Bad language

Amy - posted on 01/18/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son has picked up some filthy language from another child at daycare. This child's parents had a really rough relationship. They have split up and are divorcing, but too late to keep the kids from repeating things like "Shut the F@#$ up, B@#$%!" and things of that nature. I am not saying that I am a perfect parent, but we don't talk like that at home. It is disrespectful. What is the best approach to getting your child to stop repeating these colorful words and phrases?

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Karla - posted on 01/18/2011

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I agree with Cystal. We are very honest with our son from the beginning and he knows what is appropriate or not for him to say. My daughter is learning now too and she is not 4 yet. So we give them alternatives like silly instead of stupid, or holy doodles.. you get the idea. My son even sings lyrics to songs different (he is an ACDC fan so its Highway to Jell and Jells bells). I also mention how aweful it sounds out of a grown ups mouth and its worse from a kids. Cartoons say things we dont our kids repeating. My kids both understand that grownups make mistakes and they are better to speak in a way they know is proper.

Crystal - posted on 01/18/2011

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I would just tell him that there are words that you will hear, and you have to tell him some of those words, that are not Ok to say. Just because other people say them doesn't make it ok, and they are for Adults only. Also let him know that if he hears something and wants to know if its ok to say it, he needs to ask you before just saying it to other people. There is always something out there that we don't want our kids knowing or doing, but if we're open about their existence and what our expectations are about them, thats all we can do. Just be prepared and prepare them. If that makes sense. :)

Lissa - posted on 01/18/2011

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When he says these things just tell him they are mean words that you don't like to hear. If you let him know it makes you sad to hear these words chances are he will stop. If he continues to repeat them then put punishments in place, time out taking away a favourite toy etc. I have experienced this problem as my eldest is a teenager and thought it was amusing to teach his younger siblings a few foul words. We got it sorted in no time by explaining that they were words that made us sad to hear.

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