How Do You Handle Homework/Test Battles With Your Children?

Michelle - posted on 12/08/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son is in third grade and he is definitely not doing as well as he should be doing. Every time he gets a test back where the score is not as high as it should be I try to go over the test with him to "teach" him the questions he got wrong. Unfortunately, when I try to do that he gets very angry and doesn't want to listen to anything I have to say.



Any advice?

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Danielle - posted on 07/28/2011

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I don't know if you have an iPhone or iPad, but I think the key is definitely making it fun for the child.. there are apps like Spell Tutor (http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/spelltuto...) that make the test like a game and when they feel like they are playing a game, it's fun to them and they will retain it more.. Plus if he gets it wrong, he won't get mad at you! lol

Michelle - posted on 12/10/2008

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That's a good tactic to pretend I don't know what he got wrong and to have him help me find the right answer. I will have to try it since there was another screaming battle tonight with him in tears when I pointed out he had the wrong answers on his homework.

Angel - posted on 12/10/2008

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Just a little side note after reading all of the posts. Something fun for the kiddos to try is spellingcity.com. You can get your child's teacher to join or do it yourself but it is something that allows them to be independent while having fun studying. My daughter loves it.

Linda - posted on 12/10/2008

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I am in the same boat with you. My son is also in 3rd grade. He doesn't have much homework. One page of math, one work sheet for reading and a spelling contract. I personally love the spelling contract. He usually has between 10 to 15 spelling words. The contract is homework to do everynight and turn in on Friday. It is a list of things he can do (each thing worth 10, 15, 20 or 25 points). He picks out the things he wants to do as long as they add up to atleast 100 points. Examples: Write a poem using all the spelling words. Write a letter to someone using all the spelling word. These are 25 points each. Write sentences or defintion for each spelling word. These are 20 points each. Write spelling words 5 times each or put each spelling word into a different shape. (draw a rectangle and write a larger word in the middle of it or put a smaller word in a triangle.) Worth 15 points. Write spelling words 3 times each is worth 10 points. The list has several other options to chose from. It just makes it fun for the kids to make up their own mind on what to do. When the child gets to do as they like, it makes learning it easier because they think it is fun.

Eloise - posted on 12/10/2008

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Hi i have a 13 yr old girl, not sure how that equates to your childs age, but i find that she isnt as clever as she should be.... well according to her test result and class standings etc. But when my partner helps her with her homework.. he asks her what she doesnt understnad and we always get the same answer "i dont get any of it" but when he starts going over everything he has been taught, in a way she understands, she starts to say.. yeah i get it now, and then we get to the stage where she is trying to guess what the next part of the answer is going to be... because we dont pressurise her, if she gets it wrong she just laughs at it. I suggest just having a laugh with your son and going over everything you know... if there is a point that he should know then pretend you dont know the answer and ask them to work it out with you. I'm not going to guarantee it works but its worth a try hope it helps

Michelle - posted on 12/10/2008

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Thanks for the tips! Glad to hear that your daughter is doing much better this year. It really is a huge transistion from second to third grade.

Angel - posted on 12/09/2008

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My daughter had the same problem last year (she was in 3rd grade as well). It is a hard year for kiddos. They don't fit into K-2 or 4-5 grades. It was a year of transition for my daughter. The teacher did give study guides and if I thought she knew the material and she didn't "read the directions" then she had to redo the test at home. I stayed on her the whole year because of her attitude about it all. She is doing awesome this year. Just be consistent and give him lots of encouragement.

Crystal - posted on 12/09/2008

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My daughter is in the fourth grade and we were having the low test score issues too. I found out what works best for her is to use the the study guide the teacher sends home(if they don't provide one ask for one) to make practice a test, I have my daughter do the practice test each night with homework leading up to test day. The first night letting her use the study guide and the rest of the week just using a word guide for filling in the blanks. We have seen great improvement and she is not as nervous on test day. We also do this with spelling test too.

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