of raviolis he has to go to wendys or some thing. He says I have it easy but if he stayed home with this little boy all day every day he might appreciate it more. I think that its hard but once you get into the swing of things it gets easier. If your children are older like 5 or older give them chores. I used to love folding laundry with my mom and helping her in the kitchen. By the time i was 12 i was helping all around the house just make it fun. My son isnt old enough to be doing all that yet but he will learn responsibilities and appreciate the things he has because he worked for them.

Keri - posted on 09/08/2010

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i was a stay at home mother for 5 years i home schooled our daughter the whole time, she has started school this year and i decided to get a part time job during the day while she is in school. my husband does construction work, and now that i have gone back to work i think that we are equal in who works harder or the most. we both sit down and help our daughter with homework, i cook he cleans, lol

Vanessa - posted on 09/07/2010

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i don't think it's rude. Yea, he's working hard to support all of you, and comes home needing some "appreciation", but i feel that it's only you that knows what's going on with the dogs, cats, kids, the house, what's for dinner, what you didn't get to clean and what's needed. If he comes home and helps you a little, you're lucky. If he comes home and plops on the couch wanting royal treatment while you're in 3 places at once....that's another story.

Erin - posted on 09/07/2010

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I think men typically always have it easier than any stay at home mom by far! My husband works a stressful job and is going to a very prestigious school for his masters. But in all honesty, a SAHM doesn't get 15 minute breaks or lunch hours. We work through sick and pain and change diapers in our sleep. We're lucky if our dinner is still remotely warm when we finally get to sit down and going to the bathroom by yourself is out of the question. Not to mention after a long stressful day of cleaning and kids, with dinner half done on the stove, the husband comes home and expects his manly needs met. Sure we love our men but sometimes I think men just don't think about what our jobs entail as women. Now that we just moved to a new state, I'm at home with no car, no friends, no family. So it gets more stressful with no one to come visit. In all, I feel ya, and no you're not rude! LOL

Erin

Brenda - posted on 09/07/2010

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" Its times like these you would love to do this"

You may of heard this before but if you havent...its gold!

Husband comes home from work..theres toys/bikes all over the front garden. Walks in the door and looks around in amazment, have we been burgled? There is food all over the kitchen bench, dishes everywhere.
Clothes draped here and there. A trail of toys and books in various places.

He has a moment of panic feeling like something is wrong! He steps over the half eaten sandwich and heads for the bedroom, anxious to find his wife.

Pushes open the bedroom door and finds her propped up in bed, reading, still in her pajamas...big smile on her face... Hello!
Husband replies- Are you ok??
Wife-yes im great, why?
Husband- I thought something must of happened..have you seem the state of the house.
Wife- Yes...you know how you come home every day and ask what i did..... Well today I didn't do it!

Michele - posted on 09/06/2010

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Defiantly not! I only have one child, and a dog! I feel like i'm on the run all day! When he gets home from work he wonders why im tired!

Michelle - posted on 09/06/2010

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No way, It's NOT rude to think that! :)

I used to think that my husbnad had it harder than I did, and I finally talked to him about it.We made a compromise where he gets to decide which chore he wants to do and I'll do one to counter act it. For example, He'll make supper and I'll clean up after the kids when they're done eating. He'll do a load of dishes and I'll do a load of laundry. At bedtime, I'll give the kids baths and settle them down for bed, and He'll clean up the toys the kids played with all day.

All if took was one little conversation and a LOT of understnading on both ends. I hope you can do the same, :)

Michelle - posted on 04/13/2010

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Hi I am a stay at home mom and a daycare provider. I know how you feel, I am taking care of any where from 2 to 10 kids all day and then have to get all the housework and kids taking care of. I have a 15 yr old boy, a 13 yr old boy and a 5 yr old girl and I never have enough time for anything. When my husband gets home all he wants to do is sit and watch tv because he worked all day why'll I still have food to cook and kids to help.

Jessica - posted on 04/13/2010

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I'm a stay at home mom as well. We have a 7 year old who is in school, and a 3 year old who is home with me, and I'm currently pregnant with our third. In addition, I watch my 4 year old niece and a friends 2 kids who are 2 and also 6 months old. I know my husband has it easier than me, although he would never see it that way. He does work very hard, long hours, but I still find it a "break" from the chaos we call home! Don't get me wrong, theres no place I'd rather be!!! But the cleaning, the cooking, the grocery shopping, the laundry, the kids, can sometimes be a LOT!!!!

Emma - posted on 04/13/2010

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I'm a stay at home mom aswell, with four kids, two cats, a hamster and two fish. I find it hard sometimes when they all want something at the same time, but I do adore them all. Hubby works hard running his own company , but at least he hasn't got kids fighting for his attention the majority of the day!!

Emma - posted on 04/13/2010

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I'm a stay at home mom aswell, with four kids, two cats, a hamster and two fish. I find it hard sometimes when they all want something at the same time, but I do adore them all. Hubby works hard running his own company , but at least he hasn't got kids fighting for his attention the majority of the day!!

