5 yr old's tantrums!

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I have 5 yr old twin boys and one of them has been behaving terribly for the last month or two. He is disrespectful to me and uses a tone of authority with me. He will say things like, "If you don't let me do_____, then I will _____. I have had two occasions with him lately where he will have a full out tantrum. He weighs about 70 lbs and I physically cannot lift him. One time he was at school and threw a fit because I picked him up from school instead of letting him ride the bus home. I even told him that morning that I would be picking them up. When I walked out the door with him, he started crying and screaming that he wanted to take the bus. It took me 45 minutes to leave the school! He ran through the parking lot, kicked a car, and hit my arm. So far, he has had three outbursts like that and I don't know what to do! I feel so out of control, mostly because I can't pick him up and leave. I am at a loss. The last time this happened, I brought him home and made him sit in his room for a long time. Eventually, on his own, he will come out and apologize. I don't know how to teach him to be more respectful. Most of the time, he is the sweetest kid; he likes to hug and is very polite. But when he starts these tantrums, I don't know what to do. The last time this happened it was because he wouldn't go to Religion class, which we pay for!! I tried telling him that behavior was unacceptable and that when we got home he would have to go to his room and he couldn't play with his favorite toys. Any advice??

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Julie - posted on 10/18/2009

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Sending him to his room is still somewhere fun according to my kids. My kids hate the corner. My husband makes the kids stand in the corner, hands down at their side and no leaning on the wall. This works! They hate staring at a wall. Crying gives them more time, asking to get out gives them more time. When we are ready to let them out of the corner, we ask them why were they in the corner? If they don't know, they stand longer. We've been doing the corner since my son's first temper tantrum at 2. He's 9 now and we still use the corner today with my son and my daughter. Hope this works.

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