Abortion..What do you think?

Pam - posted on 01/28/2012

lol wow..... do you sit around crying about this all day? there's starving children in Africa preyed on by vultures, woman who get their breasts sawed off to not breastfeed, child slavery by mass corporations, and guess what? those kids have heart beats, memories and sight. I would cry for the breathing kids all around the world suffering abuses by society and their own parents. Did you know there's a child as young as 9 pregnant from rape right now? If woman having abortions make you cry, just look at the rest of the world.



BTW, that child who is pregnant may die giving birth, which child should live, the one who's alive or the attached tissue that will turn into something sooner or later if not stopped now? lol

Starla - posted on 01/28/2012

Kalloosit Dunn, I've heard that before, if you don't agree with abortion dont have one. Is that supposed to ease my heart wrenching ache for babies being dismembered alive just because it happens in someone else's womb?

Pam - posted on 01/28/2012

Bible thumpetts~



all I see here are woman putting down Tara, one of the only woman to come on here and actually present a debate. Its a debate, its a question, and your just taking it as a chance to get on your high horse and be righteous. You know there are people out there that believe in science, and science says its not alive unless it has a heart beat etc... Some woman abort because they are crack heads who cant get it together and plenty of other "personal reasons" and its NOT anyones place to lay a guilt trip on anyone else. Like Tara said, if you dont agree with abortions DONT HAVE ONE. Now..... As you were

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/26/2012

I agree with you Erica 100%.. I couldn't watch such a video, I think I would be traumatized for life!! I would end up crying all day and beside my self with seething anger!! Just reading your post is traumatic enough for me! I would like to find these people myself and stick something up their A-HOLE!! My god, how selfish, to kill a precise little being, I don't get it and will NEVER understand! If you are raped or have a severe medical condition, you're right, you wouldn't wait in that type of situation, you would do it as soon as you could. If you were raped and waited too long to decide, then too bad for you, you should be keeping it to give it up for adoption or love it, if it is a serious illness and you are too far a long, you should be letting God chose what happens there.... Both situations, you "should" know early enough.... You know they have a heart beat by 22 days of gestation and it is beating with their "own" blood, that is only 3 weeks! I got to see my son at 10 weeks because I was in a high danger pregnancy category (almost 35 at the time) and he was jumping inside me doing acrobats! I couldn't believe it, it was AMAZING! I couldn't imagine killing such a thing, they are all so precise... Some things in life you just should "not" have a choice, this is one of them! Unless it is early enough, from a traumatic rape or illness....

Erica - posted on 01/26/2012

this was my other POST



so you rather kill a baby than to give it up for adoption wow how nice. that baby didnt ask to be born if you dont want children or any more use birth control methods. there are alot of people who would love to have a child. sad that people use abortion as birth control or rather KILL A BABY THAN PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADPOTION. HOW SELFISH. now there are some exceptions health reasons or rape bc some may not be able to handle a baby out of rape. but u get an early one NOT A LATE TERM. I DNT GET HOW WOMAN CAN GET LATE TERM ABORTIONS WHEN THEY SHOW THEM A VIDEO OF HOW THEY KILL THE BABY I SEEN THE VIDEO ON TV ITS SICK, THEY POP THE BAG AND WHILE THE BABY IS FIGHTING TO SURVIVE THEY STICK AN STICK LIKE OBJECT UNDER THE NECK AND PUSH IT THROUGH THEN THEY RIP THE POOR CHILD LIMB BY LIMB WHILE THIS POOR BABY IS STILL ALIVE THATS SICK AND CRUEL. I FEEL IF YOU HAVE LATE TERM OR USE ABORTIONS AS BIRTH CONTROL U SHOULD NEVER BE ALLOWED TO HAVE CHILDREN EVER AGAIN

Erica - posted on 01/26/2012

what i dont get why wait till u are so far along and then get a late term abortion to me you are just sick and cruel ie if there is no medical reason. read how they do a late term abortion in my other post its sick or google it. but people who get late term should already know that bc they show u a video of what they are going to do to that precious baby

Faye - posted on 01/26/2012

What a beautiful story Melissa! God Bless you and your family. I wish we could hear more stories like yours! You've renewed my faith in people!!!!!