Donna - posted on 04/11/2010

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I am in the same boat only I have 2 daughters and the cats and dogs I do feel my husband has it easier. Its very hard to keep this house going because some times I feel they think Im there live in maid im ale=ways cleaning up after them even though I have done it all day. My husband wont do anything because his excuse is ive been working all day.

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Hi Katie! Goodness, it's not rude to think that way. I know I often think that way, especially during the many many times that my husband is away on business and I know that, as soon as his work hours are done (and this is pretty much the same when he's home, too), he's home resting-yet my work (cooking, cleanup, shuttling the kids around, etc) doesn't have this defined end point. On the other hand, I try to remember that, as the parent at home, I'm not the one carrying the stress of making sure we can pay our bills. I think, the sahm's who have husbands who are great at showing appreciation for what those moms do at all hours, and who voluntarily pitch in to help (whether to clean up after dinner, or to volunteer to shuttle the kids to activities now and then, have the best balance. :-)

Elaine - posted on 04/09/2010

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I feel that I am always "on the clock." Even in the middle of the night, I am taking the dog out!

Melissa - posted on 04/09/2010

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Hey Katie:))
I completely understand!!! I have Three little girls... the oldest Alexis will be 4years old in 3months and 10 days... She is my climbing non stop very indpentant escape artist lol.... Then Felicity has just turned 2 in Feb, she is very checky and the instigator in most scwabbles between the girls... an again a very full on child.. we live on a farm and they both love geting out in the padock an trying to chase our landlord's few thousand kilos of beef stcok around with the puppies!!! and my youngest is 7 1/2 months old. happy easy going unless she has a dirty bum or cutting theeth then she just loves all the attention directed to her:)) Then Pets... I have a rottieX who is the Laziest dog around lol he isless work than a new born baby, he just eats poops and then just escapes into his kennel away our two puppies lol... They are Kelpie X very active playful just under 6months old... as they are sisters they still finding there dominace of who is second inline... an i know exactly what you mean with the hole cooking cleaning side of things ... my hubby work onm a dairy farm and sometimes with the long hours he does it is almost like a am a single parent sometimes!!! but i cant complain he is the biggest help when he wants to be .... i must admit he comes home for breaky ad cooks bacon an eggs for us both most mornings an he does cook dinner queit alot:))) which is absolutely awesome after a full on night with ym girls... they like staying up an playing all night and sleeping in most mornings so even if he doesnt get home till 11am-Noon... then bacon an eggs is fantastic:))... sometimes Males just dont understand how full on children can be when you re with them 24hours 7days a week... Oh an to top all that living in rural south australia i dont have a licence at the moment whihc makes long work hours a pain to do the simplist things like shopping and picking up the mail as we dont have mail delivery... or even just going out for a coffee as all the shops/ cafes are min of 13-50kms away:((( but i have a couple of really good friends that i see alot... which keeps me from going inance with kids programs an non stop dvds... one can only watch so much dora an Hi-5 lol:))
so Trust me when i say you are never alone...if you ever need someone to chat to i am always happy to be an ear / email what ever i am generally online most days!!!! i look farward to chating soon:)) Hugs Mel:D

Lisa - posted on 04/09/2010

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I hear you! I have a teenager, a 20 month old and we raise Catahoula Leopard Dogs - have 6 adults and 2 puppy litters expected in the next 2 weeks! It is not rude to think like that - neither of you have it easy. It's just different kinds of stress to deal with. I got sick for 2 days with the flu so bad I couldn't get out of bed and my hubby had to stay home and take care of things for me . . . I realizes how much that I do and wouldn't want to trade places with me. Even though he has a stressful job with long and at times awful hours. It sometimes gets to me and I just try and find new things to do with the kids and to fix for dinners to change it up some. And one thing we really miss out on is breaks . . . so if you ever get an opportunity for one take it!!! :-)

Adrianna - posted on 04/09/2010

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my husband used to grip i didn't do anything while he was at work, so i stopped doing dishes and laundry while he was gone so he came home to the piles of laundry and dishes and dinner not made so on so on and about a week of that he realized that i worked my ass off while he is at work

Adrianna - posted on 04/09/2010

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no i def think my husband has it easier than me i am home 21weeks pregnant with a temperamental 2 yr old and 2 kittens. and my husband does factory work, plus we are in process of buying house so i am packing everything i can so we are ready in 2weeks to close on our house and move in. its difficult at times to come up with new dinner ideas that are quick and whole family will like, i found on they love though,



take chicken breast

one can tomato soup(no milk added)

and jar of salsa

and bake till done



i mix salsa and tomato soup together and pour over chicken and bake.

Jolene - posted on 04/09/2010

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I used to be a middle school teacher with 6 classed of 35+ students all day. I was one of those teachers that didn't get home until after 5 pm every day. Those days were a piece of cake compared to being a SAHM! =) This job is 24 hours with no breaks! Cooking, cleaning, feeding the baby in the middle of the night, cleaning up the dog puke on the stairs...it never ends! But I love it (well, except for the dog puke)! I often remind myself (and my husband) that I am a stay at home MOM not a maid and that is what is most important!

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