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how do you organize your big family while husband works away from home?

Northernmom - posted on 06/20/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hi, Im new to this website. Im a conservative, proud, stay at home mom of three girls. I love my job but lately, with dear husband gone for months on end working in the oil fields, I find it difficult organizing my home life. The girls are ages 9, 5 and 1 1/2. I just finished weaning my 11/2 year old and I feel pooped. I clean the house and do the laundry everyday, cook and bake everyday, take the dog out 3 times, let the kids take care of their family pets. I end up waking up earlier and earlier just to stay on top of everything. I wonder if I should let the house get dirty sometimes and stop feeling guilty. Its almost summer break and I fear that if I dont have a schedual in place for these kids, I will surely break down. What should I do ?

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Kelley - posted on 06/21/2012

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this might seem overly simple but as far as the house is concerned, 10 -10 - 10. My children were having issues with 'erverybody elses' mess as if somehow this naul and voided their own responsibility. They also found it completely acceptable to just leave a mess or item that they deemed 'not their own' rather than just doing the right thing and stop passing the buck.



So this is were 10-10-10 became a workable solution and maximized my time. ...



Starting with breakfast Each child had to spend 10minutes in a designated area. they didn't have to make it perfect or even get it quite complete, just as long as they gave me their best pick-up during that 10min. the same thing is repeated at lunch and dinner, and each time they moved on to another area. this also creates a continuos cycle of maintenance and since it's only 10 minutes and we are all focusing then no-one feels unfairly designated in their work or missing out on something that might be going on, because we're all doing the same thing. the

the part i like the best is that I am getting an extra 30 minutes of help from each child, the way I look at it ... Now we all have more time to play :)

My adult children, grand children, and even my husband chip in rather happily. It makes good training so that 'Hopefully' As adults they will have consistent pattern of upkeep.



Oh yeah, to the out of town thing... this has become part of my life right now. and my best suggestion is that if you are wanting to have your children involved in activities do your best to find friends that you can invole your children in the same activities, because having to run everyday can and has been the most disruptive thing, at least in my situation, but if you can find other parents the you can car-pool with or even get together with so that you still have a team effort it will be invaluable.

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