Carolina Grandmom

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/25/2012

I can't say how I would feel if I was raped and became pregnant because it hasn't happened, thank god! Although, I do know that I should have that right! If it was a vicious rape and the person raped was soo traumitized that they were depressed to the point of wanting to die, then they should have that choice. However, if you just felt like screwing and got pregnant than you should not have the choice! If you were going to be at death's door if you carried a child, you should have the choice. What if you die giving birth? What about the baby? What if you had no one to care for the baby after you died? Let the system take the baby? That is even worse! What if she was already a mother? She should die for her unborn child and leave her other babies?



Just don't SCREW and then use it as birth control! It isn't a birth control, it should be and only be, for serious death or rape situations! There are far too many forms of birth control out there to use this as an escape goat! How terrible if someone feels they should have the right to kill something so innocent in such a selfish manner... Makes me sick... There are soooo many people out there waiting, wanting for a baby and can't have their own..



I have heard other peoples kids say they wish they were dead or that their mother would have had an abortion and it WAS their biolgical mother! So, saying that an adopted child has said this is simply that, a child speaking out without really knowing or thinking about what they are saying! Kids can be cruel, sometimes they don't even know what they are saying, sometimes they wish for things that they have no idea what they mean...

**Jackie** - posted on 01/25/2012

Merrill, that is incorrect. I live in Jersey and it is 14 weeks. Also...Starla...wow....spot on. Couldn't agree with u more. My mother's friend had been raped and decided to have her son. He is now in his mid-twenties with a little one. I'm not sure if he thinks her husband is his dad or if she told him something else...that's irrelevant. I just don't think an innocent miracle of God should pay for someone's lack of responsibility. And....also Merrill...that last sentence of yours in your post involving NJ is a bit alarming....a baby can't live independently without it's mother so it is not it's own person yet? Oh yes, then why don't we just kill it then! WTF is wrong with people

Starla - posted on 01/25/2012

Merrill, have you ever talked to someone who was conceived from rape? Have you ever heard someone's story like that or the story of how their mother is so glad to have not killed them? The crime on the mother is rape but killing the baby inside is not going to bring her healing. There have been women who have decided to give birth to their "nightmares" and guess what, they have become a great joy in their life. They have brought healing and blessing from the tragedy of the rape, it's not the other way around.

Merril - posted on 01/25/2012

I heard abortion being talked about on the news and someone said that in New Jersey you can abort the baby all the way up to right before it is born, I think that is horrible. At the beginning of the pregnancy the fetus is a potential for human life. It cannot live independently from the mother. It is not it's own person yet.

Merril - posted on 01/25/2012

I am Pro-choice and prior to having fertitlity problems and then having triplets, I was more pro-choice. I agree that if you don't want one, then don't have one. After having had my children, I am now only in favor of abortion for rape, incest, and the life of the mother. It seems to me that people that are lining up on both sides of this issue have an agenda. I don't like the Pro-Life( really it should be Anti-Choice) side who other than wanting to stop Roe V Wade and have no viable option for what happens to the children who ARE unwanted and are being forced upon parents who don't want them. Every time, I hear about children who are being abused and neglected, or about foster kids who are being abused, neglected, or molested I can't help but wonder why these women didn't just have an abortion. The Pro-Choice side isn't any better, but I do think that if the Anti-Choice side dropped the whole issue then the rhetoric from the Pro-choice side would go away.

