having trouble getting my 7yr old son to focus in school and with homework ?

Brandy - posted on 08/20/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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my son hunter who is 7 and in the 1st grade is having trouble staying focused on school and homework. how do i go about helping him stay focused on his work. it seems like all he wants to do is play.. and get the other kids in the classroom to pay attention to him and not the teacher. this week which is only the second week of school he has had more days with red marks than green any and all suggestion are appreciated thanks

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Leean - posted on 03/01/2013

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My 7yr old son is always having a trouble in school almost everyday..Aside from not doing his school works, not listening to his teacher, he always gets in trouble with his classmates..Recently, his teacher called me on my mobile and told me and they wanted us to go to school to talk with my son's behavior but my husband did come but the teacher wasn't there..we did talked to him before about this and tried not to punish him but he still doing it.. we want to help our son with this.. maybe someone can give us some advice..thank you so much..

Michelle - posted on 08/21/2010

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most children who act up in class are struggling with something (eg. reading, or comprehension) maybe talk to his teacher to seeif they can assess him for a learning disability the sooner it is caught easier school will be for you.

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If school isn't on his mind, something else is! Find out what he's thinking about when he's supposed to be doing his school work. All kids get into the swing of things at school at different paces. Maybe he still is in Summer mode. Be sure to sit with him & help keep him focused at home & he will come around at school. As much as I hate the idea of bribery you may want to consider rewards. Tell him if he works hard & gets no red marks at school this week he can have something special he likes! A trip to the zoo or beach or something special like that... I'd steer clear of material things... make the reward quality time where he would actually be having a learning experience & not even know it! It will help teach him to focus more. When I was teaching special education I did this with one of my more distracted students & it worked great! Hope this helps!

Brenda - posted on 09/02/2010

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My daughter who is 7 is repeating the 1st grade because she had trouble focusing on her work... it took her forever to get it done... over the summer I took her to get her eyes checked because she was also complaining about headaches often... the eye doctor gave her a special computer test with the old style 3D glasses ( the blue and red) and it came back that the muscles in her eyes are under developed which causes her difficulty to focus on words and letters...the diagnosis gets missed because the symptoms are similar to ADHD... and if the doctor isn't expecting it, they don't know to test. If their is no other explanation take him in to get his eyes checked.

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Elfrancine - posted on 09/10/2010

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did you know that a grade 1 (7yr) child can only concentrate for 7 minutes at a time? i didn't and had the same problem with my daughter. first the therapist told me to use omega 3 and 6 fishoils to help with the concentration problem, which i did, and it definitely made a difference. then the teacher told me about the 7 minutes and told me that whenever we do homework i have to time her. when 7 minutes has passed, she has to do something fun... sing a song, or run in a circle or fetch something for me. i have to say, i was truly surprised that it actually worked. ever since i got this advice i did it at home. it works. you can try. my daughter's teacher also follows this at school and my little girl is doing much better... hopes it will help you too.

Betty - posted on 09/02/2010

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Each person is a unique individual, and has their own learning style. Some learn best by seeing thing and are visual learners while others learn by doing. Still others learn by listening. It sound to me that he likes to be doing things, and gets bored when he is sitting there. Ask the teacher to give him a project to do while she is talking. You would be amazed at what he can learn while doing an a project.

Brandy - posted on 09/02/2010

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thanks for all of the support. maybe starting an allowence for doing good in school wouldn't be a bad idea i will definiatly have to try it and see how it goes.

B - posted on 08/23/2010

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It's only 2 weeks into school after several months of summer vacation. Maybe he just needs a reward at the end. My son is in 2nd grad now. Last year 1st grade was hard (first year it was a full day of class instead of 1/2). We upped his allowance 1$ per week to do well in school. If he got all greens for the week and didn't have any trouble he got the $. If he got into trouble, We didn't give it to him. It did not take long for things to improve.

Dympna - posted on 08/23/2010

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my daughter strugeled too when she started frist grade alos last year.she gave me a lot of trouble when it was time to do her homewoek so i enrolled her in a tutoring program with kaplan which offer small group tutoring and she loved it so much.your son might not be challenged enough either.maybe you should get him test for the talented and gifted program.talk to his teacher about this.and the karate classes are a great idea. my daughter has been doing it for two years now and her confidence has gone up so much.

Brandy - posted on 08/23/2010

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we have been talking about putting him into karate, i will have to check around and see if any offer trials. thanks again for the advice

Karen - posted on 08/22/2010

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My son was like that to - we tried everything - and the Dr.s said it wasn't ADD or ADHD thankfully - so we decided to put him into Martial Arts - Karate. No word of a lie his focus and attitude and everything have done a 180. He is taught respect, discipline, focus, and since it is an individual sport he has learned to set goals and work towards them and each time he has graded for a new belt he gets that sense of accomplishment and pride. It is really cheap compared to other sports and there really isn't a price you can put on the things I mentioned above. See if there is any Karate schools (dojo's) in your area that may offer up a two week trial to see if he enjoys it and see if it helps. I know many many parents at my son's dojo have all said what an amazing difference Karate has made in their kids life.

Brandy - posted on 08/21/2010

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thank you all for the advice.... he is one of these that just shuts down when you ask him whats wrong.

Patricia - posted on 08/21/2010

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My son went through the same thing when entering into 1st grade it is a big transition from Kg he is used to free rang of the room and has not yet got the hang of sitting down and focusing on the work that is being giving or what the teacher is doing. Don't worry to much about the red or green marks continue to keep a addressing the issue in a nice way he will come out of it my son did and made straight A's. Just be patient it will be another two weeks before it all kicks in and he is ready to go once he get's going he will be just fine.

Angie - posted on 08/21/2010

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Speak with him about why he thinks this is an issue (it's boring is not an answer) then give him some time to settle into the new routine. I think you're wise to go this route before you jump on the ADD/ADHD bandwagon.

Carla - posted on 08/21/2010

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Brandy, boys are historically the dreamers in school. Girls thrive on learning while boys are mentally outside running and playing.

Remind him every morning before leaving the house to listen to the teacher, focus, etc. At home, you may have to closely supervise/participate in his work. He's only 7, and isn't used to the routine. Keep reminding him, be an active participant in HELPING, not doing his homework, and he will get the picture.

God bless, honey

Clara - posted on 08/21/2010

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Children are all different your son still has summer in him,just keep reminding him that it is now school and he has to start listening and paying attention to the teachers.
He could be a young 7 year old,just enjoy, encourage, keep on loving him!!!

Erin - posted on 08/20/2010

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Hmmm...have you asked him why? Maybe just try talking to him about it first and see what makes him tick, then that could give you a better idea of how to handle it. For homework, you could try gearing some of the problems he's working on towards other things that he's interested in. For instance, if he really likes cars or something....you could do math with counting his cars, or how many laps around the race track, etc. Sorry I'm not more helpful. I hope someone who has dealt with this more can answer this for you!

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