HELP! To start kindegarden or not?

Brandi - posted on 05/18/2010 ( 73 moms have responded )

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My son misses the kindegarden cut off by 12 days. He will be five this year. The thought of him waiting a whole extra year just because of his age irritates me. My son has been in preschool since he was 2. 3 years of learning the same thing over and over again. He is starting to get bored at school and is ready for kindegarden mentally. I think maturity wise he will be a little hard to manage - but I found his energy is usually a great thing when harnessed in something constuctive and educational for him. Everyone is telling me how horrible I am for trying to put him in school this year. I think early education is a benefit for kids who show the desire to learn and I deathly afraid that another year in preschool will turn him into a "baby" so to speak again. I mean honestly how many years in a row can you learn to count, directions, and colors??? I hope that makes sense - I look forward toe veryone's opinions as it seems in my personal life I haveno supportive people in this case. He has testing on Friday to see if he is mentally ready which I am sure he will be fine in. We had him tested for speech because of his ear infection problems as a child and late talking- and found out at 3 yera of age he talked as a 8 year old does.....so I have no worries of this test......Thank you so much

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Jawaka - posted on 06/15/2010

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Glad that you came to a decision that sounds to be a great one. I just wanted to share that I haven't had to go through this personally as all of my children are born well before the Sept 1st deadline in PA(the closest I have is Aug 7th). However both of my brothers(1 3 yrs older & 1 3 yrs younger) are both fall babies and the cut off then was 4 yrs 8 mths to start school. My parents started them both in school while they were 4(Oct 3rd for the oldest and Nov 28th for the youngest) as there was not sooo much discussion on the topic then. I also have a cousin who is 3 mths younger than my older brother and his mom pushed him into school when my brother went. Academically, all 3 boys were above and beyond...maturity was a whole other thing. My older brother was and still is an introvert and never really fit in with his classroom peers. Even after he was moved into the gifted program and an accelerated high school, he never quite fit in. With my younger brother they decided to hold him back in I believe 2nd grade, it made a world of difference. He needed to be with the slightly younger students even though he was very intelligent. My cousin went through school and struggled as well, not for a lack of intelligence but because socially he wasn't ready.
I know for a lot of parents it is a touchy subject and everyone wants their child to continue to move forward. I just ask that you all think about the long term effects on your child. They may be a little bored in prek for another year but think about when pubery hits and your child hasn't yet, think about when all their friends are getting their licenses and your child isn't. Despite them being sooo close to the cut off date, remember that there are children from the previous year that have gone through the same thing and those students will be a full year older than your child. Your child might be acting age appropriate but in a classroom where many of the other students are a full year older, this could be counterproductive.

Brandi - posted on 06/12/2010

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I would just like to update everyone on this situation and of course thank everyone again for the different opinions. For those of you who suggested working with him at home with Kindegarden9why atr 31 can i StiLL not remember how to spell that)books and stuff I have been doing that since he started Pre K at 2. We have progressed to Kindegarden books and I also went out and got that fridge thing that has phonics and basic words. I think in the end I will have him wait til next year for 2 reasons...1) He will still technically be 5 at that point and as most of you stated -his friends will also be entering at that point 2) He has had some regression issues lately with his maturity because of my ex and his new g/f with baby. So I think that this showed me he may not be ready to start that type of setting. I have discussed with the school about his program and they are going to send him next door to their private kindegarden for a couple hours a day to help him not be so bored . THey are also testing in July for their private Kindegarden and as long as he passes mentally we can choose to enroll him int he private one and like some of you said, if it works great - if not - oh well - I will still be paying for daycare so why not let him try that setting right? Thanks again for everyones opinions. Though it took me some time I did read all of them and considered everyones answers. It's nice to know that without family support I have some options for help when I need it. Thanks!

Desiray - posted on 06/05/2010

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I also wanted to add, as far as the pre-school is concerned, if it's an option for you, you should look into Montessori pre-schools. This method allows children to learn at their own pace and move on so that they are not stuck learning the same thing over and over again.

