What would you do besides chores for a child to earn money?

Shiloh - posted on 10/30/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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Bryce screwed up and owes alot of money. What else besides chores would you do to help your child earn money?

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I dont like paying for chores. Kids tend to start asking how much you will pay them when you ask for help. There is an awsome book called "Transforming the difficlut Child by Howard Glasser, MA.....It shows a point system... a way of earning time and privledges for positive behaviors. It gives suggestions for charts and points given. you can offer so much $$ for points earned. You can find this book at your local book store, Ebay, or maybe even the library. It has been a life saver for our family. I have 3 boys (2 are ASD) It virtually eliminates nagging, fights, etc...

Bev - posted on 01/28/2014

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I have my grand daughter cook part or all of a meal for me. Sh loves to cook so, that isn't a chore for her and, though I love cooking as well, it is good to have an evening off now and then.

I've also had the kids see who could grow the biggest tomato or flower for a 50.00 prize.

Kelly - posted on 10/31/2009

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walk neighbors dogs for them, get their mail. My kids sort laundry, empty dishwasher, clean dog poop from yard.

Katie - posted on 11/05/2009

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i would have him go around town and ask the older ppl who cant get out and do their yard work on their own and see if they would like to pay him...also if he is asking older ppl he shouldnt ask too much of money from them...also maybe give him extra money for the good grades he gets. Good luck

Amanda - posted on 11/04/2009

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I totally agree with him having to pay for his mistake, like RebeccaAnne said you may have to pay the debt but I also feel 2160 is way to much money for a seat, I would check and make sure your not getting taken. Unless it is a one of kind, custom made, which I doubt since you said it was a work truck. I would check into it, because ultimately you will have to pay for it first. There are many good ideas, but one of the best is to look into why he is destructive and where he learns his behavior. I heard a story once:"A dad got tired of his daughters not cleaning their room. He told them if they didn't do it he would. When they didn't he went into their room bagged every thing that was not put away into garbage bags, making them watch, took it out to the garbage, and watched till they went to bed to make sure they did not take anything out. He then when they went to bed went down exchanged those bags with others and hid these ones in the attic. He got the girls up the next day to watch the garbage men take off the bags. He waited a week to give the bags back, stating that the next time the it will go out with the garbage. It got the point across." Your son may need the same lesson, if he breaks something that is not his, take something of his. Show him what it is like to lose something important, and if he breaks all his toys, stop buying him things until he learns to take care of them. Yet you really need to find out why he is so destructive, I know boys are boys but too much is too much.

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Shiloh - posted on 11/07/2009

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not a work truck.. HBTS.. Home Based Theriputic Services. 2009 Honda CRV. but regardless thank you.

Amanda - posted on 11/05/2009

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If you live in a rural area, maybe you can get some chickens. We sell our eggs for one dollar a dozen. My kids love doing this! Everybody loves farm fresh eggs.

Monica - posted on 11/05/2009

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How about collecting cans and bottles to recycle. Or having a yard sale and have him go though old toys and such. Kills two birds with one stone, clean room and a little extra money to contribute to the oh oh fund.

Martha - posted on 11/05/2009

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have him ask neighbors if they need leaves raked or yard work done also have him help cook dinner.

Nikki - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yes I agree with you, he should have to pay the price. Growing up on a farm I had chores from the time I was 3, Well my boys are 3 and 18 mths, and they both have chores inside to do that helps them earn money and it also keeps them moving instead of watching tv, I would keep him doing the chores, and offering to help after the debt is paid off, but any money should be put away for later down the road when the lesson is definately ingrained. I know he is only 9, but I guess it comes from my stricked background, but even when the debt is paid there is still someone who is effected with it, in this case you, and now you are doing work to find him work and it should be him out there looking because he knows what he did wrong, not because you make him.

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How about for good grades. Another one I use is not really a chore but an insentive. If he keeps his room clean all week he gets an extra $5.

Bobbi - posted on 11/03/2009

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make him or her volunteer at a shelter for the poor,or old people cleaning bed pans or helping in the kitchen at school.Yes you will still have to pay him,but he or she will learn a valuable lesson, and the value of money and what it takes to earn it..Good

luck:)

Leanne - posted on 11/03/2009

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well this is isnt a recipe lol but I am posting it where I read it :)

I remember pop bottle collecting as a kid, lemonade stands, shoveling drive ways, mowing lawns, and putting ad's to walk dogs or clean up yards of dog owners ( if you get my drift) anything to make $$ hope this helps good luck!

