How do we get him to do homework?

Therese - posted on 12/13/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Jaden has been lying about not having homework. The teacher has taken away all recesses and we have taken away all privileges. He is still lying and not bringing homework home. What do we do now?

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Shannon - posted on 01/08/2013

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Does your child's school have a website? We have the same issue with a young 9th grader now (started at 14...the other kids are turning 16 before summer) and we have the luxury of what they call Grade-Speed here, I can log on and see everything assigned by every teacher, every day and when it is due and I went to the school and got a set of books. When he comes home, I ask...HOMEWORK? "Not today, did it in homeroom". HA! Nope, sit down! And I make him sit in the kitchen while I cook dinner until it's done. I look it over and only then may he go outside or use the phone, etc.

I feel like a spy sometimes, but we must continue to prove that we, as mothers, DO have eyes everywhere AND on the back of our head!

Deanna - posted on 01/13/2013

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I think taking away recesses is wrong as they just get into more trouble because they haven't had the time to blow off steam. It also segregates them and makes him hate school more. Just because he doesn't like homework doesn't mean he hates school.
With my son we started an agenda. He writes his homework in it and the teacher checks it at the end of each day and signs it. I check it each night, sign it and send it back. Lets both your son and thier teacher know you are on top of it and gives both of you a chance to communicate. We also bought a math workbook. If the homework or the agenda doesn't come home he does a few sheets in his workbook. Either way he is doing work at home so he might as well do his homework because then it is done. You just need to outsmart the child.

Sophia - posted on 01/09/2013

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I explain to my kids that school is their job. I have to work ...I dont want...they have to do their homework even if they dont wont to.... I need to keep my job they need to do well in school. and I really recognize all their hard work... and I tell friends / family on the phone just to let them hear me talking about them.

Patricia - posted on 12/18/2012

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Find what motivates him and take it away until he starts getting his act together with his school work. I went through this with each if my three boys.

Mandy - posted on 12/18/2012

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Sorry you are dealing with this! I also was dealing with this from the beginning of 2nd grade (in August) till about the first week of November. My son would bring his homework home only sometimes. Other times he would bring it home, completely finish it, but would not turn it in the next day. He would also tell me things like " the teacher didn't give HW today because..." or "I accidentally left it in my desk again, I will bring it tomorrow" or "I don't know what happened to it" I use to get a full range of excuses. I decided to call his teacher & me, my husband, his teacher & my son all sat down together and talked about what is going on. The teacher told both me & my son that he should be getting homework every single day except for Friday. He told her "I know" as he shrugged because at this point he knew that I knew he was lying. We sat with the teacher for about an hour and once we got home...he said "I had no idea you talked to my teacher all the time & that you know I was lying." Ever since that day he brings his homework home & turns it in. There has been maybe once or twice when he has not brought homework home and when I asked why he was very honest about why he didn't bring it. I am pleased with the result...I would have a conversation with the teacher...sit down together with Jaden present. See if you can go to the class right after school and help Jaden bring his homework home. Often times children don't like school or don't do things accordingly because they are uncomfortable about something. It could be that he doesn't like the students around him? he dislikes his teacher? It can be the simplest thing that sets him off...like he didn't enjoy the snack he had at recess. Kids work in different ways...and you should try different things that work for Jaden & you. Sorry you are going through this...I totally understand how it feels and whats the worst part is my son is at risk of retention because he didn't turn in so much HW...and the funny thing is he knows all of the stuff that he missed out on and would be doing perfectly fine had he brought home his HW and turned it back in. Best of luck!

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Deanna - posted on 01/13/2013

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I think taking away recesses is wrong as they just get into more trouble because they haven't had the time to blow off steam. It also segregates them and makes him hate school more. Just because he doesn't like homework doesn't mean he hates school.
With my son we started an agenda. He writes his homework in it and the teacher checks it at the end of each day and signs it. I check it each night, sign it and send it back. Lets both your son and thier teacher know you are on top of it and gives both of you a chance to communicate. We also bought a math workbook. If the homework or the agenda doesn't come home he does a few sheets in his workbook. Either way he is doing work at home so he might as well do his homework because then it is done. You just need to outsmart the child.

Patricia - posted on 12/13/2012

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Well there has got to be a reason why he hates school. I would suggest meeting up with his Teacher. Maybe he doesn't like the teacher? Problems with kids? Maybe he is actually bored? Too difficult work? I would keep digging until you find an answer so you can solve this.



I know with my Husband it was because he was so bored in school. He would leave his homework in his desk. Finally his parents had a conference with the teacher and they all shook their heads. back then they didn't think much about gifted students. He made it thru though with lots of coaxing and help.

Patricia - posted on 12/13/2012

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Have you asked him why he is doing this? There has to be some reasoning behind it.

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