Desiray - posted on 06/05/2010

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I just read a few of the responses and I firmly believe in giving him this extra year to mature. Our cut off date here in California is Dec. 2 and my 4yr old daughter will be eligible for kinder since her 5th birthday is at the end of Sept. With school beginning the 1st week of Sept., she would be the youngest in her class and will spend her first month 4yrs old. I have done a ton of reading on this, talked with multiple teachers and decided it would be to my daughter's advantage to keep her out of kindergarten until next year. If I were you, I would ask his preschool if they could expand on what he already knows by introducing him to more challenging work. If he knows his letter sounds, they can possibly begin introducing a few sight words to him. Since he knows how to count, introduce the concept of addition. There are tons of free worksheets on-line that you can print out and give to his teacher to have him do. If his pre-school isn't to fond of this idea, you can still do this at home with him. But I strongly believe that you should give him this extra year to do what kids do best- play.
Just a little side note: My oldest daughter is currently in kindergarten, she was 3 moths shy of her 6th birthday when she began last year. She's practically two years older then my 4 yr old and this is what initially caught my attention and interest on this subject ( academic red shirting)

Laura - posted on 06/03/2010

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Hey brandi-My son started Kindergarden this past sept,n he was 4 he turned 5 in nov.Unfortunatly he didn't go to preschool.(long story) intellectually he was ready,I read with him n he knew everything tht he would hav learned in preschool n then some,including writing.However my son did hav issues wit the social part,He wanted to play with all the kids when it was time to learn.Also the class he is in has too many active kids.So I've had to deal wit my son getting bullied (yes in kindergarden) n the teacher wont take the time to listen to him when he is explaining something,(she says he takes to long). I'm saying this because now my son don't want to go to school.he is always asking me right b4 walking to his class "wht time r u coming to get me mom" So please Kindergarden is not like it use to be,it's wrk wrk wrk.these kids even hav spelling tests.Make sure tht ur son is ready intellectually -emotionally-n socially. I wish tht I would hav just put him into preschool at 4 but cause he is so smart I went n enrolled him into kindergarden, thinking is was ok.I'm wrking with him he graduates this June. We are so proud of him!! Your the only one who truly knows ur son, just make tht desicion wisely.

Jackie - posted on 06/03/2010

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I am a preschool teacher, as well as the mother of a child graduating kindergarden this week. Even though your son does miss the cut off date he is so close to it. Most schools will try to work with you if you ask them to. They will give him the test to see if he is developmentally ready for kindergarden. You said that they are going to test him, so you are on the right track with him. There is a difference in congnitive develoment levels and physical development levels. Just because he might be ready in one area doesn't mean he is ready in another. That is exactly why they have these tests. I do hope everything works out well with the test. I teach where we have mixed ages 3-5. Some of our children have been there since the day they turned 3 until they leave for kindergarden and have never seen the same concept taught to them more than once unless they have needed it. If you think that is all your child is learning then maybe that school isn't right for him. If he isn't ready for kindergarden I would look into something different for him then . I hope everything does work out well. It seems like he would be fine in kindergadren.

Victoria - posted on 06/02/2010

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I went through this exact same thing. My son missed the cut off by 16 days. I had him tested (as was required to get him in kindergarten) and he passed with flying colours. He is doing awesome. I was warned about possible social problems arrising and so far nothing. Everywhere I went someone had a negetive opinion about him going early. I started second guessing my decision because of it but now I am glad I did it. I don't tell anyone (especially moms at school I don't know) that he is younger because I got tired of listening to their comments. Only I can make the decision for my son and I believe this was the right one. It is a shame there are so many people who have to make my decision into a negetive. However, there are moms at school who know because my son has befriended their kids and they can't believe how smart he is. The only sad point is that in soccer, baseball and extra-curricular sports (outside of school) He only gets to be with his friends every second year because of how the divisions are done. But he doesn't seem to mind. He's just there to have fun. I hope my experience helps. Good luck!

Rhonda - posted on 06/01/2010

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Brandi, My son turned 5 on 09-03-04. The father has parenting time one to two weeks a month, and Knows that in Michigan legaly a child dos'nt have to start school untill first grade. All through the two years of nursery school he would pull the child from class when he got a wild hair. Destroining the consistansy in his life. Now kindergarden, the father is still pulling this selfish behavior. My little guy is mising out on education that he deserves. Brandi- be glad you have the life you do. If you think your child would be waisting time by being in class, think again- just the inner action with other children in a classroom setting could be priceless. Please don't just blow this off. Children of today are the futures leaders.

