Father cusses in front of children

Jennifer - posted on 07/10/2011

This is just the beginning of the long conversation about parenting that you and your husband are going to have. I don't think you should accept him just ignoring you on this issue. You guys need to learn to work together as parents just as do as a couple. Let him know you need to find a solution that works for both of you.

Lindsay - posted on 12/21/2009

I have cussed in front of my kids and the first time one of the repeated what i said it made me stop and think the next time. A lot of people in my extended family cuss a lot and i just tell me kids those words are bad and shouldn't be repeated. My daughter is 9 and my son is 5 and so far they haven't cussed. So you're baby is only 2 months old, if you start out making sure your child knows those words are bad you shouldn't have a problem with that issue.

The real issue i see is your husband not respecting your wishes and doesn't even try to stop cussing. Try talking to him about it again and make your feelings about the issue known.

Vanessa - posted on 12/20/2009

My dad did cuss, but not that much. My mom cussed like a sailor. I, however do not cuss and neither does my sister. My dad used this analog; "people who cuss are not intelligent enough to think of other words, so they use cuss words to make them feel smarter." We are both grown now with children of our own. I think what should be done is just raise them the best way you know how and let them know that we make mistakes. Afterall we are not perfect.

Danielle - posted on 12/20/2009

Actually, I am guilty of swearing in front of the kids as well as my fiance, but my kids know better than to repeat them. I always tell them they shouldn't say those bad words when he does repeat them, and now my oldest will say "don't say that word" to us even if the word sounds like a swear word but isn't. You just have to keep on your toes,and if your daughter starts, just keep telling her they're bad words and not to say them, or whatever works in your situation.

Jeanette - posted on 11/19/2009

It will definitely depend on how your husband feels and how he takes it. I have a 2 month old son and my husband still cusses. He is definitely trying to watch his language, but he still slips. When he does I scold him for it, just like I will if/when my son starts repeating the language. I don't know if your husband will appreciate the scolding though; it might just cause resentment.

Lenora - posted on 11/17/2009

I dont think it matters what the sex of your child is, they can pick up the cuss words regardless. You just need to ream into his head that he needs to watch what he says because you dont want your child to grow up in that kind of enviorment and you dont like those words to be used around the baby because further down the road she could pick those words up and use them. You cant change him, but you can ask him to respect you and your child. Good Luck hun.

Brenda - posted on 11/17/2009

Well, thankfully your child is a girl. I think it would be harder if you had a son. Boys look up to and idolize their father. But because your daughter will be looking to you as a role model, you can have more influence to teach her how to act like a lady. You can teach her that true ladies don't resort to that kind of language.



*Disclaimer* I am just shooting from the hip here with the advice because I have 4 boys...lol! So far, we don't have the issue of swearing or saying words that sound similar because they know if they do, I get out my good ol' bar or Ivory soap! lol