Charmaine - posted on 11/03/2009

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I don't believe in allowance! I didn't mess up the house by myself and I don't clean it by myself it's a family effort. I also don't do money for good grades they're to help you get smarter and a good scholarship, I shouldn't have to pay you for your school work or chores they are a given, but outside chores weeding, watering, shoveling snow etc, you may earn cash for.

Charmaine - posted on 11/03/2009

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Quoting Shiloh:

he is 9.. he has a problem when he's bored.. he always has to be doing something with his hands.. this particular day.. he found glass on the ground.. and sliced up a seat in his HBTS workers' car.. for one slice the estimate is 350.00 well she found 6 more. I'm at a loss now.. i had him take a rake garbage bags and his wagon last weekend and we walked around the neighborhood seeing if anyone needed help. i told him HE needs to say WHY he needs to earn the money.. he got a couple hits.. earned 24 dollars.. he worked with my dad Today ( halloween ) worked 6 hours and earned 30.00 .. he's getting there slowly but he's doing it.. just he won't do it unless he's asked, i don't think i should have to ask.. anyone agree with me?



I have a child just like him, at 8 yrs old he actually started balancing my check book and throwing a small town newspaper (7 cents a paper) you have to make him see how money is spent and earned so he can see how much you have and don't have and what a mistake like this costs, without handling money and seeing how it works, he has no real value of it yet. This worked with both of my children and the bored one that couldn't keep still is now in corporate finance and my other is a biology major. After doing this for years they understand money earned and spent and both do very well with themselves. Also yes everyone will take a check  written from a child as long as you sign it.

Charmaine - posted on 11/03/2009

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king soopers,city market, kroger sells gift certificates, you put the monies up front but everyone has to shop for groceries, I usually buy mine from the neighborhood kids. It"s a win win for everyone I shop with the certificate get cash back if I don't use it all and the kid that sold it to me get a profit for me using it.

Lyndsay - posted on 11/03/2009

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Start a dog-walking business for people in the neighbourhood, rake leaves/shovel snow for people. Or if you're looking for some more long-term ideas, my parents used to give me $5 for every A I got on my report cards. (I'm an honour roll student, ca-ching!)

Heather - posted on 11/03/2009

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Quoting Shiloh:

he is 9.. he has a problem when he's bored.. he always has to be doing something with his hands.. this particular day.. he found glass on the ground.. and sliced up a seat in his HBTS workers' car.. for one slice the estimate is 350.00 well she found 6 more. I'm at a loss now.. i had him take a rake garbage bags and his wagon last weekend and we walked around the neighborhood seeing if anyone needed help. i told him HE needs to say WHY he needs to earn the money.. he got a couple hits.. earned 24 dollars.. he worked with my dad Today ( halloween ) worked 6 hours and earned 30.00 .. he's getting there slowly but he's doing it.. just he won't do it unless he's asked, i don't think i should have to ask.. anyone agree with me?



Maybe it's just me not understanding correctly what he did, but $350 X 6 or 7 whatever it is, you (he) should be able to buy a new seat for less money then that, did you contact the car dealership or look into salvage yards? I totally agree that he needs to make the money to pay the bill, you probably shouldn't need to ask, but he is only nine and their attention span not so big,,, keep reminding him that he needs to take responsibility for what he has done and he can go back to playing and doing fun things when he's paid his debt/......Tell him let this be a lesson for next time. Good Luck!

Heather - posted on 11/03/2009

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Quoting Jackie:

I actually have a "behavior allowance" for my daughter because I perfer to do must of the chores. So since it unrealistic to give $10 a week for just cleaning her room I instead award good behavior. We have two containers... one is her allowance that is full of quarters that equals $10. When she does something wrong I take out an appropriate amount of money and it goes into the lost allowance. At the end of the week I pay out what she earns. Some weeks she only earns $3 and other weeks she earns $10. Another idea is to have him do some seasonal chores since they aren't done often and usually are a lot of work I believe they should pay out more. I am so glad to hear you are making him earn the money!



