daughter wont sleep in her own bed

Michelle - posted on 08/09/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my 8yr. old daughter wont sleep in her own bed...moved 10 months ago.. its a fight so she sleeps on the floor next to my bed

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Madonna - posted on 08/20/2009

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I think with any learned habit you have to just persist even though it seems cruel at the time. Kids adapt much better than we give them credit for. I think the idea of a nightlight is good but you might want to find out how this could affect eyesight is there is low light in the room. I'm lucky in that my boys (5 and 3) share a room and love going to bed in the same room (usually!). In the end though it probably doesn't really matter where anyone in the family sleeps as long as you're all happy! Remember we all used to sleep in caves once up on a time! Only about 100 years ago many people shared one room in a house and they all seemed to survive. My boys very occasionally come into my room at night but they know they have to sleep on a mattress on the floor. Doesn't hurt anyone as long as romantic interludes are managed other ways. The only other real issue is if hubby getting up for shiftwork might disturb their sleep too much and affect school performance. Good luck!

Leslie - posted on 08/18/2009

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I have same issue so I read to my daughter, say prayers with her in her bed and lay down with her in her bed till she falls asleep , but I don't tell her that otherwise that would create anxiety

Penny - posted on 08/17/2009

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I finally told my daughter who is 5 that she could sleep on the couch. Now she sleeps mostly in her own bed, but every once in awhile I will find her on the couch. Good Luck.

Amanda - posted on 08/16/2009

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Michelle, I have four kids my oldest is nine and my youngest is almost three. For the last few months, my two youngest kids sleep on my floor. I have started a reward system for them. If they sleep in their own beds they get good rewards and special treats all day when they wake up. My youngest does great with this, however the second youngest could care less. If you find a solution that works please let me know!!

Camilla - posted on 08/15/2009

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I assume she has her own room? Try to make her room and bed a cosy place to be. Maybe she can pick out some nice bed linen, a night lamp (if she's afraid of the dark), maybe she needs her old teddybear back for a while...?

LyRae - posted on 08/14/2009

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My daughter is 8 and still tries it. She says that she is scared or she can't fall back to sleep or she doesn't like being alone. I know it is no ones fault but mine and my husbands (mostly mine) because I let it happen before. I try a reward that if she sleeps in her bed all night I put a sticker on a sheet and if the sheet fills up then she can get a reward. It is slow working but I hope it will eventually pay off. I also noticed that Shashana said to put her back in her bed... that IS a big help but it does lead to some sleepless nights but I have noticed it pays off in the long run. Just don't make the mistake I did a few times and lay down with her. I was so tired that I laid down with her to get her to go to sleep and ended up falling a sleep my self. That just added fuel to the fire. It took me forever to get her broke of me sleeping with her.

Shashana - posted on 08/13/2009

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my daughter is 4 and she had this problem when we moved 3 years ago. She constantly came into my bed in the middle of hte night. One night (my fiance and I had a romantic evening and shut the door) when we woke up the baby was sleeping outside the door!!!



Anyway she is older now and still using the routine we started then. 8:00 is go to bed time (not sleepy time) but go to bed. She takes a bath, puts on her PJ's and hops right in the bed. We turn her tv on cartoons and give her the remote(she knows all the channels) she has exactly one hour to watch T.V. we put the timer on the tv for 60mins. And once the TV goes off it's bedtime, at first she needed a nightlight because she said she was scarred but by now she's used to it and by the time the timer goes off, she's out. Try making bedtime fun, I try to make everything fun for my daughter so she wants to do it. Tell her you will give her something in the morning, or you will play a game before school, but she has to go to sleep in her bed first.

Destiny - posted on 08/09/2009

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That sounds like a good idea, but my daughter complains she is scared and then when I get into a really deep sleep she ends up on my floor in the middle of the night. She is five as well.

Quinn - posted on 08/09/2009

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My daughter had this issue, she's five, all I could do is when she came to my room I immediately returned her to her bed. I had a few sleepless nights but it finally work. It was worth it compared to waking up with backaches!

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