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Barbara - posted on 11/16/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My son wants an Ipad touch and am struggling with this notion because he is a good boy who will be turning 9 soon but he lost his sneakers at a playground because when he took them off to put on his cleats he did not put the sneakers in the car so now when he asks for something so expensive I have said no. He is really a good kid but his responsibilities seem to be shallow. I cannot understand how he did not put his sneakers in the car. I am trying to show him that he has to be responsible for his personal items but he seems to be in a dream state and thinks of the next step instead of the step he is in. Most of his friends do have this but I think he needs to show more responsibility.

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Lisa - posted on 12/11/2012

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If he is not responsible enough, he doesn't get it! Period. I have a 10 year old and until he shows me he can take care of his things (not break or lose), he doesn't get the IPOD he wants. THE END!

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My son wanted the same thing. I was terrified he was gonna break or loose it plus even a refurbished one was still $200. I got online and see these Ematics mp3 players and all the reviews for it was positive. They are really great for younger kids, plus really cheap for us adults.





http://www.walmart.com/ip/Ematic-4GB-Bui...

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2012

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My advice is to make him do chores and earn half of it, or at least a portion. When it is there hard earned money they appreciate it more. Also I would get him an Android tablet, they are around $80 new on Ebay. Same thing, you can get aps and can even be educational. And is a great item to ground them from when they lose there shoes and are not responsible. I would also make him do chores to pay for the shoes he lost. My son is now 13 but has worked for my dad for yrs now, loading wood, raking, taking out trash. It shows them with hard work they can get what they want and replace the things they took forgranted.

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2012

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My advice is to make him do chores and earn half of it, or at least a portion. When it is there hard earned money they appreciate it more. Also I would get him an Android tablet, they are around $80 new on Ebay. Same thing, you can get aps and can even be educational. And is a great item to ground them from when they lose there shoes and are not responsible. I would also make him do chores to pay for the shoes he lost. My son is now 13 but has worked for my dad for yrs now, loading wood, raking, taking out trash. It shows them with hard work they can get what they want and replace the things they took forgranted.

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2012

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My advice is to make him do chores and earn half of it, or at least a portion. When it is there hard earned money they appreciate it more. Also I would get him an Android tablet, they are around $80 new on Ebay. Same thing, you can get aps and can even be educational. And is a great item to ground them from when they lose there shoes and are not responsible. I would also make him do chores to pay for the shoes he lost. My son is now 13 but has worked for my dad for yrs now, loading wood, raking, taking out trash. It shows them with hard work they can get what they want and replace the things they took forgranted.

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2012

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My advice is to make him do chores and earn half of it, or at least a portion. When it is there hard earned money they appreciate it more. Also I would get him an Android tablet, they are around $80 new on Ebay. Same thing, you can get aps and can even be educational. And is a great item to ground them from when they lose there shoes and are not responsible. I would also make him do chores to pay for the shoes he lost. My son is now 13 but has worked for my dad for yrs now, loading wood, raking, taking out trash. It shows them with hard work they can get what they want and replace the things they took forgranted.

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2012

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My advice is to make him do chores and earn half of it, or at least a portion. When it is there hard earned money they appreciate it more. Also I would get him an Android tablet, they are around $80 new on Ebay. Same thing, you can get aps and can even be educational. And is a great item to ground them from when they lose there shoes and are not responsible. I would also make him do chores to pay for the shoes he lost. My son is now 13 but has worked for my dad for yrs now, loading wood, raking, taking out trash. It shows them with hard work they can get what they want and replace the things they took forgranted.

Ashley - posted on 11/25/2012

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I think hes too young but hes not my child. My oldezt will be 9 in a coue weeks and he wants a phone. He is very good and respobsible and takes care of his things, but if we start giving 8 and 9 gear olds things like phones, I pads, things like that, then what are they glin to expect every year adter that? There going to be wanti.g cars at 12! Plus, they will want to take them to school and get in trouble with them. If the boy cant keep track of a pair of shoes, where will his I pad end up? My kids have game systems but they stay at home and they get grounded from them quiet often, so there is no way I would get a pho.e or ipad or tablet for them. They are too young to have all these things and the world should not revolve around electronics.. Make them play outside or do something active. This is why kids are getting into trouble more at a younger age, they have it all handed to them and have all the access to the internet and pefophiles they could ask for. Sorry if im being harsh, just how I see it.

Marsha - posted on 11/24/2012

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My 8 yr old daughter has one, and has had a Ds too and we've never had a problem with her misplacing either. Both have cases and she's been told to keep them in the cases when not in use. She's forgotten her lunch box at school twice in 3 years so she's very responsible

Sherri - posted on 11/24/2012

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Sorry but my experience is these are two very different things. Heck my husband this summer left his clothes on top of the car and drove off because he forgot to put them back in the car, his wallet was in the shorts and it was subsequently stolen when the shorts fell of the car.



Kids are no different however, an IPod seems to never be out of their sight and not the same thing as putting sneakers in a bag. At nine in my opinion they are really quite capable IPods are not that expensive and worth every penny in my experience. We just got my son a 4th generation 16GB IPod for Christmas for $179.

Kristin - posted on 11/22/2012

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Keep in mind sometimes we parents also need to help them be responsible. I always ask my 6 yr old if he has everything before leaving a place,

Kristin - posted on 11/22/2012

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It is a tough call. Maybe strike up a deal with him that if he can show more care and responsibiluty with the items he has now he can have an i pod touch. My 6 year old was give a ds when he was 4 and told that if he loses it or breaks it he will not get another one. So far he still has it lol . Kids lose stuff and break stuff and its hard to decide whether to buy them the expensive items or not. Another option is to have him work to pay for half of it. ie clean his room make his bed etc and save his allowance to pay for half of it.

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