how do you get a reluctant 4yr old to get out of pull ups ready for school in september??

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Desiree - posted on 02/27/2010

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what I have had to do with all of my girls was just take them away give them some big girl panties and hide the pull ups. at bed time pull out what you need when little eyes aren't looking and it will come. I am in the middle of the same probiblem with my 2 and a half year old. with all of them I started around 2 and a half and none of them were done till after they were three. It takes time and a lot of laundrey but be patent.

Judy - posted on 02/23/2010

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My son is also 4 and will start school in the fall, I was starting to freak out because I think he is ready for school in every way, just refused to stop wearing pull-ups. I was on vacation about a month ago and decided it was time. I took all pull-ups away and my son wore underwear that he picked out, we have had a handful of accidents, but now he enjoys knowing that he can go on his own.

Lara - posted on 02/23/2010

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This worked for me with all my boys...I don't know if you are referring to a girl or boy; it matters. I got my boys to finally get out of pull-ups for school (daycare) by letting them watch some cowboy and Indian movies. After it was over I pointed out to them how the cowboys and indians didnt wear pull-ups...they pottied in the bushes! YES, I let me boys run outback, we have a privacy fence, and potty "like the indians and cowboys" sans the pull-ups. We threw them in the garbage and never dealt with it again. When it was time to go to school, we made a 'deal' that nobody would know about how we potty outside and to use the toilet at school. This worked and as they came home exhausted from a long day they just used the potty afterall.

Daisha - posted on 02/23/2010

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is the 4 year old excited about school? my youngest daughter was still in pull ups getting close to kindergarten and we finally told she wouldn't be allowed to go to school unless she became a "big girl" and quit needing them ...... worked like a charm

Nicole - posted on 02/23/2010

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Try underwear with the plastic pants over them. My son did not like to wetness and was using the toilet in no time.

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One word, consistancy. Don't give up! I told my last one that I was going to by her new underwear (Dora) but not until she started using the potty like a big girl. She loved Dora so much, she really wanted new big girl panties.

Cheraki - posted on 02/21/2010

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First things first...Stop buying them...But regualr panties or underwear and tell your child is a big boy/girl and they don't need pullups... Let them know that pullups are for children learning to go potty so they don't have accidents in thier big boy/girl undergarments...

I personally never bought pullups for my children...If you sit down and take a pull up and feel it with your hands.. then imagine what it feels like on your childs bottom.... feels like a diaper even by feeling with your hand... Only difference is a diaper had velcro... and pull ups are step in with tear away sides...

Does your child potty in the pull up? Or does your child continously go to the toliet instead?

Good Luck and Best Wishes

Jo - posted on 02/21/2010

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when i toilet trained my daughter(4) i got her to pick out of a catalogue a toy that she really wanted and made a reward chart and put it on the toilet door. She had to go to the toilet/potty over 4 weeks and she put stars on the chart herself. After 4 weeks and some accidents she got her toy and ive never looked back. im about to try the same with my 2 1/2 yr old. Hope this is helpful and good luck.

Shelley - posted on 02/21/2010

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My children are teens now, but when we trained them this is what I did. We had no daytime diapers and they wore underwear. We played outside almost all of the time so that accidents were not a big deal for anyone. I did a fair amount of laundry but found out that my kids didn't want to feel wet and wanted to go to the potty. I also remember that they did not want to go on the commercially made potty seats. They would put their little seats on the toilette and go. We have lots of positive reinforcement comments when the toilette was used, and when there were accidents just cleaned up as quick as possible and never gave the kids heck for peeing in their pants. Best of luck to you. I remember what my grandmother said, and I consider her an authority on this issue since she has 20 children. They will all be trained by kindergarten, don't worry.

Sue - posted on 02/21/2010

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Had the same problem and my DDs pediatrician suggested buying a little reward such as a toy that she really wanted [not expensive just something small] and tell her that if she goes potty for several days in a row that she can have it. Then once that initial stage is out the way after say a week of no or very few accidents let her go choose a toy. Within a week my DD was using a small potty, within another week she was asking to go to the bathroom when out and after a week of that she would not use the small potty but insisted on using the "big peoples potty" as she used to call it. I was stunned at the result after all the trouble we had.

The initial toy you buy had to be put out of reach but in full sight so she could see it all the time.

Kym - posted on 02/20/2010

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tell him he is a big boy and he is going to school and dont buy any more pullups maybe hope this helps

Rose - posted on 02/20/2010

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I just took the pull ups away also. Eventually they wont like wetting thier pants and they will go.

Diane - posted on 02/20/2010

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im not a fan of pull ups i think it just adds another step in the toilet training journey, accidents are inveitable when toilet training, once you accept that and expect it then take the pull ups away , allow your 4yr old to choose "cool" undies for "big kids" ( buy lots lol) then you allow your child to experience "accidents" and how they arent a big deal then one day there will be no more accidents oh joy lol good luck

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i didnt give my 4 year old son a choice. (i had tried that in the past, and it didnt work...) so i just took the pull ups away. threw them out, and that was the end of it. he had a couple accidents after that, but after about 2 days, he was fine. ive never had any problems with him going at night, or anything like that. good luck!

Jamon - posted on 02/19/2010

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You don't they have to see other kids their age doing it. Then they will want to on their own.

Emilie - posted on 02/19/2010

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September is still a while away, you have plenty of time to work with her. Also I knew a girl that didn't want to give up pull ups because they were "pretty". She didn't have any panties that she really liked. Maybe you can try to let her pick out her own panties, and tell her that she can only wear them if she goes to the toilet, that she can't mess up her new pretty panties.

Rebecca - posted on 02/19/2010

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I had the same problem with my daughter (13 yrs) when she was about to start kindergarden. I told her she was a big girl and the pullups had to go . She was going to big girl school. She thought about it and she gave them up. Now we had a couple of accidents and she was upset but I told her it was ok cause mommy had accidents too.

Just be patient it will happen.

Christi - posted on 02/19/2010

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My twins (7yr./girls) did the same thing. I finally just let it go and stopped putting pressure on myself about it. Cause, you know, it wasn't up to me. It was something they had to decide on their own. So, I told them that they couldn't start school unless they had started going to the toilet at least during the day. I explained that it was okay if they had accidents at night and that they could wear a pull up at night time. Well, they still wouldn't both go to the bathroom at the same period of time. It's like they would take turns going back and forth. I'd think,"finally", but as soon as the other one started too, the first one (who had been going to the bathroom, without fail, for 2 weeks) would start wetting herself again. Heres the secret of their success - the teacher! Here we have "Meet the Teacher" day, which takes place about 2 to 3 weeks before school starts. Well, I took them and told them that I didn't know why we were going, because when the teacher found out they wouldn't go to the bathroom, she wouldn't let them start school. I wasn't fibbing either. We got there and the subject finally came up and she told them the same thing. Before we walked out she said," It's only 2 weeks until school starts, so if you want to be in my class, you'll start going to the restroom ,instead of your pants, today. That way, by then, it'll be as easy to remember as playing, talking, & eating". In just a few days, they were both going to the bathroom............ The same things hardly ever work for a different child,(probably why they had so much trouble). It's usually a good idea, though, to bring in a non-parent when all else fails.

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