Does anyone get weepy near the time of your child's birthday or after?

Bonnie - posted on 12/04/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My daughter just turned 9. I for some reason get so weepy at the beginning of the month of her birthday. I am a 48YO SAHM but feel like I might not have done things right so that will make me sad. My daughter is a very happy child but the time moves so fast I get afraid. If the first 9 years flew by I'm afraid the next will too. Like I will look back and think that I missed so many opportunities. After I had my daughter I was so scared. I wouldn't go to mommy groups or outside really. We stayed inside and at home all of the time. We played and just loved on each other. Now my daughter doesn't really like being away from home. She does it fine but would rather stay home than go out somewhere. She says it's the safest place in the world and would rather be here drawing (very gifted artist) or reading or playing with her dolls or iPod. Is this wrong? Did I really mess things up? I would love to hear if others are feeling any of this too.

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Julie - posted on 12/07/2012

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It hit me hard that my baby was no longer a baby when she started wearing her 15 year old sister's training bras for her little "buds". She is 9 also. It seems like she went from 5 and pigtails to 9 and training bras in a matter of months, not years. Having her older sister and knowing just how fast SHE grew up I swore not to work so much overtime and cherish more time at home with BOTH my girls when my little one was born. But time keeps on ticking away whether we like it or not, bills come in and OT is needed to pay them. You do the best you can. The best advice I try to tell myself I will tell you - don't waste your here-and-now time looking at the past. You can't do anything to change it now anyway. Love her and enjoy her every moment you can NOW. As someone said (don't know who) -- The PAST is gone, and TOMORROW never comes, the only gift we have is TODAY, that's why it's called the "PRESENT". :)

Sandie - posted on 12/09/2012

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After reading the comments from you great ladies I see that ages 8-10 seem to be when this occurs. I guess its because they seem to be growing up so fast at this point it's like you cant keep up with them. Like he's growing out of my control. Great here come the waterworks AGAIN. I've been crying all day. I really appreciate this website being here because I don't have a lot of Mom friends and nobody REALLY talks on Facebook. Everyone's too busy strutting their feathers ah-ha! So thank you. I'll go get my box of tissue now...

Anna - posted on 12/07/2012

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I'm the same way, but mine isn't even on or near birthdays. My daughter turned 9 in July, and I sit and think that she is no longer my little baby, but growing into a young girl. I think that in she will soon be in middle school and heck she is rearly home mostly with her friends. They grow up way to fast, I work and goto school full-time also. So yeah I think into the high school and driving one day and it's scary thinking about it all.

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Marsha - posted on 12/11/2012

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Lord help me in a few months when my daughter turns 9. I've been this way on her birthday since year one !!

Bonnie - posted on 12/09/2012

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I love hearing from you all. I'm glad I am not the only one feeling this way. I will do my best to live in the here and now...:)

Sandie - posted on 12/09/2012

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I could have written this myself. My sons 9th birthday will be tomorrow and its a good thing he's out with his Dad today because I am close to hysterical. I don't have ANY answers sweetie but I just wanted to let you know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/04/2012

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Oh, hon, you're not the only one...My worry is that I was too harsh with my expectations, and my kids will hate me! And it's not only during their birthdays, but other holidays, or just when I've had a particularly hard day.



A wise woman once told me that if I'm constantly questioning myself, I'm probably doing the right thing. Now, I can honestly say, looking back that she was right! I made sure to check myself often, and try to balance everything so that I wouldn't overdo the parenting, but still be an adequate parent, with appropriate consequences and rewards.



You are doing just fine, Bonnie! As your daughter grows, she'll expand her horizons. She'll have other friends with the same interests, and she will start to move away from the nest more. And then you'll worry that you've driven her away...that she's not happy that way...you'll always question! And, you'll cry your eyes out in 9 more years when she graduates...and at every milestone between now and then. I think it's the mom's rule...question everything and cry at the drop of a hat...



Keep your chin up, ducky! You are a spectacular mom!

America3437 - posted on 12/04/2012

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Oh honey ! !8 was the hardest yet. I have three and can't even look at pics without crying my eyes out. There are always things we should have done different. My best advice is enjoy every bit of the drama of a 9 yr old cause at least at that age you are still cool! Dealing with 15 yr old that dislikes me very much at this time which means I must be doing something right!

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