I am having a problem getting my four year old to go to sleep in his own bed by himself, any ideas on what to do
Kimberley - posted on 02/22/2009
Hi there Janelle i have been in your exact situation myself when my son was 4. I just started a new bedtime routine with him. Before you do have a talk with him telling him who big of a boy he is and that you are starting up a new bedtime routine for such a big boy, because he is very special. have a night light or a dim light in his room... do bedtime stories with him.. have him pick out 1 or 2 books that he would like to hear. and do a bedtime reading session with him.. afterwards you can talk about what tomorrow is gonna be inaid of... weather you have housework or errans always make it fun for him.. so you can talk about that.. and always ressure him your always close by and that you'll come back in a nd check on him... gotta do what BIG boys do....
Courtney - posted on 02/21/2009
Well, we have bought this star rewards chart from the parent-teacher store. It includes going to bed and staying in bed as one way to get a star. They add up to the number you list - and for the weekly reward you give him/her. It took a while for everyone to get used to it, including me remembering to discuss it with him at the end of every day and every week. But right now he's sleeping over at Grandma's for getting 10 points! And that sorta solves the sleeping problem too ;) Besides this, don't let him sleep in your bed or pull out all the excuses in his repertoire until he finally falls asleep on the couch... although this still happens especially when he's sick... but reward him for going to bed on time and take away the priveledge of staying up late when he doesn't go willingly.
Jeannette - posted on 02/21/2009
I haven't reached this problem yet as my son is still in his crib, but Suppernanny helped a family with this problem on her show friday night. She used the silent return to bed method. Do your bedtime routine. Everytime the child gets out of bed, return him to bed but give the child no attention. No talking. No hugs. Nothing. Do the same during the night. It may take a lot of returns to bed and a few sleepless nights(hopefully not too many), but if you are consistant it will work. Good luck!
Kristi - posted on 02/21/2009
We are having the same problem with our daughter as well. What has worked for the past 2weeks is :
We set a schedule in place :
before we take her to bed she goes potty then we tuck her in read a story and then say our bedtime prayers . We went to the store and bought a night light for her to turn on when she gets scared (push light by her bed)
at first it was hard she would come out of her room every time I turned around but everytime I would pick her up give her a hug and lay her back down in her own bed tuck her in and leave the room. Now she stays in her own bed all night (most nights) :) work in progress
My first stayed in my bed until she was almost 5 so now is the time to start . with her we moved her slowly out inch by inch we set up pallets every night further and further away until eventually she was ok with staying in her own room .
Hope this helps .
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