I think that the whole issue would subside. I heard Judge Napolitano say that for the life of him, he can't understand why when the Republicans had the House, the Senate and the White House they didn't just pass a personhood bill making the whole Roe V Wade issue a moot point. I am a Conservative, but I think that the rape victims, incest victims should not be forced to live for 9 months with the nightmare of the crime forced upon them and have to endure that physical and emotional torture of being reminded of it and not being able to heal and get on with their lives.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/21/2012

In my opinion the only time it is a just reason is if you were raped or could die from carying the child and you have other children at home. Using it as a form of brith control is just wrong and an unjust reason to take a life! I was also told my boy "may" have DS and was given the choice to perform the intrusive tests. I declined! I decided that of he was going to have it then so be it, god abviously chose me to bare and raise a child with these difficulties and I was willing to do it! Now my boy is 15 months and perfectly healthy! I would never regret not having the tests even he did have DS, I would regret having them or aborting because I would always "wonder" if he really had but then it would've been too late! I had also miscarried with my 2nd pregnancy and our 3rd pregnancy was a our god sent, even if he had had DS or any other disorder.... everything happens for a reason, you must find the strength within yourself to accept the outcome and learn to live and love... Go buy some condoms! Or don't have sex if you aren't ready for the outcome!

Erica - posted on 01/20/2012

i hate that people would abort the baby just bc in the worlds eyes they are not perfect no one is perfect. if my son would have been a special needs baby i still would have had him it just would have made him extra special

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2012

I also had a similar situation, Kate. My triple screen came back very high for spina bifida for my daughter. We had to do very intense testing, go over our family tree with a specialist, have in depth ultrasounds, etc. Which revealed she had a cyst in her brain and could possibly have Trisomy 18, which would mean she would not live past 1 year. The doctors said we could always "bail out" (that was the exact term they used), and I firmly told them that that was not an option. This was scary for us. My husband is a double amputee from the war and is in a wheelchair a lot. How could we have another "disabled" person in our home? This was a thought that my husband voiced; he didn't know how we could take care of another person in a wheelchair (or how I could, rather). How could we handle all of it? Ultimately, we decided that this life growing inside me was GOD'S life to do with what HE chooses; not ours. Our little girl, Brynne, was born perfectly on time, naturally, and perfectly healthy. And the cyst disappeared. What if we had aborted? God is in control, not us.

Kate - posted on 01/20/2012

I was told that my baby would have Downs Syndrome. The doctors TOLD me that the next step was an amniocentesis - a test that carried a 1:100 - 1:200 chance of misscariage. He did not inform me of the risk and when I asked he lied and said that there was hardly a risk at all and that it was barely 1:2000 a chance.

I declined - if my baby had DS then I would not abort so why do the test and put her at risk?

All throughout the pregnancy, I was pressured to have the test performed (with a view of aborting if she was DS) - even after 24 weeks - i was still pushed to have it done. I couldn't believe that they would be happy to abort a fetus at an age that, under normal circumstances be viable.

Whilst I respect other's choices to do what they want to their body's, the thing that really upset me (and contributed to severe anti natal depression) was that all the medical staff that i encountered assumed that if my child was proven to hav DS that she was not important enough to me to be born. It was as if they didn't want the burden of another DS child on the medical system.

My little girl is almost two now - she does not have DS(I would love her just as much if she did). My neighbour told me after she was born perfectly healthy that she would have aborted (without amniocentesis) I was floored.

I always knew that I wouldn't abort but, until I was told that she would be DS - I never knew 100% how I would feel about the situation. I love my little girl so so much and I am so blessed to have her in my life. Regardless of what could have been wrong with her - she deserved a chance at life.

Erica - posted on 01/20/2012

If you dont want children right now or ever use precautions get fixed birth control and condoms. how do we tell our younger generation to be careful and protect themselves from unwanted pregencies but as adults alot dont and are reckless and get pregnant and right away go for abortions ITS NOT THE BABY FAULT THAT U WERE IGNORANT AND CARELESS THE BABY DOESNT ASK TO BE CONCEIVED. so sad how people can just kill a baby like nothing some rather abort than adoptions u really must be sick if u think that a good decision to kill a baby instead of giving him or her a fighting chance and to become someone in life. there are so many people that would love a child. and sad for some men who want the child and would raise it but the female is spiteful and says no its my body. i know a few people who had abortions and i wanted to smack the ever living crap out of them bc it was nothing to them they were irresponsible and thought nothing of it and he i thought i couldnt have children i would cry bc i wanted one so bad and with my mom having cancer and me being the last one but thank god he blessed me with a baby im 32 and my son is 23months and im also a retired injured combat vet. PLEASE PEOPLE STOP BEING IRRESPONSIBLE AND KILLING BABIES USE PRECAUTION SO U DNT HAVE UNWANTED PREGNANCIES

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2012

Absolutely, Deborah! I couldn't agree with you more. There are some women who have had multiple abortions (I heard of one woman who had had 7). This is disgusting.

