HOW DO I REACT WHEN ANOTHER KID IS TRYIN 2 GET MY SON IN TROUBLE N KICKED OFF THE TEAM??

Allisha - posted on 09/04/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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MY SON IS 13 YRS OLD, HE IS AN EXCELLENT ATHLETE. HE ALSO HAS A BAD TEMPER N THERE IS THIS BOY WHOM MY SON CANT STAND, HE IS PUSHIN HIM N HE KNOWS IT WILL SET MY SON OFF N MY SON WILL FIGHT HIM. IF THAT HAPPENS MY SON WILL B KICKED OFF THE TEAM (FOOTBALL). I AM SO MAD BCUZ I WANT MY SON 2 SUCCEED IN SPORTS. I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE. THIS KID WILL DO STUFF 2 THE BOYS N THEN TELL HIS MOM SOME ONE WAS MESSIN W/ HIM, OMG R U SERIOUS?? MY SON IS A JOCK N A CLASS CLOWN N GETS GOOD GRADES, HE LIKED BY 98% OF THE MIDDLE SCHOOL. THIS IS HIS LAST YR UNTIL HIGH SCHOOL. HE IS ALSO ON THE BASKETBALL TEAM. HE IS A POINT GUARD, N STARTS EVERY GAME, HE IS JUST GOOD N HE LOVES IT N IM GLAD HE IS FOCUSED ON THAT INSTEAD OF DRUGS,GANGS,SEX N OTHER THINGS HE COULD B DOIN WHAT DO I SAY 2 MY SON SO HE ISNT TRIGGERED BY OTHERS IGGNORANCE,,,,PLEASE HELP????

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Allisha - posted on 09/05/2010

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YES THE BOY 4 SURE GETS IT FROM HIS MOTHER. LOL BUT AT THE SAME TIME SHE IS A SINGLE MOM, STILL ITS NO EXCUSE 2 NOT DISCIPLINE UR CHILD, WHAT THE HE** IS REALLY BEIN TAUGHT 2 HIM.DAMMIT I REALLY WISH PARENTING CAME W/ A HANDBOOK,,,SERIOUSLY

Allisha - posted on 09/05/2010

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THANKS 4 THE ADVICE, I SURE HOPE IT WORKS.THERE WAS AN INCIDENT ALREADY THAT THE BOYS WERE INVOLVED IN , THE WHOLE TEAM WITNESSED IT. THEY DID ALL THINK IT WAS FUNNY UNTIL THAT BOY DIDNT N WENT N TOLD HIS MOM , WHO THEN TOLD THE COACH, I WAS HOT,,,,,YES HE IS BEING TAUGHT HIS BEHAVIOR. ALL BOYS INVOLVED WERE PUNISHED N HAD 2 RUN AFTER PRACTICE. THE FUNNY THING IS SHE DIDNT KNOW HER SON WAS INVOLVED WHEN SHE WENT 2 THE COACH, SO I MADE SURE I DID WHAT MY SON ASKED OF ME N SHOWED UP. I TELL MY SON 2 PICK N CHOOSE HIS BATTLES, SOME R WORTH IT N SOME R JUST NOT. ITS SAD 2 SEE BOYS DOING AWFUL THINGS 2 EACH OTHER WHEN THEY SHOULD B HAVING FUN. IM HOPING THIS WORKS , I WILL POST UPDATES ALONG THE WAY, I HAVE 3 OTHER CHILDREN 2 , MY YOUNGEST SON WANTS 2 B A POLICE OFFICER.IM TRYING 2 DO THIS W/O SETTING BAD EXAMPLES 4 MY 4 CHILDREN N THANK U!!!!

Angie - posted on 09/05/2010

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What a great learning opportunity this is for your son. Teach him some techniques for dealing with his anger in an appropriate way. He's old enough to find a way, other than fighting, to resolve problems. If HE thinks the coach needs to get involved go with him to the coach but do not say anything, just be there for moral support. Once the teammate finds out that the coach is involved, things will probably get worse since your son will be viewed as a "snitch". As far as going to his parents - HUGE mistake. The parents are going to defend their son - especially if this is a behavior they have taught him. Remember, children do not tell the truth all the time and they will believe what their child is saying. I usually take things my children say with a grain of salt but not all parents do. I think that unless he is being physically or emotionally abused this is a situation that is your son’s to control. Waiting until later to beat him up should not be an option.

Amy - posted on 09/05/2010

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if i were you i would go to the coach if that doesnt help, Go to the parents, it starts at home, and if the home isnt understanding the problem , you know where the boy gets it from, and if thats the problem then you should just keep reasuring your son that hes a better person for not fighting him and that he will succeed in the future knowing how to control his temper..

Allisha - posted on 09/04/2010

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MY SON HAS PUT UP W/ HIS CRAP FOR 3 YRS N HE WANTS 2 JUST QUIT FOOTBALL N KICK HIS A**. I HAVE BEEN TELLIN HIM JUST 2 IGNORE HIM,,KARMA WILL KICK IT 4 HIM. FIGHTIN ISNT THE ANSWER IN THIS SITUATION, ALTHOUGH THE BOY DOES TOUCH HIM 1ST. I TOLD HIM JUST W8 TIL SPORTS R OVER. IDK WHAT ELSE 2 SAY, MY SON ISNT THE ONLY ONE THAT THIS KIDS ANNOYS!!!!!

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