Brat who hits adults

Cashmere - posted on 05/19/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My friend and her 7-year-old spent the night and her kid is a BRAT. She never listens and like to touch everything and has temper tantrums (still) when one tells her not to and even if you tell her NO for any reason.
The mom yells at her but the kid doesn't listen, ever.
While they were here, I caught her walking around with a very expensive piece of electronics and I took it away from her and when I turned around to put it back, she HIT ME IN THE BACK! I thought the mom would punish her for that but instead acted stunned and did nothing. It was all I could do to keep from strangling the imp myself. What would you mommies do if your kid were to hit an adult?

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Enna - posted on 06/21/2013

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Kelly, you're ridiculous. If one of my kids hit my friend, then yes, I could see why they would call my kid a brat. I'm sure Cashmere's not on here to insult 7 year olds. She's obviously upset and frustrated, and doesn't need to be told off for coming on here with good intentions asking a question.
If my friend's child hit me, I would tell them it was time for them to go home. Your friend obviously needs to get better control over her child.
If my child hit my friend, I would 1)Tell her that that behavior is unacceptable. 2) Tell her it was time to go home. 3) Apologize profusely to my friend and assure her that my child would get further punishment at home. 4) Once we were home I would come up with a suitable punishment for my child. 5) After the punishment was over and we had talked more about not hitting people I would make her write a letter/note apologizing to my friend and we would mail it to her.

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Cashmere - posted on 06/21/2013

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Roxanne,
You are a good mom. And I'm sure you and your kids are a pleasure to be around!
You and your kids can come over anytime...

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I get the kid is out of control, but seriously, you just called a 7 year old a "brat" and an "imp". Are YOU 7 years old? You sound like a child yourself. How would you feel if your friend or her parents were calling you names behind your back? That is not how a friend behaves. This child needs help, not cruelty. I do think you should back out of their lives because it is obvious you don't like having her in your life, and she certainly doesn't need anyone like you in her life.

Cashmere - posted on 06/03/2013

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Thank you for your unbiased point of view. And yes, it is 110% my friend's fault as to why her kid is such a problem. She seems to believe that everybody is just picking on her kid and because of that, I think, that she feels sorry for her, so she doesn't scold her. She currently lives with her mom, and her older sister keeps telling her that the imp needs some professional help. She probably feels that I, being her friend, should be on her side of this issue. I actually agree with the sister. I try my best to keep out of it, but it's kind of hard not to when a kid is in my face either crying or yik- yakking and messing up my home.....

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And most of all, you need to recoginze it's not the 7 year old's fault. It's your friends, because they are obviously just a bad parent.

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Tell your friend she isn't allowed to come to your house if her child behaves like that. It's your house and if she doesn't want to discipline her child at her house, fine, but in your house she needs to. And if her child acts out like that, tell her they both need to leave. That is not okay.

Lauren - posted on 05/23/2013

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My 17-month-old just started occassionally hitting (thinking it's funny), and we're promptly putting a stop to it, explaining we need to be gentle. If my 7-year-old hit someone, he'd be in a time out/have something taken away immediately, plus would need to apologize directly to the person he hurt. We'd discuss that hurting others is not okay unless you are defending yourself and they try to seriously hurt you first.

In that situation, while the other mom may not necessarily like it, I think you have every right to turn around and say to the girl, "Excuse me. I don't appreciate you hurting me like that. There are certain things you are allowed to play with and others that are for adults only. If you want to play with appropriate toys at my house, I expect and would appreciate you displaying good behavior." At this age, they are still kids, but they know basic right and wrong on how to treat others--unless her mom goes around hitting people. There's a happy balance in "reprimanding" friends' kids, but I don't think there's anything wrong with calling out a bad action and then your friend could follow up with a punishment as she sees fit. Either way, but standing up for yourself, you're teaching the daughter that people won't always tolerate her actions and might make her think twice.

Dove - posted on 05/21/2013

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Hitting an adult would be so out of character for any of my kids that I honestly can't predict how I would react... I can say if someone else's 7 year old hit me... that child would not be back in my home.

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