Afraid to medicate

Frankie - posted on 09/30/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 7y/o son was diagnosed with ADHD last December. I was told he has to have an EKG done before they will prescribe anything for it. An EKG....so they can tell if his heart can take the stimulants of any medication they might prescribe. WTF? That freaked me out. What kind of stimulants are they thinking of giving my son? And why does his heart have to be strong enough for them? I took some advice from a co worker of mine. He suggested that I stop giving him high sugar drinks and control the amount of sugar he eats. He also suggested I give him coffee. It worked. It happened by accident actually. I brought home some highly caffinated coffee from work. My son will drink anything in a cup if he thinks its soda. Well he took a drink and eventually drank allmost the whole thing. He then proceeded to play in his room and was quiet and calm the whole day. I thought he was sick! I asked him how he felt and he said fine. I kept checking on him all day and he was just happy and content. I was amazed. He usually runs and jumps and yells all day long. He runs everywhere...never walks...runs. But that day he was calm and quiet. I cried...literally went to my room and cried. So now I try to bring him some coffee once in a while and sometimes it works and sometimes it don't. But when he's in school its hard. I want to try meds but am so scared of the side effects. I want my son and not some zombie. My brother was really hyper when he was a kid. Only back then it wasn't called ADD/ADHD. He had to wear these patches on the back of his neck for a long time. He then moved on to meds....which he stopped taking when he was 16. He didnt like the way they made him feel. So hopefully he will outgrow it but til then what can I do? Any words of advice or suggestions?

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Lisa - posted on 10/09/2009

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My son is in the 5th grade and has been taking Adderall for 2 years. When he started last year he was able to get a lot more work done in class. His teacher told me that changes where like "night and day." He either was productive or not depending on if he took his medicine that day. This year, I don't know, he is taking it, but he has gone back to getting C's and D's, not completing assignments and homework and not doing well on tests. I even put him in a private christian school so that he has a very small class size and gets more attention, but he is still having a difficult time paying attention or getting anything done. Now he has also started complaining about the side effects of the medicine: sometimes he has trouble falling asleep, not feeling hungry so he doesn't want to eat his lunch, and having headaches. He is old enough to explain that there are risks (side effects) and benefits (doing better in school) and he understands them both. I am considering asking the doctor to maybe try a different medication. I don't know what else to do. All I know is that I want him to succeed and he really does too. He said to me the other day "Mom, I have been thinking a lot about what I want to do when I grow up. I want to become a police officer because I really want to help people." All I could say was "You start with doing your best in school every day and you can be whatever you want."

Jen - posted on 10/05/2009

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I know exactly how you feel. My husband and I are arguing over the fact our son has it. He has had the Connors test taken twice, can't control himself, etc. All the signs of ADHD. I know he has it, but my hubby doesn't want to admit that. He thinks our son is just spoiled. Sure that might be true, but his school work and behavior in school shows the problems. What can you do to try to convince someone, especially your hubby that your son has problems? I can't even get him to agree to have him evaluated.

I read about the heart beign strong enough and that worries me because our son does have a mumor and a small hole in his heart. Would the meds affect that? These are the things that scare me the most.

We really don't believe in medication, but I feel we have no choice.

Michelle - posted on 10/05/2009

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My daughter was diagnosed w/ADHD last year. We have decided to go the alternative route. We've changed her diet and we've had amazing results. Check out the Feingold diet. Dr Feingold wrote the book "Why Your Child is Hyperactive" as well as "The Feingold Cookbook". It seems a bit overwelming at first. Some say that "my child would never do that" but would your child choose to take drugs? We don't know all of the problems that these drugs will cause in the future either. You can start by giving a good quality fish oil w/high DHA. Also up Vit D3 my daughters Vit D level was very low. I was lucky enough to find a great Dr. that was well educated on the nutritional approach vs. medication. She's an MD but you can also look for a good naturopathic doctor.



