Dealing with a stepdad that doesn't understand

Atasha - posted on 11/15/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My oldest daugher is in grade 4 and 9 years old. She has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia. Her step-dad does not seem to understand the limitations she has because of her learning disabilities, and says she uses her disabilities as an excuse to be lazy. She is a very bright girl, just not very book smart. My problem is, when she is doing homework and studying he gives her a hard time. Telling her things like "you have to learn it sometime" and "come on, your not trying". I can see this frustraits her and usually she ends up in tears. I know that pushing her too hard can end up making her hate school and homework, but I don't want to see her dragging behind her peers. How can I get him to understand she has to work hard but not to push her to the brink of crying every night?

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Tamara - posted on 11/16/2011

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I am sorry i would have told him where to go a long time ago No one in my house bullies anyone else, and he is bulling your daughter.

so I would type a paper and have everything with the words all mixed up and have him study it and memorize it and then resite it infront of a group of people in a short time limit, then stand over him and nag him. May sound like a b-word but that is what he is doing. That IMHO is the only way he will actually understand what she is seeing/reading with the dyslexia and that isnt even touching the ADHD part of it. Like I said its being a B word but if he isnt sitting down and listening then something first hand needs to be done.

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