Lynn - posted on 06/01/2010

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My son made the cut off by a few days. We weren't sure about going to Pre-K which was a step up from the 4 year old preschool program. So we talked to his preschool teacher and they suggested to have him tested by the school to see if he was ready. (They only tested academically). Well, the school let him in Kindergarten and most of the issues he had dealt with maturity and his fine motor skills. Academically he did fine though. He is now in the 5th grade and still but rarely has some maturity issues. He is an A and B student with the occasional C. Still, my husband and I regret starting him in Kindergarten. We wish he would have had that extra year to mature. Also, being one of the youngest in his class, he still is a little behind when it comes to playing sports, although he is starting to grow out of that.

In the end though, it is your decision. Weigh the options such as academics, maturity and motor skills. Good luck!

Shuree - posted on 06/01/2010

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My now 14 year old went to private kindergarten. She would have turned five fifteen days after the cut-off date. I had her tested at the public school and she tested well enough, that they put her into first grade. She will now be going into the 10th grade this Fall and does very well in school.

Maria - posted on 05/30/2010

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My son missed the cut-off by 15 days and we did decide to wait. We had him in a Montessori pre-school so he was far from bored. We are really glad we didn't push him too soon to enter kindergarten he was just not socially ready at the time. He ended up being right on target with his peers in school and is now 11 years old and finishing up 5th grade.He is bright, articulate and exactly where he should be. As a mother of 3 boys I now wish I had that same option with the other 2! Good luck in your decision.

Shelley - posted on 05/30/2010

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I had the same concern. My son missed the cut off by 35 days. He took the assessment and wasn't mature enough. I was upset because he's very intelligent and I thught he would be bored in daycare. I asked my provider to teach him kindergarten curriculum. I also reinforced it at home. When he started k he is and has remained ahead of most of the other students. I'm sure, tho, that he wasn't ready emotionally for k last year. It's not a personal affront against your child; the teachers kn ow a rhing or two about kids and you know specifically about yours. Hope this helps.

Vicky - posted on 05/30/2010

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My daughter has a jan birthday and did another ye of kinder will start school at 6 it has been the best decision i have made, speakl to your teacher they know best, they be smart but socially there is alot for a little person to deal with in the school yard it is much better that they sail through school and not just get y also look at the schools in your area would you child be 12 months younger than the others in the class mind would have been and 12 months in a long time in a little persons life. They do not go back to being a baby they just grow and enjoy same experiences in a different but much better way. I also have 2 children at school.

Cynthia - posted on 05/29/2010

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I went through something similar to what you are going through and thought sharing the experience might be of use to you.

My daughter did her kindergarten curriculum in preschool as a trial program for the center. She advanced so much that when it came time to put her in first grade, they promoted her to second (after testing up to grade two) and said that she seemed mature enough to handle it. Her peers sometimes thought she was confused when she said she was 7 but was in the third grade. She is turning 8 in August and will be going to the fourth grade soon.

There are pros and cons to it. I understand what you mean by keeping your child stimulated and how counter-productive boredom can be.

Pros: My daughter remains challenged in her studies and continues to grow - now more in line with her peers rather than ahead.

Cons: The other kids are more mature and know how "not to get caught" - she isn't always that "lucky". I used to worry about what behaviors or customs the other kids had already learned and if she might be teased for not knowing them. The second grade teacher expressed concern in the beginning that her fine motor skills were behind that of her peers and admitted at the end of the year she was on the fence whether my daughter should advance to third grade; it was my call and my daughter wanted to advance so I let her. Third grade was better - we moved and I did not have to disclose that she skipped a grade which seems to have removed that seed of doubt for the teacher...

Fears for the future involve peer pressure (i.e. will she be lessor able to deal with the issues because she is younger). As I write this, I imagine other parents scoffing and asking what parent doesn't worry about peer pressure and whether their kids are mature enough to handle it?

