How do l get my baby to lose weight without hurting her feelings?

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Julie - posted on 05/10/2010

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I pretty much agree with everything that has been said, but make sure your tell her how beautiful she is and point out her great qualities often. Often girls get most of their identity from appearance. They need to know that is only one part of them. And not the most important.

Gale - posted on 05/08/2010

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Dont tell her she needs to lose weight, just change the way she eats, do fun things with her, go for walks, ride bikes together, make it fun. If you never tell her she needs to lose weight, it wont hurt her feelings, but like the other person posted, is her doctor saying she needs to lose weight?

Susan - posted on 05/08/2010

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how old is your child,how overweight is your child has a doctor suggestied your child loose weight all theese should be answered before even trying because if child dosent need to loose weight under advice of doctor or healthvisitor dont maybe all you need to do is increase childs activity and reduce childs portion they say a childs portion of any food group is the size a closed childs fist so vegetables protein ect child needs until age of 5 a pint of milk a day this can be achieved by yogurt or cheese or milk they can have semi skinned milk after age of 2 years remember kids need lots of diffrent food groups like beans and lentils which are great source of fibre and iron also remember you need vitimin c to obsorb iron so try doing a food diary for a week and then see if there is times your child eats high fat foods ie when either your tired or he is tired or you are busy and maybe invest in a cheap slow cooker and prepare a meal in advance .all these things should help your child without hurting his/hers feelings and good luck and have fun go swimming together and trampoling we invested in one my kids love it and will spend half an hour to an hour on there at a time without thinking about it. i hope these help .

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Lynn - posted on 05/13/2010

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I think that it depends on her age and weather you've seen a doctor about her weight. My son is heavy for his age but I would never put him on a diet because his is also tall for his age. I do however, watch what he eats and try to help him make healthier choices. We also go for walks and hiking together. Good luck on this and I hope things start to look up for her.

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No matter how us moms feel the bottom line is a health issue. Being overweight myself most of my life I can understand how cruel kids can be. However, you need to check with you doctor and see what they recommend. You didn't mention your childs age so I think checking with a professional will give you a track to run on. Of course eating healthy is very important and you would be surprised that most of the time its easy to do. We have just gotten into the habit of quick n' easy or drive through. Portion size is important but don't skimp on veggies that are low in calories. Also make sure that there are no underlying health issues such as diabetes that you are unaware of. Routine blood work will tell alot and you can even ask your doctor to do an A1C to be sure along with the usual tests. One sure indication is an increase in thirst also on that note drink water no diet soda especially for children. Read the warnings on aspertame to see why children should never be given diet drinks. Hope this helps - we love our kids and want them to grow up to be happy healthy adults. Best wishes.

Jenifer - posted on 05/12/2010

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This is an important issue that no one has even mentioned.1 out of three females have an eating disorder.Over eating and binge eating are legitimate eating disorders. My mother always told me to lose weight the kids at school did as well.I was 12yr old and I hated myself for being fat. I went from 180lb to 105lb.I am 5 4inch tall. I starved my self. when I was hospitalised There were women of all shapes and sizes.If your child is over weight they are filling a void with food.I'm 34 and I 98lb. All because people kept telling me I was fat. At this point it's my battle, Ijust wish my mom would have helped me when I was a little girl. I fight every day to keep my children from suffering the way I do This is a serious situation that should be given care Talk to a doctor. i really hope I am wrong.Good luck.

Jayme - posted on 05/11/2010

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You can not afford to worry about her feelings.. I know it sounds harsh but I have a daughter who is now severely overweight. And at age 15 what do I do now. it is easier to he harder when they are younger and just say cause I said so.... be strong mom... it is hard to say no when it comes to food. I always said if my kids were hungry I was going to feed them. Now I regret not being more responsible...

Anita - posted on 05/10/2010

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make eating part of a game and fun encourage lots of options different type of food and just be sneaky some times introduce smaller plates even treats not to be food for being good use star charts if weight is a issue play it down kids pick it up. when they go out into the world they get enough emotional hurt home needs to be happy and small steps the weight didnt get there in a hurry and will take time . talk about doing sports and join in kids c parents doing this this is normal even a walk in the park.good luck .

Susan - posted on 05/10/2010

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there is nothing more cruel than children ,have you spoken to the teacher about it maybe do a snack swapping game look at what snacks shes taking to school and then see if you can swap her snack for something else makesome cards up with pictures on of a apple bannana raisns cereal bar have cards with face down and have a snap kind of game any 2 of one fruit thats what she takes into school it will only take 10 minutes in evening and it will be special time and if you also take in the same fruit into work she wont feel as if shes been individualised . i have 5 kids and they all have diffrent builds and obviously diffrent abilities to burn of calories so i think you just need to do food diary and controll snacking and invest in smaller plates /portion sizes and try prepairing meal evening before or in morning so not cooking convience foods which is easy to do . we all have nights when we are exsausted and end up doing nuggets chips and beans because its quick and filling. as long as they dont have chocolate biscuits and fizzypop and crisps. replace these with cereal bars fruit juice and raisns and dried apricots and bread sticks and increase activity her confidence should blossom and weight should drop but first stop help her to ignore bullies and speak to teacher.

Kel - posted on 05/10/2010

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My daughter is going through the same thing. She's eight years old and over weight. She's come home from school very upset because a boy in her class keeps calling her a "giant jumbo" (she's also very tall for her age) Since I'm overweight myself we have made a deal to do it together and it's working. She's lost five pounds so far. Be sure to check with your pediatrician first. In most cases they may want you to simply keep your child from gaining and let them grow into their weight. In our case, the doc said losing a few pounds wouldn't hurt. I am keeping a food diary for both of us. We are eating healthier (which is good for the whole family anyway) and we go for walks or ride our bikes together every afternoon.

Gwyneth - posted on 05/10/2010

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thanks for all yo advise. lm a very busy working mom and maybe l need a food diary and oh the trampoline is long overdue. its the words from her peers mostly at school that hurt her the most. they call her all sorts of names. Will work with her all the way.

Stacie - posted on 05/09/2010

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Be sneaky. I know that sounds horrible but you can't tell a girl she needs to lose weight without hurting her feelings. So trick her. Eat healthy and be active with her. Whether she is a little overweight or a lot, you are setting a good example and making sure she follows though. Good luck!

Angie - posted on 05/08/2010

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Don't buy any junk food - only healthy things. Cook healthy meals. Excerise with her; go for walks, jump on the trampoline together, take a class together at the recreation center. As long as you are making the changes with her, her feelings won't be hurt.

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