Pro-Life Birth Control Question

Amanda - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies. I'm amanda. I just had a baby on August 10, and still have a little while before the doctor will OK sex, especially since I had a C-section, but I'm wondering about birth control.

I am breastfeeding, so my Dr. prescribed the Errin minipill. She kind of rushed me out of the appointment, so I didn't have time to express my concerns. I filled the prescription and went home. When I read the insert in the box, I was disappointed to learn that one of the ways this pill works is by preventing implantation of a fertilized egg by making the lining of the uterus a hostile environment for a zygote. As someone who believes that life begins with conception, I cannot use this pill.

Do any of you have any good suggestions for a breastfeeding mom who needs a good, pro-life birth control? I admit that I take my convictions further than even most conservative moms, but I feel that a fertilized egg is a baby. Are there any birth controls that you know of that prevent sperm from entering the uterus, or prevent ovulation? The only one I can think of is condoms, and well...ick.

Thanks for any suggestions.

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Michelle - posted on 09/04/2009

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OK, well, I have no problem not debating this, so let me just allow the people who make the birth control pill speak for themselves.



According to the manufacturer of Yaz, "Birth control pills work in 3 ways... The lining of the uterus (endometrium) is altered in a way that reduces the likelihood of implantation of the egg." http://www.yaz-us.com/consumer/about_yaz...



The maker of OrthoTriCyclen says, "Taking the Pill causes the lining of the uterus to change, which makes it hard for an egg to be implanted." http://www.thepill.com/thepill/aboutorth...



They also explain how the OrthoEvra Patch works: "ORTHO EVRA® helps prevent pregnancy the same way birth control pills do ... and by changing the endometrium to reduce the chance of implantation." http://www.orthoevra.com/question-about-...



Maybe the people who make these drugs don't know how they work. Maybe they are lying. Or maybe hormonal birth control really does what they say it does.

Laura - posted on 09/05/2009

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Whether you are Catholic or not you may want to check for any natural family planning in your area. I had a baby in January and the Doctor asked what type of BC I wanted-when I said I didn't want any his jaw dropped. We use NFP , have a healthy marital relationship and have not had any unexpected miracles! I hope that you can find something that works for your family!

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Joy - posted on 01/14/2014

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If your serious about using a birthcontro method that does not effect the lining of your uterus your ONLY options are condoms and the like (i.e female condoms, cervical caps, diaphrams.) you can ALSO do Natural Family Planning method and track your menstrual cycle, avoiding sex on the days your most fertile (usually about 4-5 days) or the barrier method where you use condoms fduring fertile days. this method has only a 1% failure rate if followed diligently. (http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/200...)

Amanda - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting Lenora:



Quoting Christa:

Actually some pills do get rid of fertilized eggs others do not. Some choose to believe it's all pills, but there is no scientific evidence to back that up. For sure IUD’s and some other methods do, but there are some pills that are safe to use, from an abortion stand point. To each their own, but I wanted to make sure the correct information is getting out there.






This is what I was going to get at but you made my point for me so thank you.






 






Poster... I didnt think you wanted to debate? Sometimes when you ask for advice and then bash or undermind people that are trying to help you it makes you look like a jerk. A lot of these ladies were trying to help and you got really defensive which I don think was the point of your post??





Hmm....I don't think I bashed or undermined anyone here. Sorry if it came off that way. I looked at everything I posted just now, and I didn't see anything that I would consider offensive. I actually appreciate the help. It's a little harsh that you would refer to me as a jerk.

Lindsay - posted on 09/29/2009

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The only 100% safe way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. Condoms are probably your next best choice.

I didn't like the side effects birth control had on me so i stopped shortly after starting. I will take whatever kids im meant to have and so far i only have two :).

Lenora - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting Christa:

Actually some pills do get rid of fertilized eggs others do not. Some choose to believe it's all pills, but there is no scientific evidence to back that up. For sure IUD’s and some other methods do, but there are some pills that are safe to use, from an abortion stand point. To each their own, but I wanted to make sure the correct information is getting out there.



This is what I was going to get at but you made my point for me so thank you.



