HELP!!!! Stepmother is using CPS to harrass me!!

LeeAnn - posted on 07/21/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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She has been at it sence 2003, we just closed the last case while I was pregnant with the twins. I know there has to be something I can do.

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Kyleigh - posted on 09/07/2011

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yeah sounds like you need to cut ties and fast! good luck to you all!

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I had a problem with my step-mother-in-law reporting my husband and it was found to be a malicious act. As soon as it was disproved I cut off all ties to her and refuse to allow my children alone with her or even near her. I have also told her if she comes around again or in my house I will file a restraining order against her.

Michelle - posted on 07/26/2010

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Have a lawyer draft formal statement of who you talked to in CPS, when you talked to them, what you told them, etc. and have it sent to CPS to be placed in your file as a matter of record. This could give them better legal legs to resist her next complaint.
Then if she does it again and escalates it to the level that CPS feels they have to investigate to avoid being negligent, sue your ex-mom-in-law for harrassment, or whatever else your lawyer thinks you can prove.
It can be expensive, but the toll constant CPS visits must take on you personally is expensive to your health! There are some things worth borrowing money for and sadly, this sounds like one of them.

Rebecca - posted on 07/25/2010

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i have no advice because i don't know your countries legal system. but sheessh! some people are LOW. sorry you're are going thru this ... the worst is how hard it is on your kids. have you told your ex how badly it is affecting the kids?

Jennifer - posted on 07/25/2010

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if there is no justification as far as cps is concerned file a formal report through them on her, or a harrasment charge through police station As long as u know u are doing right by your kids let her keep calling they will figure it out for themselves and put a stop to it.

LeeAnn - posted on 07/24/2010

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I have tried to explain it to CPS but they keep showing up. The reports that they get escalate in what the abuse that is alledges.

Stephanie - posted on 07/24/2010

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When my ex pulled that crap I spoke with the case worker and explained the problem. She came and checked out my house and put a note in my file explaining that my ex was using them to get to me. I haven't had a problem since then.

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You can sue her for slander or libel if she is making false reports that are detrimental to your character. Especially if there are records and her statements can be proved to be false and were circulated in a manor as to hurt your reputation or standing. However, if she can prove that she had reasonable cause to suspect the children were in danger, even if investigations conclude that they are not/ never were in danger, she can get out of the suit and you could be left paying your attorney's fees as well as hers (depending on where you live and what court you use).

Mindy - posted on 07/23/2010

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try to keep the kids nice and clean dont lose it in public and let other people see how the kids are. my ex mom-in-law has done this sooo many time they dont listen to her anymore. the kida them selves are the best "witnesses"

Raeann - posted on 07/23/2010

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it's a terrible feeling. i asked cps what i could besides filing charges and they said to just make sure i am taking care of the kids like i should be. my oldest was embarrassed cause they pulled him out of class to ask him questions. i have nothing to hide but i dont think anybody should have the right to harrass you or your kids.

LeeAnn - posted on 07/23/2010

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I have the cps resorcds and it says who made the calls from when we went to court in 2005. I am wating for the newer reports now. They've been too my house 4 times I knew three of the cases not the other 5. You would think CPS would have figured it out after 8 years. It's nice to know that I am not the only one. Kinda felt like it.

Raeann - posted on 07/23/2010

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i actually just went through the same crap & it sux! the kids are asked all sorts of questions and its disruptive. i talked to my atty and got a restraining order prohibiting them from making false accusations against me. cps cannot give you the accusers name but an atty can ask for cps records. good luck

Zatonda - posted on 07/23/2010

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Get a good lawyer, I mean if you want her to totally stop, It may cost money but she can be charged if she is making false charges. If your a good parent, I would not worry about it.

LeeAnn - posted on 07/22/2010

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Unforunatly I have talked to my ex and it turns out he is just as involved in at she is. I think I will get a no contact order against her and go from there. I think it's my only option which is too bad because my son has no idea it's her and he loves her :(

Altara - posted on 07/22/2010

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It is probably time to take legal action, because it is not only disruptive to your family life but could be harmful to their mental health. Have you tried talking to their father?? I would get in contact with a lawyer or if you can't afford one try legal aid and see what you can do from there.

LeeAnn - posted on 07/21/2010

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I have tried that even showed them the threat she made of myspace that she posted 8 days before the last case.

Jozzelle - posted on 07/21/2010

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Go to their office and speak with the higher-up, explain, but show proper outrage.

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