How far is too far in playing dress up?

Margaret - posted on 05/29/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 7 yo daughter is dying to go to a place that puts heavy, sparkly make up on little girls and lets them dress up in sparkly, Brittney Spears-type costumes and dance around. I just don't know. There's a part of me that is really repelled by the idea. I want her to be a strong woman who realizes her worth is not in being eye candy. But I know my upbringing was stricter than a lot of mothers my age and I wonder if there is any harm in a little fantasy dress up.

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Angie - posted on 05/30/2010

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I totally understand where you're coming from. I won't let my daughters dress up like this either. In fact, I won't let them listen to music by Brittney Spears or most main stream artists. I think the more they listen to and act like these people now, the more they will want to be like them later. Maybe I'm sheltering my children, but I don't want to take the chance of them choosing bad role models. Instead of those type costumes, try taking her to Goodwill or Salvation Army and picking out a few dress up items from the clothes on the rack. It's a lot less expensive and requires her to use her imagination more than a store bought item. Keep with it, Mom, you're on the right track!

Margaret - posted on 05/30/2010

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Thanks, Jessie and Kerry. The place is on my way home from work, so I can check it out first. My husband and I were appalled to see a little girl made up and dressed up like a hoochie mama at a local restaurant. I thought maybe she was celebrating her dance recital, but now I wonder if she'd just been to this place. If we do go, I will tell MDD that we are not going anywhere else and she will wash it off as soon as we get home.

Kerry - posted on 05/30/2010

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hi, i can understand where you are coming from, i think maybe if you can go to this place without your daughter and just check it out, and get a feel for the place, that might put your mind as ease and you can then make an informed decision that you are comfortable with rather than just saying yes or no and regretting it later.
I hope this helps x

Jessie - posted on 05/29/2010

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i think as long as they are inside and not going out in public like that then it is ok, but it is sickening to see all these little girls going to school and walking around stores dressed....well like hookers... and ppl wonder why there is such an increase in unspeakable things going on, we as a society are sexualizing our daughters younger and younger all one needs to do is look at Halloween costumes for 7-8 yr olds. but inside it is ok, and as long you install the right values that it is not appropriate to go out like that I don't see the problem

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