help!help! still my 7 yr.old son is hard to feed and take him nap in the afternoon..what shall i do?

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Amber - posted on 03/08/2010

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Hi

I don't think your child is at the age where a nap would be beneficial for him. It's possibel that he does need personal time, so just 20 min in a chair with a book will help him refresh.

Eating.. well, you're just going to have to give what you cook ,and that's that. If he's not giong to eat it, then I guess youll have to be firm with your disipline and let himknow you're not going to cook anything else.

Kids go through phases and sometimes eat nothing for a week and then it changes. He will eat when hes' hungry, just don't play into his whining and make him something else. be firm and consistent and he'll soon give up.

Rebecca - posted on 03/07/2010

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7 year old DO NOT need naps -- they should not be napping, they should be studying or playing ...!

Michelle - posted on 03/07/2010

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Why is your 7 year old napping? What do you mean hard to feed, he does not want to eat, kids go through stages where they don't eat much then they can eat no stop.

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LaToya - posted on 03/24/2010

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I have a 3 year old that doesnt even nap anymore. My 8 year old hasnt taken a nap since he was in pre school and would come home tired and that was maybe once a week. As far as eating goes, my son will tell me some nights that he doesnt want dinner or doesnt want breakfast in the morning, they go through phases.

Patty - posted on 03/24/2010

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Isn't he is school all day? Regarding the food, you just cook HEALTHY food and let him choose to eat it or not. If he doesn't want to, then let him know that it is his choice and he can get down from the table. He will not die if he misses a meal! Don't give him a snack 2 hours later, let him know that it was his choice not to eat and that the next time he should maybe make a different choice. This way he realizes that you aren't forcing him to eat, but that he can eat healthy or not at all. you are incontrol yet he does not feel controlled and eating won't become a battle to wills. Do not feed him what he wants! You are his parent not his personal chef!

Good luck

Missy - posted on 03/22/2010

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I agree with no nap for a 7 year old. My almost 6 year old will sometimes fall asleep on her own on the weekends if she is inside watching a movie, but I don't force her to take a nap. Now if she was up late and got up too early on a weekend and she is cranky then yes I will make her lay down for an hour or so. What I mean by that is that her daddy works till 10pm and doesn't get home till 11pm, so on Fridays I will let her stay up to wait for him. If she gets to bed at midnight and is up at 5am, obviously she didn't get enough rest and I will make her lay down if she is cranky.

As for the not eating, have you tried picking up a kids cookbook and having your son cook his meals with you? I have found the more I include my daughter in meal preparation, the more likely she is to eat the things that she "made".

Good luck!

Mandy - posted on 03/21/2010

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Why do you want him to take a nap? all kids are grumpy after school at 7 years old I think he is to big to be taking naps. and as for the food thing he isnt going to let him self starve and their tastes slowly change as the grow so I wouldnt worry to much unless he is losing weight

Paula - posted on 03/18/2010

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I agree with the other moms. At 7 he probably doesnt need a nap. Especially if he is in school all day. Give him an energy outlet if he doesnt use it all up at school. Or if he needs down time, just let him relax and read or color quietly. Even just a half hour of tv or music could help. As for eatting....as him what he wants, make it and if he changes his mind he doesnt get anything.... and no snacks right before dinner. Snack time should be right after school. My 5 year old has snack time at school (perschool), and then another snack before bedtime if he eats a good dinner. His bedtime is about 830. At my sons school they have a saying so the kids don't whine about what they get for breakfast or lunch....."you get what you get and you don't through a fit" lol it works.

Tammy - posted on 03/15/2010

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he shouldnt need a nap, if he is tired in the afternoon either move hi sbedtime up or take him to the dr. also i dont understand why he isnt in school all day at age 7. as for the meals i agree with u make a meal thats whats for supper-it isnt a resturant. if u can get him to try the V8 dont do the splash it is loaded with high fructose corn syrup. try the new v-fusion 100% fruit juice they come in great flavors-a full serving of fruit & a full serving of veggies in every 8oz glass, the light version has less calories but also less servings of fruits & veggies, they both taste great! Good luck!

Donna - posted on 03/12/2010

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I would try cutting out the naps and setting an early bedtime. Kids will eat when they are hungry. Don't stress about it.

Sharlene - posted on 03/12/2010

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Two of my three kids stopped taking naps by age 3. Personally, I think 7 is too old for naps.
Finding food they'll eat is always a challenge but we grew up with, you eat what's on the table; so I try to convey that to my kids. Also, every morning, I fix them a green energy drink (25 servings of fruits and vegetables in one scoop added to juice or water). Knowing they get their nutrition to start the day helps a lot! (Check out www.mynurish.com for the blend we use.) Good luck!

Amy - posted on 03/11/2010

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hi...just my opnion.. i think at 7 years od, shouldnt he not be taking naps anymore?

Connie - posted on 03/10/2010

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I have a daughter who will be 7yrs old, I don't require her to take naps. On the other hand, she has a hard time eating her dinner, it's a constant struggle...I don't understand it sometimes. She doesn't like mac & cheese either. At birthday parties, she doesn't even cake nor ice cream.

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Hi Charie,

I agree with the other moms, 7 years old is wayyy to old to be taking a nap although I think all moms would love it sometimes so that we can take a nap too.. :) but at 7 years old he needs to be in school 8am-3pm then doing homework, snack and playing till he exhausts himself so he'll get a good nights rest for school the next day..

