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Amanda - posted on 08/14/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my daughter and son are five years apart and have different fathers. My ex-husband which is Jesse's father looks at my daughter as his also. She is the only real male role model she has had. I am wandering if I should encourage her to call him dad. He can be very stern at times, but he is a big kid at heart, not mature enough for marriage, other than that he really is a good guy. My daughter doesnt like being made to mind, so she doesn't like him very well. If her real father was around I know he would be even more stern. BTW, if I had my way about it, I would not even call the man her father, he was convicted of rape, and is now in jail for not registering. {Her real father, that is.}

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Candy - posted on 08/15/2010

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My opinion is leave that up to her. She has to form the bound with him. Dont bad mouth her real dad around her. She will learn soon enough about him and can form her own opinon. If you and your boyfriend try to form the opinion for her she will only wind up hating you.

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Charity - posted on 08/15/2010

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i have issues with my daughters "dad" as well so i understand that aspect completely. she hasnt called him dad in a long time, since she was 2-3. i dated my now husband for a while and she wanted to call him dad. i wasnt comfortable with it at first because i didnt want to be one of those moms who's kid has 10 daddys. but after a while i realized that he wasnt going any where and neither was i so if thats what she wanted i shouldnt deprive her. i think i wouldnt force her to. if shes old enough to make up her own mind about it let her. your new guy will have to understand if he doesnt agree as you are her MOTHER and you know whats best for your children. she will come around if shes not ready yet but if you try to force her she may reject more than that in the end.

IKEA - posted on 08/14/2010

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I WOULD SHE WILL GET TO KNOW HIM IT JUST TAKES TIME HE SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD ROLE MODEL FOR THEM AND THAT WHT THEY NEED

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