Anyone else find this offensive?

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Leanne - posted on 01/21/2010

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It's a contest that was poorly titled - if you don't like it MOVE ON. Yes, hiding it is the simplest, yet still a technically complicated way of dealing with it. To approve or disapprove of every contest is insane. Morality is learned and very few people today have a good moral compass - lack of morality seems to be the norm anymore.

Lacee - posted on 01/21/2010

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Maybe I have a different outlook on life, but I find it a little funny. Okay, more of a pathetic funny. Entering yourself in a contest shows just how little self esteem and self respect you have! I don't care either way that women are doing this, I don't find it offensive, they are free to do what they wish, however, I agree with comment that women (mother's especially) are supposed to be strong role models for their daughters. I shudder to think what will come of those women's daughters or what kind of men their sons will turn out to be if the parents are so focused on how they look. But it's also their right to enter a degrading contest, it's our choice to ignore it and educate our growing children on presenting yourself in an acceptable manner.

Shannon - posted on 01/20/2010

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MILF=Mother I'd like to F**k. Not exactly a goal that I have been aiming for. If other women are voting for this, and not men, it makes no sense. Oh wel...sounds like some woman was stuck on her looks, or some guy snuck on and just wanted a cheap thrill.

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I think we all have similar responses, so I am going to lock down this thread now. Thanks ladies. =)

Elena - posted on 01/23/2010

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To tell you the truth; I do not understand what the contest is about and probably do not want to.

Caryn - posted on 01/22/2010

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Wow. Really? Why would anyone think this was a good idea? I would expect more from a mom's group. This sounds like a contest that a bunch of drunk frat boys would come up with. Then again I've read some stuff on here that doesn't sound like it was written by moms or anyone who is playing with a full deck for that matter.

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Absolutely INAPPROPRIATE!!!!!!! It's too bad that the administrators have so little control over what is posted. Perhaps I should join a different group when things are tastefully monitored.

Cherie - posted on 01/22/2010

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I agree with you. But, unfortunately, not everyone will agree so we will just have to ignore it.

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Move on? I have heard that before. Here is my thinking. Yes, I could 'move on' but as you said,very few people today have a good moral compass. Well, then, how do you correct that? By calling people on bad behavior. How will they ever know it is not exceptable in society if no one ever says anything?

I agree, it would be nice if they did approve each contest. But I am also realistic. Giving us the option of 'hiding' it would be the only way to really handle it. There are many millions of member here on Circle of Mom's and I don't know who they would find to click through all the contests to approve or disapprove them. It's too bad people, in general, want to take the easy way out.

Candi - posted on 01/21/2010

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I hardly think hiding it is the best solution.......I think you are right and that submitting contests for approval before publishing is the best route. What if someone started a contest saying sexiest kid?? *God forbid*

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I guess. I don't know why they couldn't just have it so it had to wait to be approved before it was posted.....I don't know.

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Ok, here is the latest on this issue. I did finally receive a response. Here is the letter in it's entirety from Lisa Bland, one of the Circle of Moms admins.

Hi Brenda,

Sorry for the delay. I get an enormous amount of email and try to respond to every one.

Thanks for letting me know how you feel about this. The contest ran its course and is closed now, but I do want to address your concerns.

In answer to your question, this contest (and all other community-based contests) are initiated by members, and we do not vet the content. I agree with you completely that we need to give you more power over your experience, so that you do not have to see content like this if you don't want to.

We're working towards building a comprehensive set of tools that will allow you to do this, but it is a technically complicated piece of development. When it does roll out, each member of Circle of Moms will be able to hide people, comments, and content (such as contests) that she doesn't want to see.

Thanks for bearing with us in the mean time.

Best,
Lisa

Sandy - posted on 01/21/2010

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What wonderful role models those mothers are (I am being sarcastic of course). Why would other women want to vote for a MILF?? I guess I am getting old, but this entire thing is totally disgusting and immoral to me.

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Yes, Charessa it is. I have passed on the info from this thread onto the admin of Circle of Moms and have yet to receive a reply.