 



Poster... I didnt think you wanted to debate? Sometimes when you ask for advice and then bash or undermind people that are trying to help you it makes you look like a jerk. A lot of these ladies were trying to help and you got really defensive which I don think was the point of your post??

Lenora - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



Quoting Lenora:

There is no birth control on the market that doesnt get rid of the egg in the process.





There is no birth control PILL on the market that doesnt get rid of the [fertilized] egg in the process.  There are other forms of birth control.  Spermicide, diaphragms, contraceptive sponges, or other "barrier" methods will not affect a fertilized egg in any way.  There's also natural family planning, which takes more work but I have heard many good things about it.  (This is not "pulling out" or just making sure to have sex at the beginning of the cycle, it is a scientific method that involves charting, taking your temperature, etc.  You would need to get a good book on the method and follow it scrupulously.)






 






Quoting Lenora:

I share a different view on the egg being a baby as in order to be a life it would have to be fertilized. You however are 100% allowed your opinion. :)





BTW, Lenora, I think you misunderstand what the pill does.  We are not talking about unfertilized eggs.  Hormonal birth control thins the lining of the uterus to prevent FERTILIZED eggs from implanting.  So an egg that has already been fertlized and become a new life may be flushed out of the body because it could not implant in the uterus.  This is only intended as a back-up in case the primary function of the pill (preventing ovulation) fails, but you would never know if it happened to you or not.






My sister, who is a doctor says what you say is rare. I wasnt trying to bash you, I was looking at it from a medical standpoint. I thought you were asking for advice, not bashing people who didnt agree with you?



 



At any rate, good luck to you.

Lisa - posted on 09/11/2009

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I got the Mirena IUD because I like the convenience, and the way it works. Within 3 months, it prevents the release of eggs altogether (I like that because it's only with the completion of egg inventory that menopause starts, so I feel like I'm postponing that!!) and as a result it minimizes or stops periods altogether. (No egg, no period. I like it!)

I also like that it's good for 5 years, and that if you decide to have another child in that time that it's easy to remove and the effects wear off usually in the first month without it, because there was no major changes in the system. It simply gives off the same hormone that stops egg release in pregnancy. (But not the pregnancy hormone, so no, you won't get a false positive on a pregnancy test!)

The only downside that I've observed is the intense cramping in the first few weeks.. it feels like the first day of a heavy flow, complete with the feeling of blood-loss although there wasn't any. I didn't take anything for it, but I've heard Midol or Pamprin works well for that, and it passed relatively quickly.

Do I sound like a sales rep or what? :) No, I don't work for Mirena, but I do love it! For 4 years, between my daughter and son, we used the rhythm and withdrawal methods and they worked very well.... but we got tired of that and it was either I get something that works or he was getting snipped. Since I'm no good with pills or any other BC that I'd have to remember, an implant of some sort was my best bet. Having had it for the past 5 months, I HIGHLY recommend it to everyone who asks me about BC. It's safe, reliable, reversible, and moral.. works all around.

Heather - posted on 09/06/2009

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sry but thats what all birth control pills do. so your only option is condoms...

Michelle - posted on 09/05/2009

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Amanda be proud of how far you are willing to take your convictions! You are right a fertizled egg is a baby. Thank you for being willing to not only stand for your convictions but to voice them outloud as well.

Christa - posted on 09/04/2009

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You are free to believe what you want. Like I've said I've done research on it and there is not evidence that all pills do this. I would rather girls/women be using the pill then get pregnant and have an abortion. I'm not going to debate this with you, it was not the point of this thread. I just didn't want people to get the wrong information, I want people to look into for themselves and make the decision that works best for them. That is all.

Cheryl - posted on 09/02/2009

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I think condoms are your only option other than tubal ligation or some other surgical procedure. Every other birth control method I know of prevents the formation of the uterin lining so the egg doesn't attach.

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I think the diaphragm is the only other (besides condoms) that would fit your needs. It's the only other method I can think of that doesn't involve hormones & fertilized eggs, etc. Any kind of natural method would be very difficult until your period returns regularly.

