How do other moms react to the question of a 10 year old having a TV in their room?

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Mercedes - posted on 10/04/2009

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Both my children have TV's in their rooms. During the school week they have rules on watching it. They are not allowed to turn it on if they haven't finished their homework, and have a time limit if they have. On the weekends they're allowed to watch it more as long as they didn't get into any trouble during the week!

Jodi - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have a 12 year old, and the answer is still no! We have 3 TVs in the house (lounge, kitchen, rumpus), there's plenty to go around, why does he need one in his bedroom. Besides, I believe TVs in bedrooms encourage kids to withdraw from the family environment. By forcing them out into the family areas to be able to watch TV they are not isolating themselves.



If one of the kids is sick, one of our TVs is small enough to set up in their room for them.

Jennifer - posted on 10/15/2009

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My girls share a room and have a TV in it. They are 4 and 5 years old. However... I keep a close eye on what they watch... Noggin or PBS kids ONLY! They spend most of their time playing or doing crafts anyway.

Melinda - posted on 10/14/2009

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my 7 year old daughter has always had a tv in her room. it only plays her dvd's/vhs tapes. i don't seen anything wrong with it. she never even spends time in her room. when we are at home, she wants to be in the family room with us. the only time she ever watches anything in her room are when other kids come over and they are playing in there. if she wants to watch satellite, she watches it in the living room, and i monitor the shows. i will not, however, put a computer in her room because i don't want her playing on it all the time. she's hardly ever inside, and when she is, she spends most of her time with us, so i don't think having a tv in her room is hurting her any. as for falling asleep with one on, she does. every night, i make my family watch jeopardy (around her bedtime), and she conks right out!

Racheal - posted on 10/04/2009

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I am sure you supervise him. As long as they don't want to sit in there for long, it is okay. There are alot of learning shows on tv, also.

My son is eight and he is directv and a dvr in his room that records 100 hours on it.. There are channels that I have blocked like HBO and stuff like that. He usually just plays his games in there and watches cartoons that he has taped that me missed. I had one for long as I can remember in my room and I turned out great. So, I don't see what the problem is as long as he is doing his responsibilities and chores.. :)

I find it funny so many people don't even want their children watching tv at all. It is not like it is going to kill them or make them bad. Come on, people. It is a tv for God's sake. You can set the parental settings how you want and you HAVE to supervise them. My son does play sports and get out, but he needs a normal childhood, also.. Almost everyone has a tv in their house, so what's wrong with one in their room. When I am watching my shows like Big Brother and Desperate Housewives, I am watching them and he is usually in his room watching something or taking a shower and getting ready for school for the next day..

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Shannon - posted on 10/15/2009

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My son has a TV in his room. I am so blessed to have a son who doesn't watch it that much even when it is in his room. It probably depends on the child. Some may never want to come out of their room and others may get bored with it pretty quickly. It's just something each mother has to decide on their own.

Danii - posted on 10/15/2009

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all 3 of mine have tv,dvd,playstation and even a computer in there room.... i have never had a problem with them becoming withdrawn from our family.. but each to there own i have found that they can watch wht they like in there room and not upset anyone else who is watching something they dont like or want to watch

Melanie - posted on 10/14/2009

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Our children know that they will never have a TV, phone or computer in their bedrooms - that all 3 are only for common areas where we can monitor things. It's the only thing that makes sense to me.

Tannisha - posted on 10/14/2009

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I think it is important to do whatever works best for your family. My 5 yr old has a tv in his room that he can only watch dvds on and he only gets a small amount of time after school. Weekends he can have as much as he wants, but my husband and I were both athletes and we make sure he gets outside as well. He would much rather ride his bike anyway. I feel a little offended sometimes when parents say kids should never have tvs in their room or watch tv. You have to consider the situation and make sure they don't ONLY watch tv. My son watches a lot of learning dvds and that helped him with his speech delay. I think in the long run, each family should do what they feel is best for their family.

Jenn - posted on 10/13/2009

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I am a mother of a five year old. He will be 10 in no time so I highly disagree with having TV,s or DVD in the bedroom. This room is only for sleeping which children need alot of. Specially as they get older.

put glow in the dark stars on the their celing lie down with them and look at the stars. great conversation piece. you will be having your 10 year old tell you anything on their minds. Let them start the conversation. No talking from the parents just lie back with and LISTEN!

Tammy - posted on 10/12/2009

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Quoting Vickie:

Well both of ours have one and have had one since they were small. BUT we have certain rules. One is no TV until all homework is done. And if it is pretty outside they are to be outside playing or some other fun type of activity and not on the TV. In the evenings and when it is rainy or cold then they watch their TV . Or if me and thier dad is watching a movie they think is boring lol then they can. It has taught ours responsibility.


this is smart.  I try to make sure the same thing is applied in my house, but with the rule of only 3 shows ( not always back to back )  a day so he can watch one in the morning before school and 2 after if he wants,  but School work is always first and then play time before TV.

