So suddenly I'm a racist

Amy - posted on 10/28/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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O boy where do I begin...kinda funny but not. In the last election I didn't vote for Obama I vote for McCain...and for some reason this bugs my mom. Ever since I was l can remember I hav always ben democrat through association, meaning if my parens were dems so was I, so I have always voted dem, up until last year. Now I live in WI my parents live in CA. I talk to my mom every week about once or twice a week and for about 2-3 hrs, yes, lol I talk to my mom alot. I call her for advice or just the general chit chat...well last week we were talking and I mentioned something about Brazil winning the olympiads and she said she was against it and I said I was for them winning that Chicago didn't deserve it, then I went onto say that Chicago was a cesspool of violence and crime, I live in Milwaukee, about an hour and 10 min from Chicago, so I get the news from down there and then suddenly out of no where she called me a "racist" and wow I ws floored and I was like what...what do yo mean...so she proceeds to say that I am being coaxed by my hubby, who has been a repulican for quite sometime, but he too has voted dem, but now is full blown republican, anywho she says that Chris (hubby) is "influencing" me and that he votes repub. because he's white...so I lost it and told her that there are alot of latinos who vote republican not just white people and that there has been a huge increase w/ latinos switching parties...o my it wa bad, well not bad, but just very uncomfortable, so I guess I'm writing to vent, still annoyed and there is no use in talkin to her about politics especially about Obama, lol it's like she defends everything he does and it just irks me..I left the conversation saying this to her "well I'm sorry you don't like the fact that I have officially changed over to the 'other side" of politics but your savior is going to be the end of the USA and of couse she got mad, fuming I'd say, I love her and the thing that kills me is that before Obama was in office we always talked politics but ever since the voting things have changed in the way we talk to each other, ahhh thanks ladies for readng this!

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My mother was born in Puerto Rico and my father is half. Most of my family is Republican but I do understand the loyalty that minorities have to the democratic party. They have been told that they will never achieve the American dream on their own because of their "status" in society. The only way they can accomplish anything is with the support of the government. Now, call me crazy but I believe in that old saying, "you can do anything you put your mind to". Your mother is the product of typical indoctrination of the democrats. Be an example to her. Remind her that you love this country, it's freedom's and all the opportunity that it provides. It is that which drives your views and opinions. Good Luck.

Jackie - posted on 10/30/2009

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well, good for you, stickin to your guns. maybe its not so much who u voted for as your moms having a hard time with the fact that you r your own person and thats what she needs to realize. maybe next time instead of arguing politics, point out to her what i good job she has done as a mother, that u have become an adult who uses your own mind to make decisions and that she taught u to be a good american who is intersted in our country, rather your opinions differ. either way theres no changing some peoples mind so just grin and bear it, and leave the political talks between yourself and your husband, who shares your views. also, i dont see any thing racist in voting for the person you believe is best for the job!!

Traci - posted on 10/30/2009

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Well, I'm from Chicago, I've got family who are cops there...and you are absolutely right that its a cesspool of violence and crime and it had no business asking to host the 2016 Olympics. It has nothing to do with race...the truth is the truth. That's unfortunate you are arguing over politics. I understand. Much of my mom's family are all dems and we debate often about this stuff too.



You should also tell her that many latinos do vote Republican. Many are Catholic and vote R due to their stance on abortion.

Nancey - posted on 10/30/2009

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Sorry about your conflict with your mom. I'm glad that you can see what's going on and not give in to please her. It seems to me that anyone who doesn't have a fact-based argument resorts to the 'racist' card.

Dina - posted on 10/30/2009

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It's a shame that your relationship with your mom is being affected by this. If anything, it should open the door to healthy debate. My husband and I are in the same boat with his family, but he rarely shuts down and they get irritated as a result. My mother-in-law, for instance, often regurgitates the day's soundbites from CNN and then has absolutely no explanation for why she agrees. So frustrating. Not sure what to recommend because it's so maddening feeling like you have to keep your political views to yourself in order to appease the not-so-open liberal mindset. Best of luck. I sure do hope your mother comes around and appreciates that you, at least, have given some thought to your beliefs instead of simply falling for a campaign slogan without understanding why - like so many have in the last year.

Amy - posted on 10/30/2009

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Ha! I'm not the only one! I was NEVER Dem, my mother just assumed I was, then when the election started getting heated, we got to talking politics and she about threw up she was so disgusted with me. The funny thing is, out of myself, 3 sisters, and my father, not one of us is dem! My mom tried to blame my husband as well, the funny thing is, he was never that big into politics before we met :D.
My mom has told me (because she was born and raised in Germany) that socialism works great and she doesn't know anybody who complains about the programs, blah blah blah...I had to bite my tongue, I wanted so bad to tell her (as I have told others) if you like it so much over there, GO BACK! lol I love my mom and would never want her to move, but it is just my common response to a stupis answer like that :D

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So sorry to hear that. That would be tough to listen to, especially coming from your mother. But you are right. Some people just can't see the road we are on. I hope it doesn't become a wedge between you as it sounds like you are very close. I have a brother very much like your mom and I have to just resign myself to never speak politics with him anymore if I still want a relationship with him.

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