Deborah - posted on 01/20/2012

They shouldn't be completely illegal though. Some women, FEW, have valid reasons to have one performed.



Rape victims should not be forced to carry babies to term, particularly if they cannot handle 9 months of being reminded of one of the worst experiences of their life.



Mothers who are likely to die while giving birth or because of complications should have the choice. If I get pregnant, that baby is MY responsibility. IF I die, I am forcing someone else to take responsibility for my actions, especially if I have prior knowledge of my probable death.



ELECTIVE abortions should be illegal, on that I wholeheartedly agree. all this bogus nonsense about "the government can't tell me what to do with my body" well, let's look at the facts. you get a ticket if you don't wear a seatbelt. if you walk around town naked, you get ticketed for public indecency. Prostitution is illegal in a majority of the United States. illegal substances anyone? SAME THING. the government is already telling us what we can and cannot do, so that is completely irrelevant.



I used to agree with you wholeheartedly Kristen. But as I get older I realize that not everyone is the same. There are sad and hard reasons to get one in special cases, but getting one because "I'm not ready" or "The dad won't stay" or "I"m going to college" or "I can't afford it". at least in the United States, all of those reasons are BOGUS. Goodwill, Food Stamps, Medicaid, there are TONS of government programs to help women have the children they, at one point were willing to have. So if a woman who is healthy enough (both mentally and physically) to carry a child to term and raise that child WILLINGLY engages in intercourse, she should NOT have a right to terminate that life. Sex is procreation people. If you don't want a baby, keep it in your pants.

Erica - posted on 01/20/2012

i was just putting facts out and stating my opinion hun that its .bc i have heard b4 u get an abortion they show you a video of what they are going to do and i dnt get how peopl can still go through with it. if you dont want children or want them right now take precautions

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2012

Why would someone want to abort a baby when it can be put up for adoption? There are so many people out there who would love to adopt and love a baby because they can't have babies of their own. Why not allow them to care for your child, instead of throwing it's life away? The fact that people don't want to put it up for adoption tells me that they are either ashamed and don't want people to know they are pregnant (i.e., had an affair, got pregnant, don't want husbands to know), or are very young and don't want their parents to know they're pregnant, or don't want to get "fat", etc. I get really angry when these are the cases, because this goes to show that they simply don't want to deal with their actions or admit their mistakes. Killing a baby so no one knows is an easy way out. Of course, it would be very difficult to give birth and then hand a baby away, but is it easier to have an abortion? It's time we took responsibility for our actions, and own up to the decisions and choices we make. There are consequences to actions.

**Jackie** - posted on 01/15/2012

Couldnt have said it better myself, Krista.

Krista - posted on 01/15/2012

I think abortion should only being used if someone was raped, is under a certain age, or because the pregnancy is life threatening. People who "accidently" get pregnant and then have abortions disgust me. Im sorry if my opinon hurt anyone BUT y'all know what happens when you have sex. Condoms and the pill is NOT 100%. If you get pregnant, you should carry the pregnancy threw. Keep it or adopt it out. I am not religious but Im just so sick and tired of people because so reckless and MURDERING a baby. In Ontario Canada, you can abort a baby at 19 weeks. At 19 weeks, this baby has a heart beat, arms and legs. How is that not murdering a BABY?? DISGUSTING!

