Having a hard time getting my life back

Angela - posted on 06/19/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I was at home with my son for 5 years because he was so sick. He is doing very well now. He is going to the first grade and I am working part-time. Even though Kevin is in good health he is having problems in school with understanding what to do and how to communicate. This is all working on me. I am really trying to get it together but it so hard. Please pray for me. The friend that I had, that I could talk to about this is mad at me. I can't talk to my mother because I feel like she doesn't understand. Just pray. I just don't feel like myself today but I am doing thngs just because I know I have to do. Do anyone understand how I am feeling?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/21/2011

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Oh,honey, I do understand. My hubby is disabled, and when I tried to talk to my mom about it, I found that she thinks that we are "milking" the situation, etc. I've discovered that she cannot bring herself to be sympathetic to someone else, unless their plight directly affects her. It's a pity, but I know I can't depend on her for support, so I quit trying.

You sound on a better level today. That's good. It's tough when you are in a situation where you feel that no one understands, or that no one cares.

Keep your head high! I think you'll come out of this just fine.

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Angela - posted on 06/21/2011

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Thank you so much, Shawnn for replying to my cry for help. You have confirmed that I am on the right track and to continue doing what I am doing. I am going to continue keep pushing forward. You have helped me start off my day on the right note. Like all mothers, I worry about my son. To answer your question, he was in PK before he started Kindergarten. We had him repeat Kindergarten this year and it did him a world of good. I was just sitting down looking at his final report card for this school year. I am so proud of him.

When it comes to my support group with my family. I am around my in-laws now. I have really been feeling beat up. We just moved around them on last year. This is my first experience ever living around them. It has not been easy for me or my husband but having the Lord on my side alot of times makes it bearable sometimes. I have bee communicating wth a new friend that the Lord has placed in my life that has had some of the same problems I am having. I just feel so weak many days but going to work helps lift up my spirits. The day I put this message on here, my husband was sitting beside me. I love that man so because when I thought he would jump all over me because of things we have been having problems with, he does the opposite. (Great) What hurts me to most is the problems I (we) are having with my husband side, I tried reaching out to my own mother and she let me down. That is changing for the better now because I ended up having to just teller her that I really need her opinion on how to handle things.

Let me stop. I am feeling really good right now and I want to keep this feeling. Talking about it, brings on sadness and I don't want to feel that. I will check in a little later. God bless. You have a wonderful day.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/20/2011

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Yes, honey, there are people who understand!

You have just spent 5 years focused on your boy, and now you need to start to re-group.

I'd have to say that Kevin sounds like a typical kid, when it comes to adjusting. Is he in Kindergarten, or is he older? Was he previously in school before his illness?

If he's in KG, then his adjustment issues are perfectly normal, I promise! As long as you and his teacher work with him on his communication skills, and integration, he will soon start to feel better at school, and with his peer group.

Now, you! Do you have any support at all, other than this "friend"? Just so you know, you can feel free to PM me any time. I absolutely abhor people who will get mad at you for taking care of your kids, and your needs. Because you, Angela, also have to take care of yourself!

I would suggest (besides using this wonderful community as a shoulder) perhaps looking into play groups. The kids connect with each other, and it gives the moms someone with similar concerns to be involved with as well.

And, yes, you are definitely in my prayers. PM me if you need to talk

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