Jen - posted on 02/08/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
Okay, so there I was having a nice visit with my family and my father and sister (mid 30's) started talking about our nation's medical system. Immediately my sister-a liberal- got emotional and started yelling about how we need socialized medicine and that since she went classes in her graduate degree on our medical system we need to defer to her because she's educated and we're ludites since we're conservatives. Literally after 2 sentences of us not agreeing with her opinion she became very agitated and started packing her things and rambling on and on (you know the deal, Bush, Fox News, Corporations, Greed, Big Oil...) I'm not going to get into the whole argument but I encouraged her to not be so emotional and just talk about her opinion. I thought both my dad and I were very nice but she just lost her mind. She was very hostile and charged me and with her full force pushed me. That wouldn't have been the end of the world but I was standing on the stairs (like top of a flight of stairs) with my now 1 year old son in my arms. Honestly, the angle we were at she could have really hurt us (had I dropped my son or lost my balance the fall to concrete would have been about 9 feet or so over a railing, or just tumble down about 6 linoleum stairs). Thank God I'm not a little girl. I feel really bad for her because she's got a little one and I remember when I first had a baby my head was also messed up from time to time but I wouldn't have DREAMED of harming another mama with their baby in their arms.
I love my sister and am just devistated that she would think of harming my baby by acting like that. I know that families fight but in this deal I do feel like an innocent bystander, it was more between she and my dad and I was trying to be really nice. I know that time heals wounds and all that stuff but the things she was saying were very personally ugly and I just really saw how incredibly intolerant of her "uneducated" family she actually is. I saw how genuinely ugly liberals can be at their core when all guards are down. I just don't feel someone that is that incredibly condescending to differing points of view is someone worth spending a heckuva lot of time with.
She felt terrible, was crying, apologizing...I know she feels awful and my heart is breaking for her.
I just wonder what you folks would do if you were in my shoes.
Devistated in Minnesota...