Susin - posted on 01/15/2012

Erica, who are you talking about? I don't remember seing anyone say they were having or for late term abortions. The only cases I've heard about are when the Mother is in danger or there is something catastrophically wrong with the fetus. Either way, it's typically an excruciating decision that is never made lightly. (and no, I've never had an abortion of any kind, I've been fortunate in my life not to have faced that decision)

Erica - posted on 01/15/2012

so you rather kill a baby than to give it up for adoption wow how nice. that baby didnt ask to be born if you dont want children or any more use birth control methods. there are alot of people who would love to have a child. sad that people use abortion as birth control or rather KILL A BABY THAN PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADPOTION. HOW SELFISH. now there are some exceptions health reasons or rape bc some may not be able to handle a baby out of rape. but u get an early one NOT A LATE TERM. I DNT GET HOW WOMAN CAN GET LATE TERM ABORTIONS WHEN THEY SHOW THEM A VIDEO OF HOW THEY KILL THE BABY I SEEN THE VIDEO ON TV ITS SICK, THEY POP THE BAG AND WHILE THE BABY IS FIGHTING TO SURVIVE THEY STICK AN STICK LIKE OBJECT UNDER THE NECK AND PUSH IT THROUGH THEN THEY RIP THE POOR CHILD LIMB BY LIMB WHILE THIS POOR BABY IS STILL ALIVE THATS SICK AND CRUEL. I FEEL IF YOU HAVE LATE TERM OR USE ABORTIONS AS BIRTH CONTROL U SHOULD NEVER BE ALLOWED TO HAVE CHILDREN EVER AGAIN. I DIDNT THINK I COULD HAVE CHILDREN AND I WAS BLESSED THANK GOD MY SON WILL BE 2 IN FEB AND HES MY LIFE. I USE TO HATE TO HEAR PEOPLE TALK ABOUT THEY HAD A FEW ABORTIONS ETC AND I WOULD JUST CRY BC I WANTED A CHILD SO BAD. THEY ARE A PRECIOUS GIFT THATS DOESNT ASK TO BE BORN

Erica - posted on 01/15/2012

so you rather kill a baby than to give it up for adoption wow how nice. that baby didnt ask to be born if you dont want children or any more use birth control methods. there are alot of people who would love to have a child. sad that people use abortion as birth control or rather KILL A BABY THAN PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADPOTION. HOW SELFISH. now there are some exceptions health reasons or rape bc some may not be able to handle a baby out of rape. but u get an early one NOT A LATE TERM. I DNT GET HOW WOMAN CAN GET LATE TERM ABORTIONS WHEN THEY SHOW THEM A VIDEO OF HOW THEY KILL THE BABY I SEEN THE VIDEO ON TV ITS SICK, THEY POP THE BAG AND WHILE THE BABY IS FIGHTING TO SURVIVE THEY STICK AN STICK LIKE OBJECT UNDER THE NECK AND PUSH IT THROUGH THEN THEY RIP THE POOR CHILD LIMB BY LIMB WHILE THIS POOR BABY IS STILL ALIVE THATS SICK AND CRUEL. I FEEL IF YOU HAVE LATE TERM OR USE ABORTIONS AS BIRTH CONTROL U SHOULD NEVER BE ALLOWED TO HAVE CHILDREN EVER AGAIN

Susin - posted on 01/15/2012

Pro-choice means you can also choose to have your baby. It does not, nor has it ever meant all pregnancies must end in abortion. It means that if you are trying to get pregnant with your husband but get raped by a stranger and become pregnant...you don't have to continue the pregnancy. And yes, I can hear the wave of 'I'd have the baby' well, then you should, it's your choice. I would rip it out myself before I'd have it, that's my choice.

I also would never look in the eyes of a twelve year old and say 'sorry honey, but you HAVE to have Daddy's baby because it's far more important than you, but hey, there's always adoption!'

Which brings me to my final point. There are thousands of woman who do not choose abortion, they choose to neglect, abuse and give birth to drug addicted babies that are then put into foster care. The happy ending? For some adoption, for many more they either age out of the system or they get bounced from lousy relative to lousy relative. SO! Since there are so many folks who deem abortion murder, when oh when will you step up and take care of these kids??? Right...that's what I thought....