Gwen - posted on 01/21/2010

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Mothers I'd Like to (four letter word beginning with F and ending with K) is what MILF stands for. And yes, it's offensive because of the title of the contest. If moms look good after having children, that's fantastic! And if they want to show themselves off, so be it. But at least have the decency to use an acronym or word that means something POSITIVE; not something that denotes a sense of degradation and indecency.

Catherine - posted on 01/21/2010

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Totally offensive. And I feel sorry for women who are "proud" to be catagorized that way.

Cynthia - posted on 01/21/2010

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Hello??? Circle of MOMS...not a place for THAT. It's disgusting. I haven't checked the site, but knowing what MILF is, eww.

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Yes. That is offensive. If they named it "Prettiest Mom" or even "sexiest mom" I could go for that. It's really the title that's offensive.

Lisa - posted on 01/20/2010

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I also find it offensive. How many people actually know what MILF stands for? If I know what it means, I find it hard to believe most moms do not know!

Tasha - posted on 01/20/2010

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They must not have any self esteem if they have to swoop that low. Women are supposed to be strong role models, would they want there daughters to see them like that? I sure know I would be ashamed of my self if I entered that contest and anybody saw me on there. Gross.

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Ok, so I just played around with starting a photo contest and now realize that ANYONE on Circle of Moms (that includes men posing as women to get a off on a fetish) can start one and there doesn't seem to be any screening process taking place. No wait for approval etc. So, the content is not entirely reflective of Circle of Mom's administration, but an oversight on their part. I think I will suggest to them that each contest should be screened for appropriateness.

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You are right. I have seen all those contests, but when I saw the MILF one, I had to say something. I guess it just gives us a peek into the psyche of the creators here at Circle Of Moms.



I sent of the information to the admin of Circle of Moms and haven't heard from them...yet.

Gina - posted on 01/20/2010

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I also have to add that I have seen the best tattoo contest, the best pregnant belly contest, the hottest pregnant mom contest... etc. I think you get my point, I think it is all in poor taste. I think it's great to have a cutest kid contest, because everyone is proud of their children. They have gone too far with it.

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Thanks for your comments everyone. I will be passing on a copy of them to Circle of Moms to see if we can 'clean things up' here. If you wish to continue to contribute to this thread, please do and I will send them on with the rest of the comments as well.

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I think this MILF contest is highly inappropriate for this site. Can't we allow this site to be clean and informative and not get degraded by women with no morals and low self esteem. There are other sites on the Web that will take care of the needs of women like this. I am highly offended.

Robin - posted on 01/19/2010

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men are such pigs and very rude..women don't have a contest saying mmilf...military man id like to ....so get serious guys..get some balls and knock it off

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My sentiments exactly, Candi.

But, in this forum, there will be nothing of that sort here. Feel free to let us know how you feel and anything. =) Welcome to the group!

Candi - posted on 01/19/2010

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A M.I.L.F. contest hardly seems appropriate for a group that caters to mothers only. I am new here but I was under the impression that this was a place for moms to connect to one another. Rating each other on the F part is in poor taste indeed.

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I'm pretty sure they do. For the most part, I think they are the ones that submitted photos for the contest. I sent a message to COM admin to ask them all the details on how a contest works, but I haven't received a response yet.

Laura - posted on 01/19/2010

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I had to look it up too. Wow! Does anyone just get to put any photo contest they want up here? Little disappointed.

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The whole thing is distasteful. It's like most of them are a bunch of prostitutes or something - either that or they either have no self esteem or are narcisstic egomaniacs.

Kelley - posted on 01/19/2010

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ok. i'm wondering if shannon got her answer?
the next thing is..since it the m.i.l.F., contest why in the world would you have you child pictured with you!!!! ewe, ewe, ewe. disturbing!

Gina - posted on 01/18/2010

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Yes, I agree. I think it's great if you still look good after having kids, but the F in MILF is disgusting.

Cheryl - posted on 01/18/2010

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I just see a bunch of photos of women. What's the goal? I guess what is there to be offended about when they are offering themselves up and it's on Circle of Moms therefore other women are voting- not men. If they are that attention seeking and self absorbed- leave them to their own degredation...

Shannon Cassidy- - posted on 01/18/2010

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This may be a stupid question , but what is The M.I.L.F CONTEST ?

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