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Leanne - posted on 05/06/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 7 year old's real father is in jail for molesting his new wife's 5 year old daughter. I told him his dad is in jail but not for what. How do I explain this to him?

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Denikka - posted on 05/07/2013

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I wouldn't go into details, but if he asks, you can just tell him that he hurt the little girl. I believe in telling my kids as much of the truth as possible, in an age appropriate way. A 7yr old probably won't understand molestation, but he will understand something more simple like *hurt*.
If he doesn't ask, I would just leave it.

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Lauren - posted on 05/10/2013

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I agree with Denikka, but you may have a challenge if he starts to think his dad could also hurt him..."if my dad can hurt another child, he can hurt me too." I think this is a very tricky situation, so I'd agree that as much as you can avoid for now is best. Maybe if he asks and you say he hurt her, you also say that people make bad choices sometimes and that's why we do our best to protect ourselves. Actually, it could be a great opportunity to teach your son about not getting into a car with a stranger, telling you if someone ever makes him feel uncomfortable/asks to see or touch his private parts, etc. My 7-year-old is in Cub Scouts, and they make this discussion with your child a start to their advancement each year. Nothing specific, but as they get older, you continue to teach them how their bodies can be protected. Message me if you want more details. I've found it very helpful in talking with my son about tough issues.

Leanne - posted on 05/07/2013

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Thanks for ur input. My son is my best interest and I no he will be bothered from it. It's just crazy the things people do, and I worry about the way my son will take the news.

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