Hi , I have one 8 years old child . He goes to shool but he is not successful with his relationships with other kids . They do not like him and they like to keep him alone . Outside school he has many frioends as he participates in taekwandoo classes they all like him but at school not as it should be .Can anyone advise .Knpowing that I tried to invite his friends but they refused to come and this breaks my heart .

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Amy - posted on 06/01/2012

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@lori.... You are SO correct. Children can be SO cruel & more often than not it is because someone else is mean to them. Your a great mom for letting your girl be who she is. As for the diagnosis of the ADHD, my sone was EVERYWHERE at once, and very distracting in class, We were told by his teacher the same thing, to have him tested. Instead we went a different rout and adjusted his intake of sugars, dyes, and increased the vegie & fruit intake! He has slowed down alot but again he is 9 and FULL of energy, just as most chilldren his age should be.

Good luck Mama!

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Amy - posted on 06/01/2012

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My son is 9 and has the same problem. He has 3 sisters but is being raised as an only child as the girls are from my previous marriage.
My son, like most 1 child families, get ALL the attention from his dad and I. This makes it hard for him to share, and co mingle in class, with out him thinking it should be ALL about him as it is at home. The kids in his class distance themselves from him as well. It hurts his feelings and makes him try even harder to get them to like him, only to make them like him less. We invited the entire class to his birthday, some said they would come, NO ONE showed up. His response was " it's ok Mom, I know the people that really love and care about me are here"

Try telling him that yes school is about having friends but his first priority should be learning. Probably as long as the outside school activities are in place and he has those children to befriend he should be ok, just start getting to know the moms of those children real good and set up "play dates". I know your heart breaks for him and I can relate... Just do the best you can and love him with all you have! And have fun as a family, these are the years he will look back on and say "hey Mom remember when.....?" and when that happens you will smile and say I am so glad we did that!
Good luck Mama!

Lori - posted on 06/01/2012

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Hi Larissa, I have an 8 year old daughter and she is quite the tomboy...very outspoken and opinionated. Teachers have always told me how strong willed she is from day one but this year is particularly difficult. They told me she should be seen by her doctor to see if she has ADHD so we did and his diagnosis was "it's probably a faze...come back and see me in 6 months". This did not satisfy them and they said her behaviour is getting worse as far as her behaviouir in class...her teacher says that no one wants to sit with her because she distracts them. As far as out on the playground she usually plays with her many "boy" friends and runs around playing pokimon games etc,,,and seems very happy. But now a few of the girls are teasing her asking her why she likes boy things and why she acts like a tomboy. I want to let her be herself so I have never forced her to wear dresses or act prissy...and this year she wanted a short hairstyle from her long hair that she usually wore in a ponytail. I was hesitant at first but then got it cut in a cute layered style. She was beaming...and loves how it looks and feels but the kids once again teased her for looking like a boy. I am very frustrated but want I know I just have to let her be herself and I'm sure your little boy is a fine child but sometimes other kids can just be cruel sometimes. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. :) Lori.

Michelle - posted on 05/30/2012

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Talk to his teachers find out what is going on she will have more insight as to what relationships are like in the classroom and be able to help you

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