Getting my kids to help around the house is that a Problem

Francine - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I work 6 Night's and go to school 5 morring running all day and just want a lil help here i have a 15,9,8,4 year old i know the 4 year old can't do much but he always want to help the other dont want to do nothing. Please any suggetions will help thanks

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Brandy - posted on 10/05/2009

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I have 7 children, and in the real world if you don't work you don't eat, and I think we need to instill this value in our children. I have a white board, and it has chores on it and all the kids mark off on the board what they have done. They are rewarded for the work they do. Just like when we work we get paid, well they work off their commission of the job they do. If they did not clean their room to the standard they know is their best, then they may not get full commission for that. I do not pay my children $ right now, they get like a night out where they pick the eating place, or pick a movie, build a fort in the living room night etc... Hold them accountable. Punishments for not doing so could include, no video games, no friends over, no spending the night places etc.. Just pick things that work for you and your family. That is a little of how we have to do it around here with so many. Hope you can use this tip. Thanks

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Courtney - posted on 10/09/2009

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Like many of the moms who've posted replies, I use a commmission chart for my two grade-schoolers. On my computer I created a simple table with a list of daily chores, and below that list is a list of "fines" or ways they can lose commission. For example, putting their dishes in the dishwasher, feeding the dog, keeping their rooms clean, etc., each earns them 10 cents a day; but they can lose 10 cents for every time they argue with their sibling, show disrespect toward me or their dad or are outright disobedient. I laminated their charts and have them hanging on the fridge.

Cori - posted on 10/07/2009

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We have a callendar for each of the kids. Their jobs change every week and my youngest gets to help out with me so I can teach him. If they get a certain number of stickers they get rewards at the end of the week and the month. It keeps them looking at the callendar every morning and afternoon and helps me to see who is in charge of the chore that day!

Jen - posted on 10/07/2009

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I just pointed out that kids eventually grow up and become Adults..and move out of the house. They need to learn to do things..like laundry, etc. That part of my job as a mother, is to help them become self-sufficient adults. My 9 year old wants to learn to cook, I told her that will be one thing I teach her slowly as well, but she'll also have to learn to clean. That helps them complain less about cleaning. ;) Letting them pick a room and clean it by themselves helps too. I won't have all my kids arguing and fighting while they all pile into the kitchen to clean it. I keep them separate! My youngest, I give her small chores, like the hallway, or shoe area etc. I do have to give her one task at a time. "Go pick up the teddy bear's in the hallway...."

Joanna - posted on 10/07/2009

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My son willingly does chores if we do them together. He helps me cook, and then clean up. He loves to mop the floors and will volunteer to do that. I know that you have a crazy schedule, but maybe you can get the kids to help if you make it together time, and you work on the chores right alongside them. Also, of course make a huge deal about how cool it is that they help! This probably won't motivate the 15 year old, but it should motivate the younger ones.

Niamh - posted on 10/06/2009

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give them rewards like taking them somewhere when they have earned x amount of points give them pocket money but only if they do there chores do not reward them for doing nothing and take something away for not helping i have a 7 year old a 6 year old and a 5 month old and the 2 older ones are a great help with the baby and with helping me around the house i know it is called bribery but it works and it makes them independent and gives them responsibility good luck and dont give up

Heather - posted on 10/06/2009

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I agree with Brandy, we have four kids, the two girls do the dishes after meals, trash, and their own wash. The oldest boy helps out by cooking dinner (both my husband and I work full time) we use punishments such as taking away tv time, computer time, etc., if the children do not get done what we ask. We are trying to raise our children to know responsibility.

Tracy - posted on 10/06/2009

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We got a white board calander and put a list of age appropriate chore for my 9 & 6 year old. For each chore completed each day, a check was placed on that day. If they completed all of the chores for the week, they received $1.00 allowance (may have to adjust for the older child). If the chores are not done, money is deducted from the allowance. It works very well!!

Beth - posted on 10/05/2009

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Check out www.Flylady.net and www.Housefairy.org - they both have loads of info for cleaning your home and getting kids involved to help out.

Juli - posted on 10/05/2009

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4 the 4 y. o. tips: Pour any drink on the dish washer machine then if for some reason he/she spilled ask her to run it (obviously is full and ready to run).
Before ask him/her to offer a tea party (cups,small plates and some bread and juice, invite the cuddly toys) even in the kithchen if there is some space. And at the end once he/she run the dish washer machine ask him/her to mop the floor :)

Laundry load and drier loads :O)

Tracy - posted on 10/05/2009

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I used the reward of getting extra TV Computer time. Things like that. The more they do the more reward they get. If they don't help they get time taking away.

TNell - posted on 10/05/2009

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When I was in middle school, my parents played "Monopoly" with us. It was more like the game of Life...what they did was specially mark play money so we couldn't get more from friends or the store. We started out with a certain amount. The way we earned more was to do chores, that had to be done right the first time. We had to pay for each meal, electricity, plumbing, etc. If friends came over, we had to pay for their snacks and meals too. We had to pay for the utilities every morning. If we failed, then whatever fell under that category was out. For example, if we didn't pay electric, we had no lights, no tv, etc. Plumbing, was bathroom privelidges, washing clothes, etc. They did this for about two weeks. We paid for each meal time as it came up. It worked on showing us how life was, as well as showing us how much our mom really did. Granted, they did this in the summer so that our schooling wasn't bothered. Maybe choose a school break to try. Good luck!

TNell - posted on 10/05/2009

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When I was in middle school, my parents played "Monopoly" with us. It was more like the game of Life...what they did was specially mark play money so we couldn't get more from friends or the store. We started out with a certain amount. The way we earned more was to do chores, that had to be done right the first time. We had to pay for each meal, electricity, plumbing, etc. If friends came over, we had to pay for their snacks and meals too. We had to pay for the utilities every morning. If we failed, then whatever fell under that category was out. For example, if we didn't pay electric, we had no lights, no tv, etc. Plumbing, was bathroom privelidges, washing clothes, etc. They did this for about two weeks. We paid for each meal time as it came up. It worked on showing us how life was, as well as showing us how much our mom really did. Granted, they did this in the summer so that our schooling wasn't bothered. Maybe choose a school break to try. Good luck!

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