**Jackie** - posted on 01/13/2012

I am against it. I guess there could be extreme cases...maybe if I was raped by a man that was HIV positive..other than that I think it is murder and murderers belong behind bars

Faye - posted on 01/12/2012

Thank you, Kate! We need more Moms like you to speak out!

Kate - posted on 01/11/2012

well said, i was 17 when i was pregnant with my first baby, 3 babies in and i couldnt possible concider an abortion, even if i wasnt a christian or my then fiancé wasnt going to marry me i couldnt do it, its just against all a mothers instincts - to kill their own child, i think its very sad for the "mother", in time she would surely regret it :(

Christina - posted on 01/07/2012

I a christian mother of 2 adopted woman believes that it is a woman's choice, and that only god can judge her.
I was beat, raped and would go days with out food, water, toilet, heat... because my mother was told she would go to hell for having an abortion so she had me and then from the moment I was born to the moment I was taken out of her custody I had wished she would have killed me... it took a long time for me to find God trust and live my life... If thats how a woman is going to "raise" her child she shouldnt have that child... I see so many cases of children that are beaten, tourtured and murdered by their parents and to personally know some of that pain they lived saddens me, for them to go straight to god and never have to endure that suffering is much fairer then to have to live that cruel life...I also believe a woman shouldnt feel or be forced to carry a baby that was conceived from rape.. pregnancy is a hard thing and so is motherhood to have that horrible act on you followed by such hard things isnt fair, if a woman feels she can handle it and wants the baby thats great for her but if not how dare anyone judge her let her do as she wishes and live her life... everyone seems to agree if a woman would die from the pregnancy to end it is fine but why do people not think that if a woman cannot emotionally, mentally or financially handle it they should just suck it up? BC fails, rape happens, drunken stuppers happen that should mean that a child should suffer because they may want to live or things may work out in the long haul... Opinions are just those we may have different ones but I hope I can at least make it clear as to why I came to my conclusions.. bless you all and thank you for reading, please dont be to harsh on me

Faye - posted on 01/06/2012

Angie - thank you for sharing your story and thoughts and how this affected you! I really feel like the more we hear from women like yourself the bigger impression we'll make on our young women and guide them to do the right thing! Thank you again for sharing your story!

Carolina Grandmom!

Angie - posted on 01/06/2012

I don't think abortion should be an option unless the life of the mother is in danger. Period. Stopping the beating heart of a helpless baby who has no voice is murder. I had an unplanned pregnancy when I was 18, and I gave the child up for adoption. Best choice I ever made. She is now 19 years old, in college and a beautiful young lady. Adoption is tough, but 100% worth it for you and for the child. There are options besides murder.

Starla - posted on 01/05/2012

I was almost aborted. My mom was in a situation that anyone pro choice would have said sure probably best you'd both be better off. But 10 minutes before she changed her mind. Every day she is grateful she didn't kill me. I now have 3 little kids, her precious grandchildren. She would have had to live with my death every day of her life, but she didn't make that tragic choice. If anyone who reads this is thinking about having an abortion I am here to tell you please don't do it. If you have an appointment, please change your mind. I promise you that you will be grateful every single day that you did. I also have a friend who adopted a baby, you can't find a more loved child and every day my friend is grateful for her the birth mom who made the choice to give her life.

Faye - posted on 01/05/2012

Sweetheart - I couldn't agree with you more! I'm probably old enough to be your Grandmother, but I mirror your sentiments! I wish there were more young people out there that feels the way you do! I'm proud of you taking a stand and giving your baby a chance at life - no matter what the costs are! Thank you for sharing your opinion! It has renewed my faith in our younger generation!!!!

Carolina Grandmom

Lily - posted on 01/05/2012

I´m agree when it´s extreme cases like rape or if the baby come not well or put in danger Mother, other way having an abortion just because was a mistake it doesn´t justify.

Lily - posted on 01/05/2012

I´m agree when it´s extreme cases like rape or if the baby come not well or put in danger Mother, other way having an abortion just because was a mistake it doesn´t justify.