Amanda - posted on 09/01/2009

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The pill that I was prescribed indicates in the insert that it only prevents ovulation in 50% of a woman's cycles. Some pills may do more or less, but I think that if there is a chance for an egg to be fertilized in half my cycles, then that is too much because in the other half, the zygote is being flushed out :(

Christa - posted on 09/01/2009

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I don't want to get into a debate about it, been there done that, ;-) I did a lot of research about this myself when it was first brought to my attention and there is not enough proof to back up such a claim. I would hate for some women to think she's being responsible and then suddenly be told that she's actually probably had several abortions with her pill. It's important to research the subject for yourself and some to your own conclusion.

Michelle - posted on 09/01/2009

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Quoting Christa:

Actually some pills do get rid of fertilized eggs others do not. Some choose to believe it's all pills, but there is no scientific evidence to back that up. For sure IUD’s and some other methods do, but there are some pills that are safe to use, from an abortion stand point. To each their own, but I wanted to make sure the correct information is getting out there.


Every brand of birth control pill that I have looked up says in their information that they do thin the lining of the uterus as a back-up to the primary function of preventing ovulation.  It's in the insert they give you, and on their websites.  Even Planned Parenthood's website says that this is how hormonal birth control pills work.  If you know a brand that doesn't, please share.

Christa - posted on 08/31/2009

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Actually some pills do get rid of fertilized eggs others do not. Some choose to believe it's all pills, but there is no scientific evidence to back that up. For sure IUD’s and some other methods do, but there are some pills that are safe to use, from an abortion stand point. To each their own, but I wanted to make sure the correct information is getting out there.

Rebecca - posted on 08/31/2009

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Wow, I did not know this about birth control pills. I haven't taken them in years. I stopped because of the side effects and never took them again. I will never take them again.

Michelle - posted on 08/31/2009

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Quoting Lenora:

There is no birth control on the market that doesnt get rid of the egg in the process.


There is no birth control PILL on the market that doesnt get rid of the [fertilized] egg in the process.  There are other forms of birth control.  Spermicide, diaphragms, contraceptive sponges, or other "barrier" methods will not affect a fertilized egg in any way.  There's also natural family planning, which takes more work but I have heard many good things about it.  (This is not "pulling out" or just making sure to have sex at the beginning of the cycle, it is a scientific method that involves charting, taking your temperature, etc.  You would need to get a good book on the method and follow it scrupulously.)



 



Quoting Lenora:

I share a different view on the egg being a baby as in order to be a life it would have to be fertilized. You however are 100% allowed your opinion. :)


BTW, Lenora, I think you misunderstand what the pill does.  We are not talking about unfertilized eggs.  Hormonal birth control thins the lining of the uterus to prevent FERTILIZED eggs from implanting.  So an egg that has already been fertlized and become a new life may be flushed out of the body because it could not implant in the uterus.  This is only intended as a back-up in case the primary function of the pill (preventing ovulation) fails, but you would never know if it happened to you or not.

Christa - posted on 08/31/2009

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We used condoms, because I don't ever want to go on the pill again and I'm super fertile. Also my mom got pregnant when I was 10 wks old and it was ectopic and burst her tube since she had no idea she was pregnant until it was too late. I didn't want to take the chance. They say that nursing isn't 100% unless they nurse 24 hours a day because it's the sucking that prevents the ovulation. So while you are not nursing you could drop an egg. Anyway I know they suck, we used them for a year, but it was better then getting pregnant before we were ready. You could always try natural planning, but that's pretty hard to do when you aren't having a period.

Gina - posted on 08/31/2009

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Wow, I didn't know that the mini pill did that. I nursed all of my children, and didn't take birth control while I was nursing. I don't get pregnant while I nurse,luckily. I know some women still can. So I guess condoms would be the best bet.

Lenora - posted on 08/31/2009

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There is no birth control on the market that doesnt get rid of the egg in the process. Condoms are probably what your going to be looking at. I share a different view on the egg being a baby as in order to be a life it would have to be fertilized. You however are 100% allowed your opinion. :)

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