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My rule " No T.V's in the bedrooms" We only have 1 TV in the living room. I think that bedrooms are meant for sleeping and relaxing... basically quite time.

Christa - posted on 10/11/2009

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Both of my daughters have had tvs in their rooms since they were little. They are 9 and 11 now. They only watch their tvs after homework and reading is done, so they usually get to watch for about a 1/2 hour before bed.

Gemma - posted on 10/10/2009

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my daughter is six she has had a tv and dvd player for as long as i can remember!! whats wrong with a child getting their own space in the evenings!! it wont draw him away from family time if rules are set. my daughter watches a film once a night on hers and it keeps her happy.

Adrienne - posted on 10/10/2009

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we are a family of electronics. our 9 year old daughter has surround sound, dvd, tv, stero, etc. she has certin times she is allowed to watch tv. she listens to her stereo when she's cleaning her room which seems to motivate her. it also gives us things to take away when she misbehaves. when she gets in trouble she knows we have a rule that if it plugs in then she can't use it until her punishment is lifted. we have explained to her that these things in her room are privledges and not a given right and therefor can be taken away.

Tammy - posted on 10/09/2009

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My son has a TV in his room also. He is only allowed to watch DVD's, we do not have the satellite hooked to his. He only watches his TV at night when he lays down to go to bed, it is allowed to stay on thirty minutes and then it goes off. He usually is a sleep by then. If not he has a radio that he can turn on low.

Mel - posted on 10/08/2009

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We let ours have a tv at first as she was being good, then after a couple of weeks she was not sleeping properly(tired all the time) and then withdrew from family activities...We had to take it off her and let her know she can have one when she is a bit older... I think it is too young for them now..

Sarah - posted on 10/08/2009

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my daughter has had a tv in her room since she was three but i only let her watch it fri eves weekend and hols if she wants to watch tv during the week she watches it with me after homework is complete.

Jen - posted on 10/07/2009

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I just mention that my son earned it from good behavior/school records. The good behavior continues, and he's pretty good with the tv in his room, he doesn't try to abuse the privilege. I point out that I don't have to monitor or control it's use, because he barely uses it anyways. But he love's it, even if he rarely uses it. He'll use it on weekends to watch his Lord of The rings trilogy for example. But not on a school night. He's pretty good with it.



Edit: My daughter's on the other hand's, wouldn't be allowed a TV in their room yet. lol They're not ready for one in their room without the rules and monitoring etc.

Jennifer - posted on 10/07/2009

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My children have had a t.v. and dvd player in their rooms for years but I will say there is rules no t.v. on school nights only weekends and even then it goes off by 10. I think it is fine as long as there is rules to follow.....

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i think whatever the age it is ok as long as rules are put into place from the start so children know what the boundaries are my kids have them and have done since around the age of 4 but they only watch it for an hr in the evening after tea time and bath time is all done the tv is normally off by 7.30pm on week nights so kids are in bed by 8pm wkends are different i let them stay up till 9pm so they get an extra hr to choose if they want it on or not . i do use the tv as a punishment too as in i take away the privelage of them having it if they misbehave for a few nights

Kelly - posted on 10/07/2009

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All 3 of my kids have TV's in their rooms. However, this means we as parents have to monitor a bit more closely and make sure they don't live in their rooms 24/7 and not interact with the rest of family.

Ryane - posted on 10/07/2009

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My husband and I agree that our children will not have a TV in their room. We want them to spend time with their family, and if they had their own TV, that would not happen. All 3 of my boys want one, and their dad and I said that if they want one so bad, they have to buy it themselves. They didn't like that, so they gave up.

Melissa - posted on 10/07/2009

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Hi, i have to admit that my daughter has had a tv in her room since she was about 7. my son is 7 now and he has had one for some time. I feel if you monitor the time they spend in their room with the tv all should be o.k. My kids are so over the novelty of it they don't even use them much anymore.

Lori - posted on 10/07/2009

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It depends on your feelings towards TV... If you allow them to watch tv outside of their rooms, and can be trusted, why can't they in their rooms? If you don't allow TV well then o course not

Zuraidah - posted on 10/06/2009

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hai Eva i'm not aggree if children at that age have thier own TV in thier's rooms. For me, I'll train my children since 6 years old not to watch TV everyday and luckily they listen to me until now my daughter is 13 years old and my sons 11 years old. They only watch TV during school holiday & weekends. As a result my children know to control themself from watching TV and thiers examinations result is good. Try you can do it but not by force.