Jackie, This is one of the best ideas I have heard of, My daughter who is only 17months, isn't yet at allowance age, but i am definately going to implement you idea when she's old enough! Thank You! =)

Jessica - posted on 11/03/2009

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my children do chores, they get so much for each thing that they do. The other thing that I do is report cards. If they get A's they get a 5.00 dollars, for a B they get 2.50 and for C's they get 1.50. It seems to work they get really good grades at school.

RebeccaAnne - posted on 11/02/2009

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Hi,
Sounds like you may have to pay the debt and let him pay you back. I just have a quick question I also seen that you said he has broken all of his toys too ... are you looking into the destructive behaviors?
We have a few older people in our neighborhood, When my girlfriends son was in trouble she made a deal with her son ... if he shoveled snow/ raked leaves/ picked up trash / without her having to tell him to she gave him $10.00 if she had to ask $ 5.00. His debt was smaller then your sons but he got the message loud and clear that mom wasn't going to keep paying for his mischief. Good luck

Ashley - posted on 11/02/2009

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Quoting Sonja:

My son has a list of chores that he does not get paid to do. It is his responsibility to take care of his ferret, straighten his room, straighten his bathroom, etc. In fact, if I have to do those things - he has to pay me - either by doing one of my chores or with money. I do, however have a list of chores that are readily available for him to do to earn money... empty dishwasher, clean the bathtub, clean out car, wipe down the legs of furniture, wipe down cabinet fronts, etc... things that quite honestly, I hate doing. He earns money by doing well in school (I don't reward grades - I reward effort - do I see you doing homework, studying, asking for help? I homeschooled for 2 years and really don't believe in grades- they're too subjective), by showing good sportsmanship in sports and having a good attitude. He earns money around the neighborhood by raking leaves, shoveling snow and pulling weeds. He started doing work for neighbors about 4 years ago... I would not allow him to accept money from older neighbors (it's our duty to take care of those who can't care for themselves) and I never allowed him to set a price. When someone asked how much he charged, his answer was... "Let me do the work, then you pay me what you think my work deserves". Generally, people paid him more than he would have charged... but it left room for someone to say, "I think that you could have done THIS better... so I'm only going to give you ___" This weekend, he earned $60 for 6 hours of work.
At 9 years old, your son needs to be reminded. Kids just aren't capable at that age of looking around and seeing what needs to be done. Pay him for chores, pay him for effort in school, offer him X cents per word to write an essay teaching other kids why being desctructive is wrong and how they can make better choices...


Sonja ~ I LOVE your post here. This is exactly what we are trying to do in our home and how I was raised. Bravo :) I also really love the idea about writing the essay.



Shiloh ~ I applaud you for making your son pay for his destruction. I also agree with the fact that $350x6 is way more than a 9 year old will ever be able to pay back. This may inevitably start causing more hatred and animosity then the lesson will teach him if it take years for him to pay back. In addition to setting a reachable (but still painful) goal for the "pay back", I suggest that you attempt to get down to the depths of the cause of his destruction and try to make the "punishment" address the need. Why does he feel the need to destroy everything? Once you refocus and address that, you may find yourself in a better place with him. He may need to spend time with people who have less than he does, so that he can learn why it doesn't make sense to be destructive. He may need a positive outlet to his energy in a way that he can learn that violent behavior will only get him a lifestyle that will not make him a happy person as an adult. Just a thought... severe punishment here needs to be channeled to help change his mindset and, ultimately, his behavior in the future.

Sonja - posted on 11/02/2009

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My son has a list of chores that he does not get paid to do. It is his responsibility to take care of his ferret, straighten his room, straighten his bathroom, etc. In fact, if I have to do those things - he has to pay me - either by doing one of my chores or with money. I do, however have a list of chores that are readily available for him to do to earn money... empty dishwasher, clean the bathtub, clean out car, wipe down the legs of furniture, wipe down cabinet fronts, etc... things that quite honestly, I hate doing. He earns money by doing well in school (I don't reward grades - I reward effort - do I see you doing homework, studying, asking for help? I homeschooled for 2 years and really don't believe in grades- they're too subjective), by showing good sportsmanship in sports and having a good attitude. He earns money around the neighborhood by raking leaves, shoveling snow and pulling weeds. He started doing work for neighbors about 4 years ago... I would not allow him to accept money from older neighbors (it's our duty to take care of those who can't care for themselves) and I never allowed him to set a price. When someone asked how much he charged, his answer was... "Let me do the work, then you pay me what you think my work deserves". Generally, people paid him more than he would have charged... but it left room for someone to say, "I think that you could have done THIS better... so I'm only going to give you ___" This weekend, he earned $60 for 6 hours of work.

