5 year old-change in behaviour

Lucia - posted on 12/21/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My five year old has had a huge change in attitude the last few weeks. He has gone from being kind and helpful and someone who always told me the truth when questioned about something, to rude, bossy and always snatching things and being aggressive if he doesn't get what he wants and he will get very loud and shout that he hates me etc and he has begun to lie about little things too. If he is put in a time-out he will throw things at the door and cry and cry and there is no reasoning with him.He has a friend {6} who lives up the road from us with his dad, and this boy is a bit of a menace he always goes off on his own, does dangerous things that a 6 year old shouldn't be doing in my opinion..he's always encouraging my son to go to the park with him or ride down the road on their scooters, without an adult looking after them as this little boy is allowed. I am not comfortable with that! I think he is way too young. He is also quite rude if I say my son can't go and doesn't have very good manners at the best of times. In our household it is Mr 5, myself and my mother. My son's dad lives a 4 hour drive away and he rarely sees him. I don't know if any of that has anything to do with it but both myself and my mother are finding this new attitude and aggressive behaviour a huge handful and very difficult to deal with.

Any suggestions PLEASE? This is not my precious little baby!! :(

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Lucia - posted on 12/21/2012

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Thanks for the reply :). At the moment the only other children he is around often is my sister's son who is 7 but he usually lives with his dad and has a bit of an authority issue when he comes here. I might have a look at the library.. My mum jokes that it all goes downhill once kids start school but surely there must be something productive I can do to encourage better behaviour. I read to him every night {or he reads to me} and he loves that. If I try to set a consequence like taking away computer time when he's played up or been rude he will react the way he does with time out and that is not pleasant. He use to be so good when he had a time out, he would just sit and wait until time was up and then say sorry but now it's like he feels that he doesn't deserve to be in trouble and that I'm just a "meanie". I never grew up with my father around-or any male role model for that matter and it was always just me, my mum and my sister so I don't know if this is just a phase boys go through..?

Annu - posted on 12/21/2012

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Not sure, but if my child started being rude, first they would have consequences _ no comuter time/ tv time etc. I would also try reading to them and spending more time with them at bed time etc. 5 is still very very young and we have the right to scrutinize their friends and see who is good for them. Are there any other children around? or someone from his school whom youcan call for play dates.
there are a lot of books you can get for children that show desirable behaviour. that could help.
sorry if I am not being very helpful, but i'd be lost too if my kids started acting that way.
PS - my son is ADHD and can be quite rude and impulsive at times, but he does show his love for us at all times.. (we just have to ignore his mouth occasionaly)

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