Bottom line - you and your son will live with the results more than anyone giving you advice will. There is good and bad and self doubt and second guessing either direction you take. On the bright side, kindergarten may be the entry for some of the kids in your son's class - he'd already be way ahead of the game with dexterity, following schedules and maturity.

In hindsight, I'd do it again and more importantly so would my daughter. Good luck :)

Carla - posted on 05/29/2010

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Boys grow up so much between 41/2 and 5/12. You will definitely thank yourself this time next year when you see that growth and realise how much better he will be able to handle himself, starting school at 5 1/2. Boys are also less interested in learning to read, as they have a lot more energy to manage to sit still and focus.

Laura - posted on 05/29/2010

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i'm pretty much in the same boat...my daughter missed the birthdate cutoff to start kindergarten by about 9 days and had to return to preschool for another year this past year. She was so incredibly bored with "learning" all the same stuff all over again, and I thought about having her skip kindergarten, but i feel that with it being the "intro" to elementary school, it's important for her to attend, and just see about having her skip a different grade. there's also k-4 to check into...there may be an elementary school near you that offers it... I found out about a nearby school that offered it about 3 months to late to enroll her in it as the class was already full.

Rebecca - posted on 05/29/2010

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My son's 5th birthday was 4 days past the cutoff date, and I could have chosen to send him straight to Kindergarten on a special request. However, he had not had any pre-schooling, because I could not afford to pay for it out of pocket. Where we live, they have a preschool program that is a part of the regular school system, and so I opted to have him enrolled in pre-K last fall. I believe intellectually he would have done well in kindergarten, but his maturity level I am not so sure of. He is finishing up his year of pre-k right now, and I could not be happier with the results. Throughout the year he had certain slight behavioral issues that were resolved easily, but may have been big challenges had he been in Kindergarten. His teacher says that he will thrive in Kindergarten, and that both mentally and socially he is now ready to move on.

I would suggest going with your gut on this...but IMO, it would be better for him to be ahead of his peers in Pre-K than to be behind his peers or struggling to keep up in Kindergarten.

If you decide to keep him in preschool for another year, perhaps you can sit down with the staff before the school year starts, explain the situation, and see if they are willing to provide more challenging material for your son? I would imagine that they would be willing to make some accommodations so as not to stifle your son's intellect. Also, perhaps they would be receptive to giving him a bit more responsibility in class, like maybe being a teacher's helper or something of that nature? These are questions that I would ask. Good luck!!!

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In the end, of course, it is your decision. I taught 5th and 6th grade for over 17 years and watched the behaviors and academics of middle school kids. It's important to consider a child's readiness not just now, but in the years to come. Ask yourself: 1) Will giving him an extra year help later when he's faced w/ harder life decisions and peer pressures? 2) Will he be a leader or a follower? 3) If you do wait, is there a Jr. K class somewhere that he could enroll in to give him some challenge now? Most schools to not want to retain children except as a last resort. So, it's easier to wait now than retain later. My daughter is an Oct baby, had been in preschool since she was 3 months old, was socially and academically ready for Kinder, yet we still waited. We have not regretted the decision once.

Paula - posted on 05/29/2010

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See what the testing says. But I felt the same way and my son was only five days from the cut off. He's in kinder now, he's the oldest in his class and socially its better for him. Educationally they all get to the same level eventually. At this point their being comfortable in their environment is the most important. You can pick a school that will challenge him when the time comes

Charline - posted on 05/29/2010

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Go ahead and start him! You know how you feel about it and it sounds like your son is smart enough. Also, if he really struggles, he can repeat Kindergarten with no repercussions and will be right where he would be if you wait to put him in anyway. I think he'll do fine, but even if not, he'll get another chance.

Laura - posted on 05/28/2010

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There is a trend happening where parents of boys are holding them back more. There have been studies saying that it actually can be more harmful than good. If you think he is ready for school, then go for it. We are talking 12 days. On day 13, is he going to be magically mature? I think it's just crazy that people would tell you how horrible you are. I have a son who is one of those birthdays and yes he is going to Kindergarten this coming year.

