4 year old pooping at school.

Tara - posted on 02/11/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am so lost. My 4 year old son keeps crapping his pants at school. He is in 4k from 8:30 - 3:30. I took him in for constipation since that was the first issue and that is resolved but he is still pooping at school. Any suggestions?

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June - posted on 08/19/2012

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Couple thoughts:
Pooping in pants can be anything from stress to a sign of abuse. My first 2 were sexually abused, and my boy pooped in his pants daily. Of course I handled it wrong, until I found out they were being abused. After taking them out of that situation, he shortly stopped pooping his pants.
My second son was scared of the loud toilets also. Time and making a game of bye-bye helped. We would go in the handicap stall in a store and let him know it was going to be loud, let him wave bye-bye and flush it himself.
My second son also had a "thing" about wiping his butt. He didn't want to get poop on his hand. Well, watched him, and he was balling up the TP into a little ball. That wasn't going to help! Taught him how to take 4-6 pieces in a row (still attached to each other) and fold it to cover his hand, how to hold it against his butt as he wiped. Need to also teach him it's okay to "wrap" it around your hand, then take it off and use it so you know it's long enough.

Amanda - posted on 02/12/2009

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I have the same problem with my 5 year old. It is so frustrating. I staarted handing him toilet paper and the checking. I also sometimes will hand him baby wipes and just have him throw them in the garbage can. It is a process and takes some time. Good luck!

Tara - posted on 02/12/2009

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Thanks for the replies. I have a new development on my son's situtation. Finally, after months of doing this, he told Grandma yesterday that he doesn't like wiping his butt. I always just do it for him at home and never thought about the affects it would have for him at school. My next step is teaching him to wipe. Any ideas in this area?

Trish - posted on 02/12/2009

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My oldest daughter had a constipation problem that started in Kindergarten. At first she was afraid to go to the bathroom in school because the school's toilets were automatic flush toilets. They allowed the student's to place a paper over the sensor and that helped but then my child was afraid of the noise from the toilet. Needless to say she went on medications, like fiber, that helped. We also increased the amount of fiber and water in her diet. But the biggest thing we did to help her was have a talk with the teacher (and a note from her doctor) that allowed her to go to the bathroom whenever she felt the urge. It did not matter what time of day or what was going on, she was allowed to get up and leave for the bathroom instead of holding it and losing the urge to go. We also found out she was lactose intolerant and this contributed to her constipation. She is now 8 and able to go to the bathroom on a normal schedule though she still hates the noise of the toilet flushing and she prefers to use the handicap stalls so she can get as far away from the noise as possible. She hasn't had an accident in over a year.

Amanda - posted on 02/12/2009

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my just turned 5 boy also been doing the poo in pants thing. i tried everything from talking about it, ignoring it, getting cross. nothing was working until i spoke to his teacher who has made a huge effort with a sticker chart with a reward if he gets a full of week of stickers. so far it is working. out of interest, we also had huge constipation problems with him from about 2 and I do think the two issues are related. good luck

Felicity - posted on 02/11/2009

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i have a 4yr old lad who is the same he starts school in september also as been to hospital they say it constipation but got tht sorted but he still poos himself. i glad im nt alone on this

Julia - posted on 02/11/2009

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I have a friend with a 5 yr old boy who was having this problem, we have since solved it by undertanding that he was distracted too much by what he was doing, eg. playing games or listening to the teacher, have a word with the school and see if they can assist you in reminding him to go to the toilet and not to hold it for too long

Vickie - posted on 02/11/2009

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He could be embarrassed about going at school on their toilets? I know this could be an issue. May-be trying to hold it in till he comes home?

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