How Can I Help My 8 year old Fall Asleep on his Own ???

Deanna - posted on 04/08/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My 8 year old son won't go to bed on his own. It is after midnight and he has been coming downstairs for the last 4 hours. I am losing my mind ! For the last 4 months he wants to either sleep with my husband and I or he wants one of us to lay with him until he falls asleepin his bed. I did this for many nights but now he thinks he can't fall asleep by himself. I realize that I didn't do him any favors sleeping with him but I thought he's only little once and soon he won't want to cuddle but now he feels it is the only way he can sleep. 4 nights ago I decided that he has to re-learn how to do this on his own and refused to lay with him and every night he has stayed up until after midnight. If I give in just so he will have a good sleep I am back at the beginning. He said he heard about a scary movie from a friend but I think this is a bit of a story. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I feel like a terrible Mother. It's like Ferberizing your baby and letting him cry it out !!

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Zombie - posted on 04/08/2013

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Hi Deanna, I am sorry to hear that your son is having so much trouble sleeping. My 9 yr old DD went through this last year, with the same - hearing about something scary. Here's what I did to help her get past it, maybe it will help you too.

Set bed time an hour earlier, and spend some quiet time reading with him. I found that it helped DD relax and calm her mind, and we took turns reading aloud to each other. At the time, we read the Mistmantle Chronicles - 4 book series. It's like Harry Potter meets Wind in the WIllows, and we both enjoyed the story immensely. When our time was up DD was allowed to continue reading if she wanted to, with her 'reading light" (nightlight). She would be asleep within 15-30 mins. It redirected her thoughts from "scary" things to the story at hand. We still do this routine, as it gives us both some quiet together time.

Also, check out 'Raising your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka if you have not already. It's a wonderful wealth of info regarding figuring out your child's temperament (and your own). Is he a high-energy extrovert who needs your interaction and contact to feel grounded, or is he sensitive and perceptive and feels emotions (like fear) deeper than other kids? That would definitely give you why he is having the issue in the first place and thus help you find the best strategies to help you both get past it and onto restful nights. I recently read this book on the recommendations of many moms here, and it's really helped us a great deal.

All the best to you and your son!

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