Nicole - posted on 05/28/2010

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I wish I would have waited an extra year for my son. He was born four weeks early as well and he is immature. He went to kindergarten when he turned five and it has been a struggle. He is the most immature child in his classroom. We were blessed with a wonderful teacher but he will repeat kindergarten. Hopefully the bonus year will help him.

Sylvia - posted on 05/28/2010

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It's funny, we never really thought about it -- DD turned 5 on August 8 two years ago and started SK the day after Labour Day, and it never occurred to us to consider waiting a year. (She didn't do JK because we moved in the middle of the year, plus we both work and there were child-care complications; it was easier to just keep her in her full-time daycare for one more year until she could start SK at our new neighbourhood school and go to the before/after school program there.)

She seems to be doing fine, as far as I can tell. She adored her SK teacher (the class was mixed JK/SK, so she must have been about in the middle of the group in terms of age). She was kind of reading by the end of Grade 1, pretty much on schedule; I put the sheet of "sight words" her Grade 1 teacher sent home at the end of June straight into the blue box and let her read comic books all summer, and by the time she started Grade 2 she was a MUCH better reader. Now she's insatiable.

The one issue we did have was that her Grade 1 teacher, who's a bit of a rigid type and likes nice quiet kids, didn't much care for DD's exuberance or her unfortunate habit of wandering around the classroom while the kids were supposed to be sitting on the carpet listening to a story or something. Now, I can't say I blame the teacher ... but compared to the JK/SK teacher and this year's Grade 2 teacher, both of whom DD adored and who really like(d) her, that teacher just wasn't a good fit. However, they both survived, and DD maybe learned something about putting up with a teacher who's not her favourite which will no doubt come in useful later on in her life.

Now, I know girls and boys mature differently, and I know a couple of boys (irrespective of how old they were when they started school) who've had less than awesome experiences in their first few years -- including my little brother (another REALLY BAD teacher/student mismatch in that case). The problem is that a bad experience in kindergarten can turn kids off school, and you don't want that. So, knowing nothing about what kindergarten is like where you live, I don't honestly know what I'd do if I were you.

A word about skipping grades: most people I know who did that, or whose kids did, ended up regretting it. It was not an option I was ever offered, however ;^), so I can't actually speak from personal experience.

Nicole - posted on 05/28/2010

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My son is missing the cutoff by 8 days so last year when he could not go to public preK i was disappointed but cmae to the decision after reading up on the stats for boys maturity and school , We opted to put him in a private daycare that catered to his age and maturioty level. He will be staying there this year for preK as well then to K next year...It is not what I expected to do BUT he is vrey bright and we are happy with the decision to wait!!

Ginean - posted on 05/27/2010

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Wow, lots of great feedback... hope you aren't overwhelmed with one more response. Homeschool your son (not that you aren't) but with curriculum designed for kindergarten. Let him play, be a boy, mature, and continue learning at home (if that is an option).
Best wishes on your families decision.

Jenni - posted on 05/27/2010

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Please Please Please WAIT! As a former classroom teacher I can tell you that maturity wise it will help your son to wait. Unless the child (if it is a boy) is a solid 5 and a half when school starts I recommend waiting. Girls are different, but boys statitically do better if you hold them off. As someone who started school at 4 and was the youngest by far every year in classes, I also would say wait. If my parents could do it over with me, they would. (and they did wait with my brother!)

Secondly, I know that someone said there is no harm in seeing if he is ready, but there is harm in that. If he doesn't do well, you will have a struggle getting the school district to let him repeat Kindergarten because of the No Child Left Behind Act. They lose funding for every child not moved up a grade level Trust me, you will be in for a fight. You surrender your rights to your child the moment you pull onto school grounds. It is then up to them to do what they think is best for your child...not you. And believe you me, they think moving him up to first grade even if he's struggling is the way to go so they don't lose fedral money. Then if you end up moving him to first and he was already struggling with the K level stuff, you will be setting him up for a school lifetime of heartache. I saw it over and over again as a teacher. Please, think long and hard about this before you make your choice. It is easy to hold him back a year right now...not so easy once he's already in the system.