At 9 years old, your son needs to be reminded. Kids just aren't capable at that age of looking around and seeing what needs to be done. Pay him for chores, pay him for effort in school, offer him X cents per word to write an essay teaching other kids why being desctructive is wrong and how they can make better choices...

Elizabeth - posted on 11/02/2009

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besides chores. if you know a teacher that needs help cutting or pasting things. if someone in the neighborhood needs anything to be typed. broaden the "chores' and use the tools that you have family, friends, church., etc. not only will you teach them a lil' more responsibility but a broad range of things. and hopefully it will make the kiddos think before they act and your not the one fixing the mistake. any questions, give me a holla.

Tammy - posted on 11/02/2009

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hey, he definitely needs to work for what he earns, and I mean work. He needs to learn to own up to responsibilities. Its really a shame he has to learn this at age 9, but he may not be so destructive in the future if there are restitutions to pay. Good Luck, my prayers to you

Lisa - posted on 11/02/2009

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My daughter got rid of her old toys and had a garage sale she even played a musical keyboard and recieved money that way.

Barb - posted on 11/01/2009

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Depending on his age, perhaps help him get a job at a local store or have him volunteer his services at a nursing home or soup kitchen or local Ronald McDonald house and pay him for his volunteer services.

Shiloh - posted on 11/01/2009

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yeah i'm doing that.. just i believe in allowance.. not paying for EACH AND EVERY time he lifts a finger.. i ask him to pick up a piece of garbage on the floor and he asks how much do i get for it? Are You Freakin Kidding Me?!

Shiloh - posted on 10/31/2009

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he is 9.. he has a problem when he's bored.. he always has to be doing something with his hands.. this particular day.. he found glass on the ground.. and sliced up a seat in his HBTS workers' car.. for one slice the estimate is 350.00 well she found 6 more. I'm at a loss now.. i had him take a rake garbage bags and his wagon last weekend and we walked around the neighborhood seeing if anyone needed help. i told him HE needs to say WHY he needs to earn the money.. he got a couple hits.. earned 24 dollars.. he worked with my dad Today ( halloween ) worked 6 hours and earned 30.00 .. he's getting there slowly but he's doing it.. just he won't do it unless he's asked, i don't think i should have to ask.. anyone agree with me?

Kelly - posted on 10/31/2009

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Could he maybe take some outgrown toys (that are in good shape) to a consignment shop to sell? That might not get him the money quick enough though.

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2009

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Can I ask how much money he owes? I just checked to see how old he is and it says 9. Plus I guess it depends on what he did to end up owing this money. They would all be deciding factors with me on how I would help my daughter out.

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Shi~ He is old enough to rake leaves! Housework like the dishes, and maybe sweeping the floor, vacuuming.

Jackie - posted on 10/31/2009

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I actually have a "behavior allowance" for my daughter because I perfer to do must of the chores. So since it unrealistic to give $10 a week for just cleaning her room I instead award good behavior. We have two containers... one is her allowance that is full of quarters that equals $10. When she does something wrong I take out an appropriate amount of money and it goes into the lost allowance. At the end of the week I pay out what she earns. Some weeks she only earns $3 and other weeks she earns $10. Another idea is to have him do some seasonal chores since they aren't done often and usually are a lot of work I believe they should pay out more. I am so glad to hear you are making him earn the money!

Martha - posted on 10/30/2009

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do u have a big yard maybe u could put them outside a light bulb by their would keep them from getting cold in winter

Martha - posted on 10/30/2009

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have him mow lawns, clean windows, that type stuff for ur neighbors and or family

Isela - posted on 10/30/2009

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my daughter is ten, i give her $5 for every 100 that she gets on her test, she is allow to spend the money on whatever she wants, she collected eneough money to buy a rabbit, now she is working on a turtle, god help me.

Jennifer - posted on 10/30/2009

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Have him work for neighbors or other family doing some age appropriate yardwork, or house cleaning.

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