My daughter eats alot of Red Sockeye Salmon, sweet potatoes, beans, organic eggs, and spinach,blueberry (she calls them brainberries) & kiwi (an amazing superfood!) salads. Her favorite snacks are pepitas (helps calm her), pecans, brazil nuts, pistachios, sweet potato chips (Trader Joes has the best) and "sticks and twigs" by Marys Gone Crackers http://www.marysgonecrackers.com/product... . Also Namaste Foods has some tasty gluten free products like brownies, blondies and cake mixes. ( https://www.namastefoods.com/shopping/storefront/cgi-bin/news.cgi?Category=Home ) Some products are tastier than others. We add pecans & peanut butter to the blondies.

From my experience gluten free foods are better if tweaked just a bit. ;)



I homeschooled for K & 1st grade but this year decided to try sending her to school. We're working on adjustments & modifications. If you have a diagnosis you should check into possibly a 504 which can help your child by making modifications. If your child is behind in their work you can also check into special education classes. With an ADHD diagnosis you can get alot of help for your child. My daughter sometimes works better standing up.



Good Luck on your journey to a healthy child. :)

Brianna - posted on 10/02/2009

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I've got an adhd with autism child and when i was at the end of my teather about a year ago i agreed to trying meds as scary as it was and it has helped for him at night though i give him calm kid a herb tablet brought from the chemist to help settle him with his ant exeity med it suprizingly worked i woul;dnt recommend caffine as its harder to regulate

Tami - posted on 10/02/2009

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I guess I have mixed felings on the issue of medications for ADHD! My Fiance and his two children his son 9 and daughter is 7 they all three have ADHD! His son that is nine his mom has him on a patch and medication and I think that is because she does not know how to deal with him and when he comes over tho our house he is a zombie, he has so much medication in him that he usually can't wake up the first night and is so out of it that he wets the bed. His daughter is 7 and she has had lots of testing done on her and so far no medicine seems to work with her...it does at first and then stops having an effect on her. I hate to see the kids act like zombies it really hurts my heart for them. My fiance is now 29 and he wants to get a little something that can help him focus on things. I think maybe people with ADHD need a little something to focus but I don't believe they should be over medicated and I think this is common in people and children with ADHD!

Patricia - posted on 09/30/2009

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My son who is 9 also was diagnosed with ADHD i was also afraid of meds...I am a nurse so i know the side effects very well. After he failed kindergarten twice ( he did go on to first grade after second year of kindergarten) and then failed first grade i gave in and tried him on Adderol He lost 10 pounds in a month and had insomnia really bad. I informed his doctor that it was too much we took him off of that and put him on Ritalin LA (long acting) so that way he did not have to take anything while at school. The change in him was remarkable....he brought home A's and B's in second grade. I no longer had notes coming home from the school on a daily basis, which i had received from kindergarten and first grade.He will sit and watched a movie and did not get up and run around and scream after the first 10 minutes. He is not a "zombie" and is more like a "normal" kid. He plays football now and takes dance classes, which was something he could not focus on long enough to do before medication. We even have a short acting Ritalin pill for after school for the days that he still seems to bounce off the walls. I only give him that when HE asks for it. HE will say "mommy i need that medicine to help me calm down, I can't do anything today" I am not saying what you should do just relaying my story. In my opinion it was the best thing i ever did for him!!!

Jackie - posted on 09/30/2009

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what you can do i if you want give him some coffe in the morning an ask the teacher if what you are doing worked you dont have to tell her what you are useing to do it an if it did then great i am a perosn with it an i know your brothers pain i took myself off meds also i was a zombie an they dont tell you the long term effects either like your teeth an start rotting an fal out an they open up a part of your brain that make you go crazy they dont tell you any of that they tell you what they want you to know all those drug is speed in a formula base they make emotions go crazy an hormones an all they have a new treatment also where they put these stickers on thier head an they are playing games with thier mind an it retrain thier brain do go in the right way i will find out the name an let you know it doesnt hurt or any thing they just think they are play video games with thier mind an it teaches them to stay on track

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