Jessica - posted on 01/01/2012

Would I like to live in a world where all girls and women use birth control? YESS. But that isnt the case so there has to be options.

Jessica - posted on 01/01/2012

Youre welcome we all have to respect each others views even if we dont agree.

Leissa - posted on 12/30/2011

It's really nice to have someone agreeing with me thanks Jessica : )

Jessica - posted on 12/30/2011

I agree with Leissa. Its none of my business what other women do. As long as its before 12 weeks to me its fine. Its like if a women knowsshe is incapable of taking care of it then so be it at least she wont end up like those dumbass mean mothers that we see. Another child that wont live a terrible life for yearssss.

Leissa - posted on 12/29/2011

I have had an abortion.I would support anyone who wanted to have one and as well as anyone who wanted to keep their child. It's not my place to make judgments or condemn anyone else or try and TELL them how to make their decisions.I stand firmly by my choice that I made that day. Ive been on both sides of the coin and I know it makes me a better mother and more understanding person. I was already the mother of 2 yr old triplets and fourth child was not something I was in the position to take on and I got on BC right after my procedure. I don't talk about my abortion ever really because how judgemental people can be but I'm proud of myself for having the strength to have an abortion and for being alone on the day of my abortion and still going through with it even though i was terrified. I can't imagine how my life would be had I had another fourth child. I love my life now more than ever !!!!! Having a abortion helped me really appreciate my circumstance and helped me to realize how good of a life I have as a young mother with a strong support system. I don't think I would have been able to stay in school if I had that baby.....I don't regret it but I wouldn't do it again.

Ikia - posted on 12/25/2011

Abortions are the worst thing that any women can ever take part in. Its killing a life that has no way to voice its own opinion it just has to suffer. Also it can affect your body in the long run to it can mess up your placenta making it hard to ever have a child. I am 18 years old and me and my boyfriend had got pregnant and my mother who claims to be against abortion FORCED me to get an abortion and it kills me to go about my days. I cant stand to look at a infant or pregnant women now cause I only want to cry. So from my experience I hate abortions now there really is a chance I will not be able to have children because I have RH NEGATIVE blood and pregnancies only get worst having this type of blood. I was already really sick when I was pregnant. But in the end everyone has there own opinions about abortions but I think after a certain time in a womens pregnancy they should not be able to have abortion I personally say once the baby has a heart beat. Its a really hard to live with the decision of killing an innocent baby. I feel guilty and its not even my fault cause if I could have fought her over it I would be 10weeks 2days but unfortunately she gave me the termination pill and I didnt kno :(

Kim - posted on 08/06/2011

To Tara Randol. In the true spirit of discussion which I know is hard in a very passionate discussion. In saying that my body is my own and no one can tell you what you can do with it. I offer this perspective to ponder. In our reality actually people tell you what to do with your body all the time. We are not allowed to take certain substances in our body, we are not allowed to run publicly nude. You get the idea the list could go on and on.

On a scientific level I offer this thought. At the moment of conception a new set of chromosomes are developed. Genetically they are similar to those of the biological mother and biological father, however 2 things; they are genetically human, and genetically unique to that individual. Just like a thumbprint, no person created before or after will EVER be the same. If you were to test that DNA in utero, at birth, at 6 months, at 60 years old. It would be the same and it would be human. Why is that DNA unique to that INDIVIDUAL PERSON (not yelling can't find out how to underline) protected at every aspect of their life AFTER birth but not BEFORE?

Does this make sense? I have thought about this. Religion aside. It is our DNA that makes us human. We all like the idea of respecting each other, it is what makes us abhor genocide, and forms of cruelty to each other that we can SEE (important aspect). These are my thoughts. I hope this perspective I have is useful to others. I believe in respect for all life. I would be grateful for the day no human is abused, in word or deed.

Ashley - posted on 06/20/2009

Quoting Tara:

You asked "what do you think?" but I don't think you're open to opinions that differ from yours. Well, I am going to be the first...on this thread, anyway.

