6 year old daughter screams, spits and name calling!

Emma - posted on 01/10/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have 3 children my eldest is 6 and youngest 20 months with possible special needs. My 6 year old daughter has screamed for anything and everything since she was 2. It is becoming progressively worse. She calls me names and comments on my weight. When asked to do something she screams, when spoken to she makes noises, when she doesn't get her way she screams, spits at you and hits out. I'm lost at what to do. we have tried the naughty step, banning tv and toys and sending her to her room which she will trash within seconds. She has got into biting her clothes and trying to destroy them. I try to ignore her but I can't. I have 2 other children watching this behaviour. Two of the biggest difficulties are getting her in the bath and getting dressed for school..she just refuses! She is very well behaved at school and is intelligent. How do I stop this pattern of behaviour? I'm dreading the teen years.

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Candy - posted on 01/11/2011

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Bust her Butt ! Stop trying different things and stick to one and keep doing it no matter what. You have to stick to it or you want break the habit you have started in her. You know she can behave because you say she does at school. She is playing ya'll like a fiddle.

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Angie - posted on 01/11/2011

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Wow, she has some major anger issues. Have you thought of taking her to therapy? I'm not saying she has a mental illness but these professionals can give you great ideas for anger management. When she becomes so angry that she is out of control, pull her down on your lap and restrain her - hold her right hand in your left and her left in your right crossing them over her chest and hold her there until she settles down - be careful not to get head butted. She is going to hurt either herself or someone else. Remove everything but her bed and clothes from her bedroom so that there is absolutely nothing she can destroy or entertain herself with. Be consistent; every time this behavior starts, restrain her then put her in her room and leave her there until she can act appropriately. If she pulls her bed apart, so what? She'll just have to sleep with it that way - same with her clothing. As far as not getting ready for school - no biggie, send her in her pajamas. Doesn't want to take a bath? Fill the tub with water, pick her up and put her in - fully clothed if she won't get undressed. She is running your household; it’s time to take it back.

Sherri - posted on 01/10/2011

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I am sorry but I would smack her mouth. That would under no circumstances be tolerated. She doesn't want to get in the tub pick her up and put her there, if need be clothes and all. She trashes her room then place her in a corner wherever you happen to be to watch her. She won't get dressed for school then send her in her p.j.'s guaranteed she will get dressed without a problem for school or die of embarrassment when she is made fun of at school. Do not battle her. Simply find solutions around her.

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