Corrine - posted on 05/27/2010

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He may be ready mentally but if you are worried about his maturity level then I would wait. I held my son back in 4k a second year and he matured alot. Plus the first year that I took him into the school visitation and kindergarten testing days at the school, the kindergarten teachers even said that I should hold him back because of his maturity. He knew everything that they asked but he basically stared at them while they were tring to test him the first time. And my son's birthday is 2 wks before school usually starts.
But take the chace and do the school testing to see what the teachers/testers have to say.

Carolyn - posted on 05/27/2010

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I ran into the same problem with my son. He missed the cutoff by 6 weeks. I was able to find a loop-hole in order to get him into kindergarten early and it was the best decision I ever made for him. Yes, he is the youngest in his class, but he is tall for his age and no one has ever noticed. The only negative side effect has really been that some of his classmates are a little more coordinated than he is...but that can happen at any age! My son has always been in the top of his classes and last year in 3rd grade was 1 of only 2 kids in his class to get straight A's all year! And now that he's advancing to 5th grade, he was 1 of only 3 in his class who was selected by his teacher to be on the safety patrol next year because he does so well in class and gets along with everyone. My advice is to forget what everyone else says and go with your gut! I did and I've never regretted it.

Staci - posted on 05/27/2010

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I say if you have any doubt and are concerned when he gets to high school, don't do it. What is the rush? I have a little boy who won't be five until September, and although he is very bright, he's not ready mature- wise. I was also put into Kindergarten before I turned five, and ended up being held back in the third grade by my parents. I was gettting headaches at a young age. Fifteen years ago I was forced to put my stepson in Kindergarten early and when I helped out in his class I would see the maturity difference from the other kids. Thankfully, I was able to put him in a Transition 1st program,which gave him another year. He's won a baseball scholarship to go to college and is graduating next week. Kids grow up fast enough, let him be little! Good luck with your decision!

Michelle - posted on 05/27/2010

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Our son, who is very intelligent, was "held back" in kindergarten to allow for social maturity. He was previously the yongest in his classand needed more confidence and better friendships. It worked! Do not be bashful; be bold in your decision for him!

Kristy - posted on 05/26/2010

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My son made the cut by 3 days, but we decided to wait. It was the best decision for us and him. He knew his colors and everything before he went to preschool, but it has been a place where he could mature more. I have had several students who have had parents wait and those students have been very successful. I hear more from parents and see more problems with students who started school before they were ready because they were so immature. Maturity plays a major role in a student's success especially when they are older. The school district I work in has a ton of programs for students who are advanced. You can look into the programs and see if it is worth the wait. I look at preschool as a way for kids to develop socially, but if he seems to get bored you can talk to his teachers and see if there is something else he can work on.

Tia - posted on 05/26/2010

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Janet--that's rediculous!! Won't even test?!? I have to say that it took me a while to get my daughter's reading level fully tested! They were simply to lazy to do it! EERRRRRGGG!! Still today, I stay in contact with the teacher and principal about her reading level to ensure a good classroom for next year. It's not easy! AND IT'S NOT FOR SISSY'S!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have 2 boys that are now the oldest in their classes and I HIGHLY recommend it. Mine were all reading, adding, writing, etc. before Kindergarten and I still chose not to put them ahead. There are so many reasons to wait, but I thought of this one small detail that will mean a lot to them in high school - do I want my son to be the youngest in his class to start driving? Socially, it may just be the best thing to wait.
My nephew was not held back and is now the youngest and he is having a rough time socially. He misses all the cutoffs for sports outside of school and can't play on the same teams as his classmates. He is struggling with having to act so much older than he emotionally can handle in school as well - sitting for longer times, etc.
That said, I know you will do whatever you feel in your heart is the right choice for your son. Perhaps looking into a more challenging pre-k program that challenges him more. Best of luck!

Janet - posted on 05/26/2010

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I agree with you! Some kids are ready, some aren't. I'm glad they can at least test him where you are... the state we are in won't test, and I am ready to contact the State Legislature's office to fight it. It's ridiculous.... the laws need to be the same across the U.S. Good luck!