My view on abortion is: if you don't agree with abortion, don't have one. No one but me has the right to decide what I can do with my body. I don't make your decisions for you and you should not be allowed to make mine for me. When it comes to abortion and adoption, they're two different topics. A woman who becomes pregnant has two choices: whether to parent or not to parent. If she chooses not to parent, then she has two more choices: relinquishment or abortion. I can't imagine carrying a baby for nine months only to give it to someone else when it's born. I know plenty of adoptees who say that they wish they had been aborted rather than having to live a life not knowing their biological family. Harsh? Maybe. But that's THEIR truth. I don't condemn you for your views; you're entitled to think and believe whatever you want. That's only one of the remarkable things about living in the USA. But I'm willing to bet, based on the tone of your post, that you won't do me the same courtesy simply because I disagree with you.

Again: if you're against abortion, don't have one. But don't tell anyone else what she should do with her body. That's not your right.

it's also no one's right to MURDER an unborn CHILD. a LIVING being. it's no one's right to decide who lives and who dies. our right is   life,   liberty,   and the pursuit of happiness.

Traci - posted on 06/17/2009

Quoting Rochelle:

So Tara, what you would have said less than 2000years ago of my ancestors is that slavery is bad but I am pro-choice. A person should have the choice to own a human being as property or not. If you don't like slavery don't own slaves. This is only taking into consideration the slave owner and not the human being being relegated to slavery. Yes, this sound ridiculous today to most people but this is the same kind of argument I see you offering in the killing of innocent defenseless human babies in the womb. My grandfather was the result of the rape of a 13 year old girl. Abortion was not legal back then and it never even crossed her mind to abort him. Rape is one of the rationales pro-choice/pro-abortion people give for having and abortion. Yet, my grandfather went on to become an honorable respected member of society, was a farmer, a minister and raised 19 children with my grandmother, the oldest of which was my mother. I would not be here had his mother aborted him.

Thank you for sharing that, Rochelle.  It is wonderful to hear of a wonderful man who was born of such terrible circumstances.  You should post this in Political Debating Moms.  I am weary of all the arguments for abortion being about rape.  Evil is not born, it is bred.  Just because a child is conceived in less-than-desirable terms does not make it any less of a human being or does not mean it has evil running through its DNA.  Children born in such circumstances can grown up to become lawful productive adults. 

Lori - posted on 06/17/2009

I don't mean to be insensitive to a very hard decision, Tara, but it is not a woman's body. The DNA is not an exact match to hers, it is a separate being. Part her DNA, part dad's, it is not part of her, it grows in her. She "incubates" the baby for a short 9 months (relatively speaking). If the baby could speak for itself, it would choose to grow and be born. Any way you look at it, once a woman is pregnant, life will never be the same. Prevention and abstinence are the key. Developmentally, an old person looks and acts very different from a newborn. Developmentally, the growing "fetus" is very different from the full term baby. It does not mean that it is not a human. "It" has human DNA, it is a human. It is growing, so there is life. Much like a seed planted in the ground. Just because you don't see the fruit yet, doesn't mean it is not living. It blows my mind that many of the people who cry over trees being cut don't give a second thought to abortion.

Rochelle - posted on 06/15/2009

Psalm 139:13-16. Sorry.

Rochelle - posted on 06/15/2009

Oops, Sorry Shayna. I don't know how I managed to get those extra letter in your name

Rochelle - posted on 06/15/2009

To z xShayna,

13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, 16 your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. Psalm 139:15,16 . This does not sound like a little bundle of nothing to me. Not religious? That is ok, but you are also out of the scientific loop because there is so much scientific evidence to prove that life does begin at conception. I have a degree in science and am a health care provider so if you would like to talk so called intelligent debates we can have one but I doubt if you would even be convinced then because it seems your is mind already closed despite all the overwhelming evidence out there (something you guys are fond of accusing us pro-life people of doing). Have you ever even been pregnant and seen that very first heartbeat on ultrasound at just a few weeks? If a sperm and egg having been successful in conception is not life then what is it and how did you get here? Think about it.