Advice or suggestions about how to do Discipline when the Family Dynamic changes.

Nicole - posted on 12/07/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I need advice on or suggestions about how to do discipline when the family dynamic changes.. I am planning on getting married in a few yrs to a wonderful man who gets along great w/my daughter an vice versa. He doesn't rally do any disciplining unless my daughter continues to not listen to me. His simple "YO pay attention to your mother" works out really well. She's already calling him 'Daddy' an it's just that I need to know how to discipline in the future when it's the 3 of us. How do you initiate the new Step Parent into the world of Discipline after your married? Just curious.

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Nicole - posted on 12/15/2010

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Thanks to Ruchi Bhave for the advice. Thank You :-) My fiance is really good w/my 6yr old daughter. My daughter is really rambunctious and fun loving w/an outgoing personality. She loves hanging out w/my Fiance and going out to the mall, Chuck E. Cheese, an other indoor play grounds. She's always happy around me n my Fiance`. She just doesn't have HER dad around cause he's a total D-Bag. Doesn't really see or do anything for her. SO she really looks forward to seeing me n my Fiance` every weekend. There's nothing she wants more than to have a regular male fig in her world. So, she'll be looking forward to knowing that Mommy n her fiance` (Jade's buddy) will be one big happy family later!

Ruchi - posted on 12/07/2010

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Firstly, congratulations.
It looks like your daughter and your new husband are getting along just fine. Most fathers unfortunately dont do much of the disciplining and the 'yo pay attention...' seems to be working.

if thats the case just behave normally once you are married. Are you guys living together yet. If not try having him over on the weekends. she will get used to having a man in the house and someone that she has to share her mum with.
You havn't said much about your daughter but sometimes children could use the step dad card and especially around major disciplining. if that happens dont get panicky.
here are some ideas that you could do;
having him on weekends and overnights.
planning outings with him.
letting him babysit while you go out say grocery shopping
and maintaining a journal with her about all that great things that the 3 of you have done together. this way everytime she whines about the situation you can say but you have a journal.
kids can be kids so relax and enjoy this new adventure. everything is going to turn out fine

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