Tia - posted on 05/26/2010

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My youngest began reading when she was four and currently reads on an 8th grade level. She is completing the 3rd grade. I worried about her being bored in K and wether or not I should push to have her skip a grade. This would place her ahead in a class with others a year older than her. However, when I was told that she about the differences she would experience later--others would drive before she would, when others would 'start' vs when she would, and other things, I had to re-think my stratagy. I then started thinking ok, maybe I just need to get her into a good classroom.

I, like you, came from a home whose parents did not spend a lot of time on homework. So, in our home, school is a top priority. Our home contains a library for the children of more than 1000 books.

So, visiting with the schools early, educating yourself on what you can do to help your child continue their education (i.e. workbooks at home, reading kits for site words, etc...) and then ensuring your child gets into a good classroom--not just this year, but EVERY year (I am still doing this for her), can help. I am thankful that I did not start her early. While her academics are above and beyond, and her mentally was orignally above, overall, she is beginning to level out with the others in her class. If I had placed her in school ahead of time, then she would have gone from the best in her preschool class, to the one who was struggling to keep up--not good for her emotionally. And she is also one who LOVES TO LEARN :)

I even purchased materials from a 'teachers supply store' here in town to help out at home. Anything to keep my children educationally engaged at home.

Hope this helps and best of luck to you and your family.

Megan - posted on 05/26/2010

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my oldest daughter missed the cut-off by 25 days so she didn't go to kindergarten until she was 6 and I'm glad because she is at the top of her class. my younger daughter makes the cut-off this year by 5 weeks and she was tested for kindergarten and and passed, but I'm keeping her in preschool one more year and will send her when she is 6 next year. I am having her go to a different preschool and this will give her more social skills and meeting and playing with new kids and new authority figures to listen to. So although she is ready intellectually, she can work on her social skills this year.

Kirsten - posted on 05/26/2010

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Have you looked into private school? There are many that will accept the child even if their birthday is a little late. Many Christian schools fit the bill for that option. That way he will be able to continue to grow academically and will not be stunted. Also is there a way that he can be taught more advanced things at his pre-school if you can't find a private school? What about homeschooling? There are many homeschooling groups if you are a working mom and can't do it yourself.

Kristen - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have a son who is a late august birthday. He was extremely ready for kindergarten so we sent him, but as time has gone on, we have noticed some minor maturity issues.

Also, be prepared to know that most boys who have late birthdays are held back by their parents. My son is now age 7 and finishing 2nd grade. He won't turn 8 until after 3rd grade starts. This year, he had boys in his class who turned 8 right after school started, and even 2 who turned 9 during the year. That caused some problems with the older children bringing information into the classroom that we weren't mature enough to deal with.

I expect this to be a continual promblem throughout his school. If you are prepared to deal with these issues and you think he is ready, do what your gut says. However, think it through careflly because it's not a decision you can reverse.

Best of luck!!

Kristen

Lynda - posted on 05/26/2010

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If they decide maturity wise that he is not able to start, instead of putting him in pre-school, you can go to Wal-mart, and get the books aged for Kindergarten, and start him on those, to give him a head start. Start him on reading, because that is a huge thing if he can read by the time they start Kindergarten, at least here in Texas it is.
My son missed the cut-off by 5 days. I am so glad I waited, because even in Kindergarten, kids can be clannish. he was able to hold his own mind wise, and maturity wise. He excelled in Kindergarten which gave him a jump on the other kids.
Ultimately you are the parent and know your son best. My youngest was my last, and I enjoyed that last year that we had. I took him to reading groups at the library, and other functions so that he did not miss out on any social skills, but we are still so much closer now, than I was able to be with the other kids, because it was just the 2 of us during the day.
We wemt to the park, and learned about birds and what they ate, and the squirrels, everything we did was a learning lesson. He ate it up, and soaked in all the information. I cherish the memories that we had together that last year.

Stacy - posted on 05/25/2010

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I feel for you. My son will also miss the cutoff by 9 days - and although I have a couple years before I have to decide what to do, I am leaning towards holding him the extra year. I have had several friends whose children were in the same situation - close to the cutoff, and definitely ready to GO GO GO to kindergarten. Some went the private route, others found districts where the school was willing to accept them if they tested to be ready. The problem for all 3 of these families is that their children hit a wall, later in their schooling. One family was 5th grade, the other was 2nd, and the other was kindergarten. It was devestating for all 3 children to have to be 'held' back - the social stigma of it had a HUGE impact on their confidence.

