So suddenly I'm a racist

Hayley - posted on 11/03/2009

My mother was born in Puerto Rico and my father is half. Most of my family is Republican but I do understand the loyalty that minorities have to the democratic party. They have been told that they will never achieve the American dream on their own because of their "status" in society. The only way they can accomplish anything is with the support of the government. Now, call me crazy but I believe in that old saying, "you can do anything you put your mind to". Your mother is the product of typical indoctrination of the democrats. Be an example to her. Remind her that you love this country, it's freedom's and all the opportunity that it provides. It is that which drives your views and opinions. Good Luck.

Jackie - posted on 10/30/2009

well, good for you, stickin to your guns. maybe its not so much who u voted for as your moms having a hard time with the fact that you r your own person and thats what she needs to realize. maybe next time instead of arguing politics, point out to her what i good job she has done as a mother, that u have become an adult who uses your own mind to make decisions and that she taught u to be a good american who is intersted in our country, rather your opinions differ. either way theres no changing some peoples mind so just grin and bear it, and leave the political talks between yourself and your husband, who shares your views. also, i dont see any thing racist in voting for the person you believe is best for the job!!

Traci - posted on 10/30/2009

Well, I'm from Chicago, I've got family who are cops there...and you are absolutely right that its a cesspool of violence and crime and it had no business asking to host the 2016 Olympics. It has nothing to do with race...the truth is the truth. That's unfortunate you are arguing over politics. I understand. Much of my mom's family are all dems and we debate often about this stuff too.



You should also tell her that many latinos do vote Republican. Many are Catholic and vote R due to their stance on abortion.

Nancey - posted on 10/30/2009

Sorry about your conflict with your mom. I'm glad that you can see what's going on and not give in to please her. It seems to me that anyone who doesn't have a fact-based argument resorts to the 'racist' card.

Dina - posted on 10/30/2009

It's a shame that your relationship with your mom is being affected by this. If anything, it should open the door to healthy debate. My husband and I are in the same boat with his family, but he rarely shuts down and they get irritated as a result. My mother-in-law, for instance, often regurgitates the day's soundbites from CNN and then has absolutely no explanation for why she agrees. So frustrating. Not sure what to recommend because it's so maddening feeling like you have to keep your political views to yourself in order to appease the not-so-open liberal mindset. Best of luck. I sure do hope your mother comes around and appreciates that you, at least, have given some thought to your beliefs instead of simply falling for a campaign slogan without understanding why - like so many have in the last year.

Amy - posted on 10/30/2009

Ha! I'm not the only one! I was NEVER Dem, my mother just assumed I was, then when the election started getting heated, we got to talking politics and she about threw up she was so disgusted with me. The funny thing is, out of myself, 3 sisters, and my father, not one of us is dem! My mom tried to blame my husband as well, the funny thing is, he was never that big into politics before we met :D.
My mom has told me (because she was born and raised in Germany) that socialism works great and she doesn't know anybody who complains about the programs, blah blah blah...I had to bite my tongue, I wanted so bad to tell her (as I have told others) if you like it so much over there, GO BACK! lol I love my mom and would never want her to move, but it is just my common response to a stupis answer like that :D

Brenda - posted on 10/28/2009

So sorry to hear that. That would be tough to listen to, especially coming from your mother. But you are right. Some people just can't see the road we are on. I hope it doesn't become a wedge between you as it sounds like you are very close. I have a brother very much like your mom and I have to just resign myself to never speak politics with him anymore if I still want a relationship with him.