Crystal - posted on 10/06/2009

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i say no, not in my house....i dont think they need one, they can watch it with the rest of us, i am willing to give up my shows for a little bit of dora LOL and i remember when i was young and had one in my room, I always snuck the tv on after bed time and my mom never knew....i dont want that here

Rebecca - posted on 10/06/2009

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I have 5 children (17, 15, 14, 7 and 4). We tried a tv with the oldest (he was 15) it was very short lived. My children have what they need, bed, dresser, desk. There are 3 tvs (parents rm, living rm and kids rm (which also has a piano and large bookshelf, full of books)). They do not need any of that CRAP!!!!!! Think about when you were a kid.........what did you have???? How did you turn out???? Do you expect something for NOTHING????? Most of the kids I have seen nowdays, think they are SUPPOSED to have these things, because noone has told them any different. They won't die without it, when they complain.........so and so has this and so so has that, then just remember what your parents told you.....your not so and so......or go live with so and so.

Rose - posted on 10/06/2009

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Definetly not! that would be the end of any conversing or even spending family time together! i am totally against it, my son has asked on numerous occassions as well.

Christiine - posted on 10/06/2009

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well my kids r 10 and 8 they have had tvs in their room every scence they were about 5 and6 i dont find a problem with it as long as their not watching it 24 7...

Camika - posted on 10/06/2009

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I have t.v's in every room which includes the kids room. They have always had a t.v. in their room even as a baby but as they got older the rules were enforced. No t.v. on a school night even before they were school aged T.v. on they weekend as long as all homework was done on that friday.... One hour at least depending on the age of reading or math problems.

Cynthia - posted on 10/06/2009

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Well my son is 6 and has had his own tv since he was 4. Its major function is to play his vsmile or other educational games and for him to watch his movies when he wants to and when his friends are over. There are rules that go along with having the TV and VCR etc and he does spend time doing other activities. He has learned about responsibility as well as freedom of choice all at the same time. It's not a bad thing as long as you set the rules and stick by the rewards and consequences as the parent in the situation.

Kelli - posted on 10/06/2009

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I have a 6 yr old, and he has had a T.V. in his room since he was small. He dosn't have cable, he can only watch movies and play his game. All of that gets turned off at 6:30. That way his brain can adjust before bed time, which is 8:00pm

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i find it very scary that so many little kids have tvs in their rooms and have had since they were tiny. it might not be a problem now (i think more because it is a convenient babysitter/to keep the mess out of living areas) but at some point down the line there almost seems no way out. from what i am reading a lot of the moms are saying that down the line they dont feel they can take it away. i dont want to be in that position. i like the tv's and pc's to be in obvious areas where abuse is blatently visible! if 1 is being punished they should be forced to amuse themselves away from the others. if the punishment is in their rooms how will it affect the impact of the punishment when they are in their teens?



there will be no change in their routine for the punishment, they just stay holed up in their rooms and dont really feel like they are missing out of anything good with the family.



i am still a no!

Krista - posted on 10/06/2009

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I say no way. They can't control how much they watch, and it's harder for you to control. There's enough issue with obesity and all. They can play in their rooms. My 10 year old isn't getting a tv anytime in the near future. maybe in his own apartment when he gets there. :)

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my daughter is 5 and I allow her to have one in her bedroom, but I control the tv. it is to watch her movies when she has friends over.., but I do have satelite on it also, for Disney and Nick channels... But like I said, I control the tv... she knows she isnt allowed to turn channels on it.... and we havent had a problem

Shari - posted on 10/06/2009

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My son is 6yrs old & has a T.V. bigger then the one I have in my room in his! As long as it's off when it's time for bed I see no reason why not :)

Patricia - posted on 10/06/2009

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Honestly, I would say no. The moment there is a tv in the room there is more room to make exceptions and let them watch more often then planned. My kids have also asked and I have and will continue to say no. They are allowed to watch tv on the weekends as long as their chores and homework are done. Otherwise, no tv during the week. I think it is easier to keep the tv away from them. As they get older, it gets more difficult. The parents I know with older children are happy now that they didn't succomb to their childrens' pleas and nagging. Once they get older then I think it may be fine.Hope that helps.

Donna - posted on 10/06/2009

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Our teenager has a TV which is no hooked up to cable so he only uses it for watching movies occasionally and no video games. The younger son (6 yrs) would like to have one in his room but with 3 TVs in the house we don't see it necessary. The only time our kids watch TV is when it's raining outside.

Jamie - posted on 10/06/2009

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my son has has his own tv since he was a yr old,maybe younger.it's up to the parent.as long as they aren't on it too much. mine get 3 hours a day,sometimes more,sometimes less.

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the answer to that is NO...they have enough to occupy them and we prefer them to be social and not in their rooms away from everyone else...we have 2 tv's they can watch and that is enough.