The choice is yours, but if you decide to hold him until next year, maybe you could find a different pre-school for him. One that could challenge him and meet his current needs for the next year.

Good luck, in whatever you decide!!!

Melissa - posted on 05/25/2010

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My son missed the cutoff by 2 weeks when he was supposed to start kindergarten. I did NOT put him in, even though he was ready, because I myself went to kindergarten when I was 4, and I always felt a little behind, socially. I seriously wish my parents had at least waited until I was 5. They felt that when I could read and do multiplication tables at 3 years old that that meant I was ready for school. They put me in preschool for a year, and then moved me to kindergarten. Since I was mentally immature I was shy, and became a know it all showoff that was resented throughout my school career, until I learned in Jr High that if I acted dumb other kids would like me. Then I had friends, but I barely passed high school, even though I scored perfect scores on my ACTs and SATs.

So for my son, I kept him out and homeschooled him with Kindergarten curriculum, and I ended up homeschooling him through Kindergarten as well, with first and second grade curriculum. I put him in public school last fall, in 1st grade, where he belonged, age-wise, and even though he's really bored with the learning part of school, he's right on target with the social part- which is FAR more important!

Kimberly - posted on 05/25/2010

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Consider this, He will only be 17 when he graduates and what then? Is it really so bad for him to have 1 more year to ply. You know him best but Kindergarden doesn't really have play time any more.

Trudy - posted on 05/25/2010

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My neice was the same, Her birthday is Jan 12 and had to wait a full year, she is 19 now and just finished high school. It's a little sad really, beacause I was 3 when I started school because my birthday is in December. I think they should be able to have a test of some sort to see if there are exceptions to letting them start school.

Amy - posted on 05/25/2010

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I say wait and let him start when he is 6, no harm there. Put him in a good Pre-K program and let him thrive there. Being bored does not mean he is ready for Kinder! There are TONS of factors to consider! You may have to look back one day and say, "Oh wow! I really should NOT have hurried him off to Kinder... now he has to be held back bc of XYZ..." OR you could start him when he is 6 and find out that he is the head of the class his senior year, has the pick of any school, or is being asked to skip a grade! I say go with Pre-K and sit tight!

Tina - posted on 05/25/2010

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I had the same question when my son was old enough for kindergarten. His birthday is in November. He started Kindergarten he is actually graduating next week! I looked at it this way, he is young so if he really had to do kindergarten again it wouldn't be a big deal because he would only be 5 doing kindergarten over again. He didn't even go to preschool and he was fine. But no one not even a teacher can tell you if your child is ready or not you have to make the decision yourself.

Michele - posted on 05/25/2010

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I worried about starting my son early. He was 4 when the kindergarten year started and I felt that every year up to 3rd grade, the teachers were concerned but they put him through anyway. He seemed ready, he felt ready, and I trusted my instincts and his. He is ending his 5th grade school year now and has made the honor roll every trimester. You have to go with what you believe is right. If he has real issues you will always have the option of repeating kindergarten. If a child needs to repeat a grade level it is much easier to do it when they're younger. If you feel he's not quite ready, check your local pre-schools for a pre-K class level. Most pre-schools I have encountered have something along those lines. Good Luck!

Michelle - posted on 05/25/2010

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What you could do is put him in private kindergarten, see how he does, and then put him in public kindergarten the following year if it looks like he needs it again. Or you could put him in public kindergarten and if need be he can repeat it again. I have quite a few friends who did one or the other with their children and are happy with their decision.

Carmen - posted on 05/24/2010

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I say sure why not ! This will get him ready to go to 1st grade. I i put my son in kindergarten and he has learned so much!!

LaJean - posted on 05/24/2010

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I agree with the early education!! My son hit the few days past the deadline the year of kinder as well, U may be able to go in a nd meet with the principle of your local elementary school and explain your situatoin and they can do an assesment,,, they may go ahead if he can meet the right requirments and the principle is willing to work with u!! Hope this helps

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