Having trouble with 5 year old in school, help

Chasity - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My son has been refusing to do his work, not paying attention, stealing snacks, distracting other kids, and just generally causing problems. The teacher said she was concerned about him. He is very dramatic and lives in a fantasy world. He always changes the subject, and never listens. I am beginning to be worried about him. Please pass me some advice.

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Rachel - posted on 09/09/2009

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Thanks, I'm so glad you like it!!! Let me know if there are any things you'd like to see improved, everything happens here really fast! Your son's adorable BTW -- I hope he enjoys Zoodles :)

Rachel - posted on 09/03/2009

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Not sure if this will help, but I am working on a product called Zoodles that's meant to help young children get engaged in learning again. It's a free online service that gives your son a virtual Toybox of games that are fun and educational to play, and they all match up with what he's learning in school... if you think it sounds right for you, check it out at http://www.Zoodles.com. Best of luck! Rachel

Chasity - posted on 09/02/2009

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ur post really helped me, i have always known that he had a very well imaginative imagination!!! he is doing much better since we talked to him!!!

Katrina - posted on 09/01/2009

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I was told at one stage that my son lived in a fantasy world and to be honest if they are let them. All it means is that they are using the imagination they have more then most. You may find that they dont play with the other kids in the class or that they think those kids are too rough, try and spend a little time with your kid playing learning games and make sure you always tell them that they are doing great. If he does have something like A D D, then the best thing to do is cut down on some of the energy food they have and find ways to play off the extra energy they have. I know this may sound silly but even if you get them up half an hour early and let them run around the back yard or if you live close to the school walk them instead of driving them. this may make them want to sit down in class rather then making mischief :)



Good luck.

Jenie - posted on 08/31/2009

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I agree with Carrie, he may not be ready! Boys mature slower than girls and sometimes have social issues in the early grades. He may just be overly active and needs a lot of extra activities to wear him out...But it could also be ADHD...My son started showed signs in Kindergarten. I had him tested half way through that year, and he indeed was (mild). I tried behaivor modification for a while, it was unsuccessful. In 1st grade he made it a week. I had to pull him out after he stabbed a girl in the hand with a pencil. I homeschooled him 1st grade, he matured a little and I got him into councelling, sometimes having someone other than a family member to talk to helps them express things they normally won't express. I working closely with him and he was able to return to school in 2nd grade. We had issues all year, his school was very supportive, but in the end we did have to start medicating him(at 8 years). I know how people feel about meds, but sometimes it is for the best...I wanted to help my son, and if meds allowed him to make it through school, then that is what was to be. My son is starting 9th grade this year, since 3rd grade he has held a steady 3.0 GPA. The meds help them focus and stay calm. I have always had him on the lowest dose possible, and we have always told him, the pill will only help you 50% the rest is up to you... It was a hard choice to make, but today I can tell you, I am so glad we did it. He is still on meds, but I have taken him off of them periodically to see where he stands with his ADHD. He has grown out of a lot of the isues he use to have, I foresee him outgrowing them fully before he is 18...I hope anyway:) Good luck...I m sorry if I rambled...

Shannon - posted on 08/31/2009

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We had similar issues with my daughter. She even licked marshmallow fluff from a classmates face. Some things he may grow out of as he matures a little. If he doesn't seem to be catching up socially with the other kids, try having him evaluated. With my child she had ADHD and a social disorder. I don't know your circumstances so it is hard to say if you have a major issue. A lot of it the kids grow out of. Be patient and keep weekly contact with his teacher.

Cassandra - posted on 08/29/2009

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Wow, this sounds like my 7 year old. My son was diagnosed with ADHD last year. You may want to get him evaluated. The sooner the better. If it is ADHD, the behavior is something that he's not able to control on his own. Good Luck!

Virginia - posted on 08/28/2009

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My son was this way to a point and then he had a seizure at age 6 he was diagnosed with Benign Rolandic Epilepsy after several tests he is on a daily medicine now and he has improved greatly. If this isn't the case for your kiddo then maybe he is just a normal 5 year old, some moms don't put their kids in school til they are 6. Lol I didn't have a choice he turned 6 and then started Kindergarten. He is now in First grade and doing much better. Lots of communication with the teacher and patience with your son will do wonders I believe! Good luck to you and your son!

Christine - posted on 08/28/2009

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The first year of big school isn't always an easy transition; for us or them. Several things could be going on.

1)he's just not ready yet

2)he's never been introduced to a school setting and hasn't settled into the new routine / rules

3)he's never had to share snacks or sit still and work on something he didn't want to before

4)he has other learning disabilities that are preventing him from staying on task.

5)he doesn't like the teacher or some of the children in the classroom.

6)he has seperation issues that are manifesting in abnormal behavior





You know your child better than anyone. What do you think it could be?

Penny - posted on 08/28/2009

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I would check with his doctor and see what they think and then have the school, the doctor and you sit down together and figure out what is going on and what the best way will be for your child to be successfful in school.

Laura - posted on 08/28/2009

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My son used to be distracted by others in his class, and when the teacher saw that he was being distracted and not do his work, the teacher moved him. When he was moved he did a lot better. I'd sit down with the teacher again and talk to the school counsellor, because they will help you if you are willing to let them. My son was distracted in another class and my son and another student used to get into a lot of trouble, so my son was moved to another class, and that worked. My son used to end up going to the office with the other boy, that get him in trouble a lot, by talking while in class and not doing the work... so, I would maybe suggest that he either gets transfered into another class, or talk to the teacher/counsellor about this. Best of luck, to you!~ I hope your son will enjoy Kindergarten more as time goes by.

Carrie - posted on 08/28/2009

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Maybe 5 years old is to early for him for school. Some kids just aren't mature enough at 5 to handle it yet. My second child was not emotionally ready so we waited until she was 6. It's okay to do this. They grow up too quickly anyways.



The above answer is so simple, and it may be so much deeper than what I just said. I don't know your family situation, or who you are as a mother, so I'm not able to give deeper advice. Maybe we could chat sometime if you'd like.

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