Diana - posted on 10/05/2009

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My kids all have tv's in their rooms. That way they can watch age appropriate things on their tv's while hubby and I watch ours. Also, I do my college work in the living room, so a lot of times it is not practical for them to watch tv in the living room with us.

Irena - posted on 10/05/2009

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My daughter is 4.5yrs,she had the TV in her room since she was 3,DVD only,and she has sooooo many DVD's but I don't see any problems with that coz she usually doesn't watch her TV that much time a day,she gets tired of it in an hr or so and she goes off to play with something else,or she comes to me or husband and bugs us anyway.We have Nintendo DS too,she got into it when she was 3yrs and saw it from her older cousins,but again I don't see her abusing it coz she gets tired of it rather quickly.DS comes very good if u r travelling on the airplane long distance,it's good amusement for her.Look as long as u have limits or like me u see that kids don't abuse it,it's fine.These are internet and technology times,the kids grow up with it,it is different than when we were kids but I accept it.

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Brandy - posted on 10/05/2009

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My son is 10 and I allow him to have a TV in his roon he is not one that will just sit and watch TV he usually just watches a little Tv before bed to wind down alittle He lays down for bed at 9 and watches TV from 9 to 9:30 then the TV goes out and it is bed time there has never been a problem with him having a TV hope this helps you

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My kids, who are 6 and 8, have one in their room. But it's an old model, so they can only watch DVDs on it.

Dora - posted on 10/05/2009

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well both of my kids have tv's in their rooms. They can only watch tv once homework is done and have taken a bath for the evening.

Julie - posted on 10/05/2009

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my 2 girls have a tv in their room but they are not allowed to watch it during the week only on Friday and Saturday nights

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I'm definitely in the minority here, but my three kids will not ever have TVs in their rooms. We allowed our oldest (now 22) to do this, and it was basically the end of his participation with the family other than meals. He holed up in his room to do homework, talk on the phone, and watch TV. This was despite having us set limits on it; at some point, it just did not work. My husband and I both agree that the TV in his room was the worst parenting mistake we made. Of course, your mileage may vary.

Gifty - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting smyrna:

I watch my shows (DVR) during the day when the kids are in school or at night when they are in bed. My kids (10, 7 & 5yrs) tend to watch the same shows. The only issue I have is my 10yr old & 7yr old fight over who holds the remote. So, I just get the remote from them and change it to the music channel or turn it off.


Mine are the same age, only I always change it to the news channel of turn it off.

Edwina - posted on 10/05/2009

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like I said its how u as parents make and apply the rules. For the last 11 years every night at 06:30 the family has supper together no tv program or any other programme is allowed to interfere with that. We have a family session twice a week where we just sit and laugh and talk sweet nothings. Saturdays and sundays the tv's hardly go on cause its family time on the beach if its raining we take them tenpin bowling or undervocer putt-putt. If we have to be inbound I can get them age appropriate movies to watch in the comfort of his room. Yes again my son has a tv in his room but it has never controlled him or my household.

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I dont see the benefit. as is you have to pry kids away from a pc. giving them a tv in their room means they would hardly ever even sit side by side with their siblings and parents. i dont understand why a parent would even go to the expense of buying a tv for a childs rooms if they are going to impose rules like "no tv during the week". surely there are more important things to spend money on that would provide greater benefit for the whole family and will build relationships (e.g. ping pong tables/pool tables/tennis gear/etc...)



my kids share a communal tv in our lounge. they have specific rules for sharing and choosing shows that the youngest can also watch or watch what you choose after her bedtime. i have a tv in my room because i am disabled but the kids often join me in the room to watch shows like amazing race and survivor.



it works for us. my kids (ages 15, 13, and 9) will never have tv's in their rooms. they have their own money but are saving for overseas visits so they know the value of every cent in their accounts.



like i said... no tvs in the kids rooms work for us...

Edwina - posted on 10/05/2009

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My son (10) has a tv in his room, in fact he had it since forever. It has never been a pain, he hardly watches it, but does play his playstation on it. He knows what to watch and switches it off at 8pm without being asked. I think its merely how the foundation is laid, we have set ground rules that was instilled since they could walk and talk and they abide by them. He enjoys spending time with us and on a rainy day or when Im off I get them movies to watch so I can get some me time otherwise they all over me. If you make rules, stick to them they grow knowing what is expected of them and what is wrong. If u stick to it even they will guide their friends when having sleepovers without you having to remind him.

Oh and for the record his very active, he plays club hockey, soccer and cricket and is doing great at school, his been top three since he started his school career.

How much we allow will have an influence and impact. Parents should be in control.

Jodi - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Sandra:

but i can almost imagine that your tv likes are not the same as the kids and vice versa... what happens if there is more than one thing on that you both want to watch at the same time?



It's called sharing and compromise, and is a great lesson for children to learn :)

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