how do i break my 4 year old from sleeping in my bed?

Ashleigh - posted on 04/16/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Im a single mom n its always been us but i think its time for her to sleep in her own bed how do i do it she crys all night if i put her in her room

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Carrie - posted on 04/16/2010

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give her a teddybear to protect her and watch her while she sleeps. read a book. tuck in tight. give flashlight. go to bed

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Sabrina - posted on 04/18/2010

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Its going to be harder on you but if you want him to sleep in his own bed start on a Friday night when it is time for him to go to sleep let him get in his bed and you tuck him in and read him a story give him a kiss good night and I love you I will see you in the morning. And then you go to your room to go to sleep. He might even need a night light both of my kids do. Now he will cry alot "But don't give in" Every time is gets up you walk back in there and put him back in bed as your walking out tell him you love him and you will see him in the morning.He will do that alot just keep doing it he will stop. And when you are sleeping he will come in your room and go to sleep you just get up and carry him to his room go back to yours. After a few days he will start sleeping in his room.Don't never spank him he will learn deepen your voice if you have to try not to yell at him because all he knows is to sleep with you.I hope this helps you its what I did with both of my kids.

Danielle - posted on 04/17/2010

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i need help with this one too but i have my 5 yr old and 3 yr old that does this. i have tryed everything but they still end up in my bed. my new thing is i put a baby gate in my door way to help keep them out but they just take it down

Diana - posted on 04/17/2010

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We let our kids pick out their bedding to get them excited. Then we set up a bedtime routine with them. It took a few days but they are great now.

Crystal - posted on 04/16/2010

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It is tough at first, but you just have to be consistent. When our son was 2-3 yrs we'd let him fall asleep in our bed and then take him to his own when he was fast asleep. But that grew tiring, so we had him start out in his bed, and we'd sit with him till he fell asleep. Then as that got a little old for us, we finally put our foot down and told him he was a big boy (3.5) and needed to go to sleep by himself in his own bed. We'd turn on some music and his night light and walk out. He'd cry of course, or get up, but we'd just walk him back, tell him to close his eyes and go to sleep. It takes some time, and again, consistency, but they'll eventually get the idea. :) At 4 years old she's old enough to understand and if she starts getting stubborn about it after trying for a while, you may have to get a little stearn with her. Best of luck!

Melinda - posted on 04/16/2010

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This is so hard!! All my kids slept in our bed until they were 2-3 years old!! Now all but my daughter who is 3 sleep in thier own beds! To help wean them I started by letting them fall asleep with me then carrying them to thier own beds. When they stayed all night in thier own beds I'd congratulate them and give them a special prize like a sticker or let them watch a faxotite movie. Eventually I started making them fall asleep in thier own beds, it was hard and there were lots of tears, but eventually both of the boys learned that they were big kids and now fall asleep and stay in thier own beds all night-unless they get sick then I make an exception!! The process took about 1-2 months to get them totally weaned. I also tried buying them new blankets that were "cool" which seemed to help some! Good luck! It's a hard habit to break once you start!!

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