As for the feeding.. I wouldnt worry about it.. Children can be very very picky eaters.. My son is 8 and all he eats is
PB & J, Chicken Nuggest and Fries, Mac & Cheese, Pancakes and Waffles and Froot Loops

and THAT'S IT.. Literally, nothing else!

he won't even eat cake or ice-cream.. The most important thing is that he eats and he's healthy.. I don't force different foods on him because it just makes him hate the food more.. usually when he sees me and his brother really enjoying certain foods we tell hiim that' he's missing out.. he will then feel left out dip his finger in our foods and barely taste it.. If he likes it then great but if he doesnt.. we reward him and praise him for at least trying.. I'm sure he'll grow out of it someday as for now the doctor says he's a healthy 8 year old boy, besides for his asthma and he's never had a cavity

Good luck

Sara - posted on 03/10/2010

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i agree that you need take a nap while ur 7yr old is in school. if you continue to try to give him naps....he's either going to start taking them and then be up all hours of the night or he's going to continue to fight u on taking a nap. 7yr. olds do not need naps. they are bundles of energy at that age. you need to find him things to do that will entertain him.
as for food. don't try to force him to eat things that he does not like. if he won't eat veggies or fruit....try V8 slash. if he's not eating enough protiens and stuff....they make kids shakes that will help him. find fun ways to prepare food for him. if he sees that food can be fun...he may enjoy eating it more. just don't force him to eat. he will eat when he gets hungry enough. when i was little....i didn't really like food much.
for the woman that said to be firm with ur disipline ....u don't need disipline when it comes to trying to get a child to eat. save the disapline for when ur child does something bad or wrong. do not punish a child for not liking the same things that you do or not eating enough. they are independant thinkers too and have little minds of their own....and they have their own tastes (which may not be the same as ours). my father used to be strick and too firm.....as i grew older...i rebelled against him. kids are kids...let them be exactly that. back on point... don't force him to eat. he will when he's hungry. make it fun. find things that he likes. teach him about the cause and affects of different foods.... like meat will make you strong and give you big muscles. veggies will make you see really good (almost like a super hero). just find different ways and interests he has and combine it with food. my kids eat everything...so long as i make it fun for them. none of my kids are over weight either or under weight for that matter. i have 3 kids ages 10, 7 and almost 2.

Mandy - posted on 03/10/2010

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I have found that if my son is hungrey he will eat and if he is tired he will sleep. they wont let them selfs starve as a rule so I wouldnt worry too much. With him being at school like my son they are very tired after a big day.
if he is excessivly tired all the time then it wouldnt hurt to take him in for a check up to ease your mind.

Lisa - posted on 03/10/2010

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Wow, I couldn't get my five year old to nap if I want to, 7 is stretching. Perhaps he needs outlets to use his energy, sign him up for swimming, soceer or just in the park would do him good. He is probably bored or you could take him for a walk or bike in the neighbourhood. As far as eating, even picky eaters have their ups and downs. Don't worry, when he is growing, he could eats more than you expect.

Tonya - posted on 03/10/2010

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Why is he even napping they don't need naps at that age and if they do they will simply lay down, and kids are picky in stages my 7 year old twins are living off of chicken strips or nuggets sometimes they will take two bites and are full other times they can down 15 pizza rolls if in the mood

Noorellyna - posted on 03/09/2010

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hi...all our friends here are true about 7 year old don't need nap...at this age, he needs more usefull things to play, fr example puzzle, quiz, UNO...it can be fun if u participate...i hv same problems feeding my 7 year old daughter, but i'll make sure she didn't take anything light such as snacks at least 2 hrs before everymeal...help to feed him while he busily playing with his gadget....

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At that age, I have to agree with quiet time over nap. Kids grow out of nap time by that age, usually. My son was also (what do I mean WAS...he's nearly 10 and still is lol) a picky eater. He gets the option of eating what is made or doing without. I guarantee, he won't starve himself heh. Boys are hard work so don't sweat the small stuff and save your energy for the big battles. It'll do you both a world of good :D

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2010

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He is way to old to take a nap. My 7 year old has not had a nap since he was 4. As far as his eating goes they all go through that. The best advice I can give is to fix one meal for supper, if he is hungry he will eat. You have enough to do other than fixing two or three different meals in one night. If he does not eat, it's his fault it does not mean you are starving him. When he figures out that is all he is getting and he gets hungry enough, he will eat.

Toni - posted on 03/08/2010

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he shouldn't be napping anymore just because you are tired. Maybe you shouold nap while he is at school. Kids go through eating stages. When he hits a growth spurt then you won't be able to stop him from eating.

Sylvia - posted on 03/08/2010

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Quit trying to make him take a nap -- he almost certainly doesn't need one, and you're just setting both of you up for frustration. If he needs some down time, tell him he needs to read or play quietly for at least half an hour.

I can't help you with the eating part. My seven-year-old is really picky, too. If she doesn't want what the rest of us are having for dinner, she can make herself a peanut-butter sandwich.

Lisa - posted on 03/08/2010

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Yeah Why is he napping, Does he need down time? does he get moody throw tantrums, or what. is that why he is still napping? don't worry about when he eats either he will eat when he gets hungry.

Kathy - posted on 03/08/2010

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Yeah I don't understand why a 7 year old needs to nap... You need to find some type of entertainment for your 7 year old child to do. Like reading or playing outside....

Charie - posted on 03/07/2010

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sorry! what i mean is hard to nap him in afternoon.he is from morning school, so i'm tired of any ways to feed him, i always cook what he wants and likes. He's always playing a gadget and more playing tricks here in our place.

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