does any1 know how to get a 4 year old from being spoiled and not listening

CELIA - posted on 08/14/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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he dont listen and when i get after him he screams bloody murder and am only talking to him

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Jill - posted on 08/27/2009

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I am having this same problem with my 4 year old little girl. I don't know what to do either but I did have someone just recommend a book to me. I just ordered it off of Amazon. It is called....Have a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child's Attitude, Behavior & Character in 5 Days by Dr. Kevin Leman

Christy - posted on 08/27/2009

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Try sending him in his room with nothing on but the light and tell him when he ready to listen he can come and get you. This works for my soon to be three year old now. Remember to stay firm and strong in what you are doing, so he knows you are serious. And don't raise you vioce

Teresa - posted on 08/27/2009

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try to not yell get down on his level and make him look at u went u talk, sometimes we look big and scary up there. tell him if u won't listen to u, u won't listen to him.

Chanel - posted on 08/26/2009

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Hello Celia, I noticed that in your headline you stated " HOW DO YOU GET A 4 YR OLD FROM BEING SPOILED AND NOT LISTENING" Well I would like to know what makes him spoiled? I hope this doesn't come out the wrong way, but children learn from their parents. I'm not saying that you are this way but too many times I see children acting or talking very rudely to others as well as their parents and when they are young people tend to think that it's cute. When they start to get a little older then it's not so cute anymore. I believe that from the age of 1yrs old children need to be disapplined. When children are considered "spoiled" it's because they are acting up in a not so nice manner or they are talking in a not so nice manner and this is only because the parents allowed them to be that way. If you nip your child's bad behavior now there might still be a chance that they will respect you in the long run. YOU as a parent have to stick with the rules you make for your child, no matter how bad it upsets you. When you make rules and the child breaks them they absolutely have to know that YOU-ARE-THE-BOSS and that you will not tolerate disrespectfulness. Most 4yr olds are looking for attention from a parent, not friends. If all else fails start taking possesions away and give them the opportunity to earn them back even if it means sometimes you gotta be the bad guy.

Breanne - posted on 08/15/2009

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Well do you buy him alot of things, let him get his own way with things? Or is there someone else who does these things alot that could make him act this way? Getting alot of things can cause a child to want and want all the time, but never appreciate what they have. My stepson used to have troubles with this, but is now getting out of it because we don't buy him or give or get him alot of things that he wants or don't let him get his own way like he was used too. We give him things when he has actually been good, did something nice or we don't get him anything and just tell him that the way he was behaving was great, positive feedback towards the child is always good, but too much isn't good. Let's say he helped you out with something around the house. "thank you so much for helping me with so and so! I really am happy you helped me!" But don't oevrdue it. Just make it simple. The not listening part could have something to do with this. Have you been consistent with your discipline with him because consistency is very important. Like lets say he wasn't listening and you sent him to his room. He says to you, "I will never do it again." Do you let him go or do you still send him to his room? Could he be sreaming because he knows you will not do anything about it if he does? Or could he be screaming because he knows you are going to be doing something about his not listening? There could be many reasons why he's not listening, you just have to pay close attention to when these happen and what he's doing at the time it happens and how you react, how others react around you adn how he reacts to the situation.

Yessenia - posted on 08/14/2009

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Time outs work for me or i just ignore lexi until she chills and is ready to listen

Lisa - posted on 08/14/2009

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put him in his room till he stop screaming or creating do everytime he starts playing up evenyually he will learn the way he is behaving isnt getting the attention he wants do the same when ever he wants something he cant have its hard but it works, if your out doing things and he starts ignore him till he stops then talk with him we did it with all ours it may take some time for him to realise you mean what you say but it does work

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