Am i expecting to much from miss 5 year old???

Nichola - posted on 08/14/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I request that she opens and shuts her curtains, make her bed, room tidy, toys away, get herself ready for day in morning and bed at night, unload dishwasher and feed animals. I have a reward system, so many stickers and a reward at end of week, it works and there is never any arguments but others have said i expect to much?

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Bevely - posted on 08/17/2011

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My kids are 9 and 8. They have chores also. They are pretty much responsible for their own laundry, rooms, bathroom, kitchen, living room, and the pets. I reward them with little occasional treats like candy or ice cream or a trip to the movies, etc. Just the other night my oldest asked me why she had to clean the kitchen and not even get any money for it. I told her I charge $400 a month room and board, whenever she started paying, she could stop cleaning the kitchen.

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Andrea - posted on 08/19/2011

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You posted that her father wants her to do these things on her own free will since she is a part of the house hold and I am curious does she do it on her own free will? I mean if she doesn't do it does she get in trouble other than loosing her stickers? oh and no I don't think its too much and I wish I could get my daughter to do as much so cudos to you if it's actually working.

Sylvia - posted on 08/19/2011

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Nichola, I'm with your husband on that one -- DH and I had the same conversation recently, when we (finally) started giving DD an allowance. I consider the allowance and the chores two separate things: one is to teach DD about handling money responsibly (the deal is that now that she's getting an allowance, certain things that we used to sometimes buy for her, such as treats and pizza lunch at school and random crap from the school book fair [I don't mind paying good money for books, but sorry, I'm not forking over $4 for erasers shaped like puppies :P], will now be bought by her with her own money -- we will have less say on what she buys, but we also won't supplement her funds if she regrets how she spent them), while the other is (a) part of her responsibilities as a member of the household and (b) to teach her the other stuff she'll need to know when she's on her own someday. I don't get paid for washing dishes and cooking dinner, and DH doesn't get paid for vacuuming.

It's irresponsible to turn kids loose on the world who don't know the first thing about managing money. It's also irresponsible to send kids off to university without teaching them how to wash dishes, do laundry, cook a meal, and run a vacuum cleaner. (I lived with some of those people in a university dorm, so I know what I'm talking about :P) I'm not convinced it's a good idea to teach them (even unintentionally) that everything you do around the house has monetary value to other people ...

Nichola - posted on 08/16/2011

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yes i thought about money as a reward however he dad objects to it. he says that she is a part of the household and needs to contribute on her own will.. i set up a sticker chart, so many stickers in a week and she gets a treat. sometimes it going to bed late or as big as an extra ride at pony club

Samantha - posted on 08/15/2011

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It's important for children to learn responsibility. They also need to have time to play and grow their imagination as well. With my son we give him a quarter for each of the jobs he does. This gives the opportunity to learn money and counting skills. In the end I think as long as you’re your child doesn’t mind doing these things then it’s not too much.

Sylvia - posted on 08/14/2011

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My DD probably wouldn't have done *all* of that at 5 (we are not big on making beds in this house, in fact I just realized she and her friend have been playing Littlest Pet Shops in our bedroom right next to the unmade bed for several hours ... d'oh!), but if yours does it with no problems ... obviously it's not too much :) Mine certainly got herself dressed and undressed, bus her supper dishes, helped unload the dishwasher, put away her own clean laundry, helped fold laundry (she loved matching up socks at that age, for some reason), and various other things. Where I fall down on the job in the chores department is room-tidying -- DH and I both work full-time, we live in a small apartment with a lot of stuff, and we're all messy people ...

I'm a big believer in starting chores early, while they're still young enough to think housework is fun, because if you leave it too long you'll be fighting an uphill battle. It sounds to me like you and your daughter are doing great :)

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